For those of you whose parents divorced when you were 20+, if one of your parents started a second

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Anonymous wrote:Because it's going to go badly. The kids will be spoiled and entitled. The new wife wants to pretend she didn't marry an old man with baggage, but she did, and she's going to resent the time he spends with his original children and, eventually, his grandchildren. She might not get to have as many of her own kids as she wanted. The older he gets, the more she'll hate what she chose for herself, because she'll have to do most of the parenting as well as deal with his aging, and a long widowhood starts to seem like a real thing. It's not an easy thing for a wife.

She also wants to have authority over wife #1’s kids.

Yes. And she wants them to show up and do a command performance of Happy Family, but not for too long, and never need help with anything. And they have to pretend to care about her relatives sometimes, and love the baby, and accept that their father just isn't going to be much of a grandfather because he's too busy keeping his wife happy so he doesn't end up with another divorce.

This literary describes my uncles 3rd wife to a tee.

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Anonymous wrote:This makes me wonder, is it possible to legally negotiate inheritance for one's kids during the divorce process? Could save them some of this down the road if

Greedy first wives...

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, why not be happy for them. How is it affecting you?

It affects you because you are very rarely still treated as your parent's child. They are focused on a toddler and you're "all grown up". Men are not good with this.

How does it not:
-additional heirs to your dad's estate, reducing your future share
-future estate also reduced by the education, college and overall cost of those children-- this affects grandchildren too since there will be more of them
-possible total disinheritance if the 2nd wive comes sole heir after he passes
-kids who may have better lives than you ever did bc he is wealthier now and also more available
-reduced loyalty since you are "done"
-dividing up the holidays
-stigma and reduced ability to attract desirable mate since one's parents are no longer married to each other
-graduations and weddings become occasions where you have to keep mom and step mom away from each other

It truly sucks.

Wow, it may suck, but you deserve it. If you are concerned about your "reduced ability...", look at the mirror. The reason for that reduced ability will be staring at you.

Really? You seriously think people don’t take into account whether or not someone has divorced parents when deciding whether to marry them?

They should definitely take into account whether someone is a greedy, envious and judgemental as$hole. In this case they wouldn't even get to the parents part.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

Are you mental... do you understand that new kids have just as much right?

Don’t have new kids.

And why should we not? When you have them it's ok. Moron

Because dad already had a family.

No he was divorced and wanted more kids

Did he want them though? Or did he agree to it so that he could have the new wife?

My DH was the one wanted them. In fact he wants more. He is 46

He’s 46 with kids in their 20’s…

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The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

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Anonymous wrote:This makes me wonder, is it possible to legally negotiate inheritance for one's kids during the divorce process? Could save them some of this down the road if

Greedy first wives...

You can negotiate almost anything but a man who is attracted to younger women and thinks he wants to marry wouldn’t agree to it.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

Are you mental... do you understand that new kids have just as much right?

Don’t have new kids.

And why should we not? When you have them it's ok. Moron

Because dad already had a family.

No he was divorced and wanted more kids

Did he want them though? Or did he agree to it so that he could have the new wife?

My DH was the one wanted them. In fact he wants more. He is 46

He’s 46 with kids in their 20’s…

Yes every heard of having kids in your 20's

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Anonymous wrote:This makes me wonder, is it possible to legally negotiate inheritance for one's kids during the divorce process? Could save them some of this down the road if

Greedy first wives...

How is it greedy to want to take care of your kids? Isn't that being a good parent?

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Anonymous wrote:This makes me wonder, is it possible to legally negotiate inheritance for one's kids during the divorce process? Could save them some of this down the road if

Greedy first wives...

Our estate is in a family trust. He can not remove the current resources from the trust without my say so.

The only resource not in the trust is his new house which he bought with money after the divorce and won’t be paid off until he is 80.

The trust states the only people who can get money from the trust are heirs from our joint children and nobody born outside our marriage can be given money from the trust.

He can earn new money and create an account or get a separate life insurance.

Interest from the current money in the trust stays in the trust.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

Are you mental... do you understand that new kids have just as much right?

Don’t have new kids.

And why should we not? When you have them it's ok. Moron

Because dad already had a family.

No he was divorced and wanted more kids

Did he want them though? Or did he agree to it so that he could have the new wife?

My DH was the one wanted them. In fact he wants more. He is 46

He’s 46 with kids in their 20’s…

Yes every heard of having kids in your 20's

Yes my cousins in Altoona PA.

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Anonymous wrote:This makes me wonder, is it possible to legally negotiate inheritance for one's kids during the divorce process? Could save them some of this down the road if

Greedy first wives...

You can negotiate almost anything but a man who is attracted to younger women and thinks he wants to marry wouldn’t agree to it.

You should have this all figured out during the marriage not the divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

Are you mental... do you understand that new kids have just as much right?

Don’t have new kids.

And why should we not? When you have them it's ok. Moron

Because dad already had a family.

No he was divorced and wanted more kids

Did he want them though? Or did he agree to it so that he could have the new wife?

My DH was the one wanted them. In fact he wants more. He is 46

That is what they tell their new wives.