Posting child’s acceptance to an elite school on social media. Too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why the only people that follow me are people that are my family (cousins, aunts/uncles, siblings, parents and 5-10 very close long term friends). We are genuinely happy to hear each others news and kids and adult successes. There is no jealousy. I love to see it.

I get so many friend requests ftom neighbors, acquaintances and newer friends that I ignore because I don’t want people that aren’t very close to me and my family following and making judgements.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So for those that think this is insensitive or tacky, where do you draw the line?

OK to post a pic of kid accepting certificate for honor roll?
OK to post about pregnancy?
OK to post about a kid winning a major sporting event?
OK to post about a nice vacation?

As others have said, I just don't see how this is fundamentally different than 75% of what everybody posts on SM...

The first and last are tacky! For sporting events if it is team then it isn’t tacky- there are others involved. If you are always posting about what a Star athlete your kid is then yes-tacky. If it is a one off thing about how proud of them you are for trying a new sport then no. For vacation it can be very tacky to post pics of the fam at an extravagant hotel, etc -tasteless and showy! A picture of your smiling faces while hiking (could be in South America or something cool) or in the ocean, of course not. Kids playing on the beach are cute—posts about how proud you are that the life guard said they are the best beach goers ever—not so much. It is not just the what but how things are posted and shared. Would you post if you or your SO (or grown child) got a job and link to the description where it shows the nice six figure salary? Of course not!
And yes 75 percent of what people post on SM is tacky because it seems these days the vast majority of people are, especially those who opt to be on SM.

So if my child plays singles tennis or gymnastics and we prefer to spend our vacation budget at "extravagant hotels" I just don't get to post vacations and accomplishments? But if my neighbor's kid plays soccer and they drop 45K on a trek to Machu Picchu, they get to post?

Obviously the above was making a general point through some silly examples. You are taking it way too literally. Clearly some things people post are tacky.

Maybe, but I am doing so because I want to understand where the line is. What do you see as "tacky" and bragging as opposed to "acceptable" sharing of life and accomplishments?

Is it OK to post about my kid's gymnastics accomplishments?
Is it OK for me to post pics from my vacation to a nice resort?

Maybe it matters the overall tone of the words I use?

Why are you asking an internet stranger what you can post? Who is this lady, and who authorized her to authorize Internet Stranger Permission Slips? Post whatever you want, and tell her to suck your nutz if she doesn't like it.

Suck nutz?

[Anonymous]

NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

[Anonymous]

I love the way that losers are so afraid of achievement they need safe spaces from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

How much merit money was offered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

So you are allowed to judge others but others are not allowed to judge you?

[Anonymous]

My kids (all As) would be so embarrassed if I posted grades.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. People should post anything they want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

So you are allowed to judge others but others are not allowed to judge you?

Just being honest. I think most would agree posting multiple acceptances with details on merit scholarships is over the top and warrants judging.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

How much merit money was offered?

I would want to know how much as well. See, this is actually useful and hard-to-get data for other people who are considering the schools, unlike mundane expressions of pride or photos of swag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

Social media's purpose? to make those who own the companies money... It was never developed for the social good. It uses you and the time you spend on it to make other people money.

[Anonymous]

The point of the original thread was discussing a situation in which a person in a very small school community broadcasts that their child got into an elite school that others likely did not, a few days after decisions have come out, knowing (but obviously not thinking about) the other kids/families in their grade who have also spent the past months going through the same process but have not been as lucky. It is in bad taste to act in this manner. Be excited for your kid, yes. Write note of thanks to the teachers, ect, of course. Broadcast it on facebook saying how amazing your kid is with a link to the school, no. This is just common sense if you have ever been in a small k-8 school community, as I think a PP who works in one said above, and makes whoever did this look bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the way that losers are so afraid of achievement they need safe spaces from it.

I love the way those who clearly were not raised to understand modesty think everyone else must be jealous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

Social media's purpose? to make those who own the companies money... It was never developed for the social good. It uses you and the time you spend on it to make other people money.

This, and this alone. It’s adorable how many seem to think it’s all about sharing good news so that everyone you’ve ever met can feel genuinely happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The point of the original thread was discussing a situation in which a person in a very small school community broadcasts that their child got into an elite school that others likely did not, a few days after decisions have come out, knowing (but obviously not thinking about) the other kids/families in their grade who have also spent the past months going through the same process but have not been as lucky. It is in bad taste to act in this manner. Be excited for your kid, yes. Write note of thanks to the teachers, ect, of course. Broadcast it on facebook saying how amazing your kid is with a link to the school, no. This is just common sense if you have ever been in a small k-8 school community, as I think a PP who works in one said above, and makes whoever did this look bad.

I'm just not sure the distinction in the bolded. A child may attend a small school, but likely those parents only make up only a tiny portion of the SM feed. Basically you are saying that you shouldn't post anything that any follower might be sensitive about.....that would include other academic achievements, travel, weddings, pregnancies, college admissions....