Posting child’s acceptance to an elite school on social media. Too much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get off social media, it attracts the worst behaviors.

SM is a toxic social cancer cesspool devoid of any meaningful value.

This right here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The point of the original thread was discussing a situation in which a person in a very small school community broadcasts that their child got into an elite school that others likely did not, a few days after decisions have come out, knowing (but obviously not thinking about) the other kids/families in their grade who have also spent the past months going through the same process but have not been as lucky. It is in bad taste to act in this manner. Be excited for your kid, yes. Write note of thanks to the teachers, ect, of course. Broadcast it on facebook saying how amazing your kid is with a link to the school, no. This is just common sense if you have ever been in a small k-8 school community, as I think a PP who works in one said above, and makes whoever did this look bad.

I'm just not sure the distinction in the bolded. A child may attend a small school, but likely those parents only make up only a tiny portion of the SM feed. Basically you are saying that you shouldn't post anything that any follower might be sensitive about.....that would include other academic achievements, travel, weddings, pregnancies, college admissions....

You have likely not been a part of this sort of community if you don't get the bolded. I am the OP and this community does have a lot of parents who have known each other for years and do follow each other on SM. The graduating class of 8th graders is under 40 students. After reading so many of these replies- I am surprised this post generated so many- I think much of what surprised me, and what I found in bad taste, was the way it was written, the linking to the school and the timing of this "broadcast of acceptance". The person posting it knowing full well that many other parents from their current school would see it. It was definitely in poor taste, especially after I have heard how difficult this past admissions cycle was for many students. Oh well. Everyone has the right to be tacky if they want to be, it is a free country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The point of the original thread was discussing a situation in which a person in a very small school community broadcasts that their child got into an elite school that others likely did not, a few days after decisions have come out, knowing (but obviously not thinking about) the other kids/families in their grade who have also spent the past months going through the same process but have not been as lucky. It is in bad taste to act in this manner. Be excited for your kid, yes. Write note of thanks to the teachers, ect, of course. Broadcast it on facebook saying how amazing your kid is with a link to the school, no. This is just common sense if you have ever been in a small k-8 school community, as I think a PP who works in one said above, and makes whoever did this look bad.

I'm just not sure the distinction in the bolded. A child may attend a small school, but likely those parents only make up only a tiny portion of the SM feed. Basically you are saying that you shouldn't post anything that any follower might be sensitive about.....that would include other academic achievements, travel, weddings, pregnancies, college admissions....

You have likely not been a part of this sort of community if you don't get the bolded. I am the OP and this community does have a lot of parents who have known each other for years and do follow each other on SM. The graduating class of 8th graders is under 40 students. After reading so many of these replies- I am surprised this post generated so many- I think much of what surprised me, and what I found in bad taste, was the way it was written, the linking to the school and the timing of this "broadcast of acceptance". The person posting it knowing full well that many other parents from their current school would see it. It was definitely in poor taste, especially after I have heard how difficult this past admissions cycle was for many students. Oh well. Everyone has the right to be tacky if they want to be, it is a free country.

But how is this different from all sorts of other small cohorts? A "moms group", a travel sports team, etc. Should we all not post about a pregnancy or an athletic scholarship because people in that same cohort may be striving for the same and not get it?

I would assume that people have a lot more than 40 followers on social media feeds.

[Anonymous]

Oh please, just do it if you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I am trying to understand, though, what the purpose is of social media? To me, it serves many purposes, one of which is to brag about our kids. You can always unfriend or unfollow if those posts trigger you.

I post infrequently, but it is usually about my kids. It might be, acceptance to daughter's first choice school, her performance in the school musical, my son's acceptance to a top 20 university, other exciting stuff he did in college. I also post photos from trips, and of my backyard in the spring after planting.

Things I don't post: report card grades, details about illnesses, memes, photos of food. Many of my friends post this stuff, but I don't judge them. You shouldn't judge me.

There was only one time I was really triggered. A "friend" posted multiple times about each and every school her kid was accepted to (high school) and the merit money that was offered. There had to be 4 or 5 schools. It was so over the top and the posts about the scholarship money was too much. Then she posted the school her daughter decided to attend and made a huge deal of it. So, yes, I did judge her.

How much merit money was offered?

I would want to know how much as well. See, this is actually useful and hard-to-get data for other people who are considering the schools, unlike mundane expressions of pride or photos of swag.

I have heard of people getting full rides. Not yet anyone this year, but in the past I’ve heard it.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. Social media is for sharing what you want to share with others. You can scroll right on by if you don't like what someone shares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. Social media is for sharing what you want to share with others. You can scroll right on by if you don't like what someone shares

+100

[Anonymous]

Not sure why you're still on social media if you're bothered by people bragging.

[Anonymous]

I find this whole thread disturbing. Where your child is going to high school or college is normal information to be shared with "friends" on Facebook or life. Since when did it become good manners to hide achievement of your children? Are we going to stop awarding medals at the Olympics or having a Nobel prize ceremony since it will trigger the other competitors?

I am only still on Facebook since that is how some family members update the rest of the family on news. At this point I only post a couple times a year.

Besides which, having experience with private schools as a parent- by leaving off social media and only telling your close friends you are excluding the nonconnected parents. Who are going to find out anyway- because kids talk.

[Anonymous]

So trashy and classless. Bunch of spoiled insanely materialistic rich children riding the coattails of their parents' hard work and sacrifice.

Part of the reason why my child will never attend a DC area private school. As an "elite" private school grad, the culture has changed tremendously over the years. Don't want my children around the children of those types of parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So trashy and classless. Bunch of spoiled insanely materialistic rich children riding the coattails of their parents' hard work and sacrifice.

Part of the reason why my child will never attend a DC area private school. As an "elite" private school grad, the culture has changed tremendously over the years. Don't want my children around the children of those types of parents.

Are you talking about the parent making the post, or the kid who got admitted? If the latter, how would you make that assumption? Actually, if the former, how would you make that assumption?

[Anonymous]

Posting news of acceptance is a bit much, but not a big deal. The OP caring enough to start a thread to crowd source her feelings is a bit much too. As is the 8+ pages of commentary. you all are a bit much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So trashy and classless. Bunch of spoiled insanely materialistic rich children riding the coattails of their parents' hard work and sacrifice.

Part of the reason why my child will never attend a DC area private school. As an "elite" private school grad, the culture has changed tremendously over the years. Don't want my children around the children of those types of parents.

Are you talking about the parent making the post, or the kid who got admitted? If the latter, how would you make that assumption? Actually, if the former, how would you make that assumption?

Parent making post. Because I've seen a couple of these social media posts and know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posting news of acceptance is a bit much, but not a big deal. The OP caring enough to start a thread to crowd source her feelings is a bit much too. As is the 8+ pages of commentary. you all are a bit much.

Yes. The actions of the parent who posted said a lot about them.

The overreaction to those actions also says a lot.

[Anonymous]

After a young age, I never posted anything about my kids. They care. If they want to post about themselves, it is up to them.