Posting child’s acceptance to an elite school on social media. Too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

Are you trying to be an influencer??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

It's something a friend said TO ME. She was wondering why no one cares about her posts about her beach house. I explained why. Not sure why the follow up comments to this indicate a fundamental lack of reading comprehension, but here we go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

I have noticed that people love these kind of posts. But, I am one of the 5% who can't relate and don't have anything to to share about the down and dirty of parenting because my teen is ridiculously easygoing and has always been an easy kid. Not that my life is easy...we have health issues, I have a disabled relative to care for, which is also a financial strain, I have constant stress from parents and in-laws. I don't post about any of these downers so people don't know. My kid is like the silver lining in the clouds and I only have positive things to say about her. It kind of sucks that bragging about the one best thing in our lives will turn people off.

Right, but there's a difference in someone bragging about an easygoing teen, and poking fun at it. "Larla got into all the top privates, and we just don't know what to do!" is different than, "As usual, we asked Larla where she wanted to go to dinner and she shrugged. And that's how we ended up at Chick Fil-A again."

First one, zzzz. Second one, hilarious. Same kid, different take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Omg we are down to counting how many likes we get! How old are you?

Me you're quoting. And if you could read this correctly, you would know that it was said to me. Not something I said or noticed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

I have noticed that people love these kind of posts. But, I am one of the 5% who can't relate and don't have anything to to share about the down and dirty of parenting because my teen is ridiculously easygoing and has always been an easy kid. Not that my life is easy...we have health issues, I have a disabled relative to care for, which is also a financial strain, I have constant stress from parents and in-laws. I don't post about any of these downers so people don't know. My kid is like the silver lining in the clouds and I only have positive things to say about her. It kind of sucks that bragging about the one best thing in our lives will turn people off.

Right, but there's a difference in someone bragging about an easygoing teen, and poking fun at it. "Larla got into all the top privates, and we just don't know what to do!" is different than, "As usual, we asked Larla where she wanted to go to dinner and she shrugged. And that's how we ended up at Chick Fil-A again."

First one, zzzz. Second one, hilarious. Same kid, different take.

The second one is boring and dull. Who cares you went to Chick-fil-A.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

It's something a friend said TO ME. She was wondering why no one cares about her posts about her beach house. I explained why. Not sure why the follow up comments to this indicate a fundamental lack of reading comprehension, but here we go.

You also talk about engagement and likes for your posts. Who cares about this stuff? Engagement with your Karen BFFs. You and your friends should get jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be forgiving of this. I can understand why she is excited her kid got into a first choice school. They have been hoping and waiting for months and are so excited and she is understandably proud of her kid. I felt the same way about my 8th grader's acceptance into a private school. I texted family and a few friends but did not post on social media because I figured it wasn't a good idea since other kids might not be going where they want.

However, a friend of mine just told me her kid got accepted to an Ivy early decision. I was thrilled for her and was surprised she hadn't said anything over social media because it was such exciting news--a much bigger deal than my kid getting into a private school. But now that I think about it I understand why.

You shouldn't be expected to keep this stuff off of social media forever though. Eventually I want to know what my distant friends' kids are up to and where they are going next year.

It sounds like this post came across as boastful or braggy. My guess is that it was a braggy post. I am proud of my kids but don’t really post about their accolades because they earned them, not me. My first graduated last year and won academic awards. They are at a top tier University that people in DC do the double back “oh” when they hear the name. I eventually posted a family graduation photo with my child but didn’t list all their honors. My kid didn’t list them all either. The people they are close to and who love them know. I just don’t need everyone who has ever followed me on Facebook or Instagram to know.

Finally, it does sound like this person’s instagram post may have been insensitive. When my kid went through this several years ago at a small K-8, all the kids were aware that while some kids were thrilled, some were really disappointed. None of the kids bragged. A few parents did and their kids told them to stop. Smart kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

If only it were possible to “be happy” about something without running to social media to beg for attention about it.

Oh wait. Good news! It is.

Keep your happy thoughts to yourselves!

Or, you know, tell your best friend, your sibling and/or the kid’s parents, like an adult instead of an attention-starved child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

I have noticed that people love these kind of posts. But, I am one of the 5% who can't relate and don't have anything to to share about the down and dirty of parenting because my teen is ridiculously easygoing and has always been an easy kid. Not that my life is easy...we have health issues, I have a disabled relative to care for, which is also a financial strain, I have constant stress from parents and in-laws. I don't post about any of these downers so people don't know. My kid is like the silver lining in the clouds and I only have positive things to say about her. It kind of sucks that bragging about the one best thing in our lives will turn people off.

Right, but there's a difference in someone bragging about an easygoing teen, and poking fun at it. "Larla got into all the top privates, and we just don't know what to do!" is different than, "As usual, we asked Larla where she wanted to go to dinner and she shrugged. And that's how we ended up at Chick Fil-A again."

First one, zzzz. Second one, hilarious. Same kid, different take.

The second one is boring and dull. Who cares you went to Chick-fil-A.

Hilarious? You’ve taken your CBD gummies early tonight. Neither post is hilarious. No one cares! Live your life unencumbered by social media and “engagement” with your 15 mom friends on Facebook. Social media is horrible says every study ever done on the topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People post vacation at Disney World all the time. Clearly now everyone can afford a $10k vacation either. The fact that you all are doubting when it’s okay to post and when it’s not okay means there are some people on here that really shouldn’t be on social media. This thread has gone off the rails. OP, unfriend your friend and step away from SM.

We were on vacation in the caribbean staying at a really nice hotel because it was off season and we go a great rate. We saw so many people posing in front of boats, including yachts, and hotels that they were not staying at. I just don’t believe everything I see on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the way that losers are so afraid of achievement they need safe spaces from it.

I love how up the insecure braggarts lie to themselves that people laughing at their absurd attention-seeking behavior is “jealousy” or “being afraid of achievement.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this whole thread disturbing. Where your child is going to high school or college is normal information to be shared with "friends" on Facebook or life. Since when did it become good manners to hide achievement of your children? Are we going to stop awarding medals at the Olympics or having a Nobel prize ceremony since it will trigger the other competitors?

I am only still on Facebook since that is how some family members update the rest of the family on news. At this point I only post a couple times a year.

Besides which, having experience with private schools as a parent- by leaving off social media and only telling your close friends you are excluding the nonconnected parents. Who are going to find out anyway- because kids talk.

And you think that’s a problem exactly why again?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

I have noticed that people love these kind of posts. But, I am one of the 5% who can't relate and don't have anything to to share about the down and dirty of parenting because my teen is ridiculously easygoing and has always been an easy kid. Not that my life is easy...we have health issues, I have a disabled relative to care for, which is also a financial strain, I have constant stress from parents and in-laws. I don't post about any of these downers so people don't know. My kid is like the silver lining in the clouds and I only have positive things to say about her. It kind of sucks that bragging about the one best thing in our lives will turn people off.

Yes, bragging is a negative behavior and will turn people off. Not sure why some people persist in doing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here
Thanks for the reality check that it isn’t just me that finds this tacky… I agree sharing this sort of news is for family and real friends only. Oh well, as PP said add it to the list…

You're jealous.

Nope, but keep telling yourself that. We know it’s how you cope.