Posting child’s acceptance to an elite school on social media. Too much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

It's something a friend said TO ME. She was wondering why no one cares about her posts about her beach house. I explained why. Not sure why the follow up comments to this indicate a fundamental lack of reading comprehension, but here we go.

+1,000. The lack of reading comprehension is because it’s DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

I have noticed that people love these kind of posts. But, I am one of the 5% who can't relate and don't have anything to to share about the down and dirty of parenting because my teen is ridiculously easygoing and has always been an easy kid. Not that my life is easy...we have health issues, I have a disabled relative to care for, which is also a financial strain, I have constant stress from parents and in-laws. I don't post about any of these downers so people don't know. My kid is like the silver lining in the clouds and I only have positive things to say about her. It kind of sucks that bragging about the one best thing in our lives will turn people off.

Right, but there's a difference in someone bragging about an easygoing teen, and poking fun at it. "Larla got into all the top privates, and we just don't know what to do!" is different than, "As usual, we asked Larla where she wanted to go to dinner and she shrugged. And that's how we ended up at Chick Fil-A again."

First one, zzzz. Second one, hilarious. Same kid, different take.

The second one is boring and dull. Who cares you went to Chick-fil-A.

Good, you’re getting there! Now apply that same principle to the first one, in its patently ridiculous, attention-begging wording.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

If only it were possible to “be happy” about something without running to social media to beg for attention about it.

Oh wait. Good news! It is.

Keep your happy thoughts to yourselves!

Or, you know, tell your best friend, your sibling and/or the kid’s parents, like an adult instead of an attention-starved child.

I sure hope you’re not on social media at all or this is the most hypocritical statement ever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who once said, "Whenever I post something I get 2 likes, when you post you get 60 comments." I said you need to look at what you post. It's all bragging: "Look at our beach house." "My kid got into fancy private school."

I post things people can relate to. The down and dirty of parenting.

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy when people don't acknowledge these braggy posts. It's that those posts are usually only applicable to 5% of your friend group. If you want engagement, you have to appeal to the other 95% of your friend group. Otherwise, you can use it as a place to log your family wins, but at best, people won't acknowledge or care. At worst, you'll drive many people away.

Not trying to be rude [I’m about to be rude]… who the f cares about these things?? Engagement?! Discussing likes? I feel like this comment has been transported from a dorm in 2005.

It's something a friend said TO ME. She was wondering why no one cares about her posts about her beach house. I explained why. Not sure why the follow up comments to this indicate a fundamental lack of reading comprehension, but here we go.

You also talk about engagement and likes for your posts. Who cares about this stuff? Engagement with your Karen BFFs. You and your friends should get jobs.

You really seem to have a problem with reading comprehension... maybe you never got into a private school. lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

+1 send congratulations. If this isn’t something they normally do, then congratulate them.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

If only it were possible to “be happy” about something without running to social media to beg for attention about it.

Oh wait. Good news! It is.

Keep your happy thoughts to yourselves!

Or, you know, tell your best friend, your sibling and/or the kid’s parents, like an adult instead of an attention-starved child.

I sure hope you’re not on social media at all or this is the most hypocritical statement ever!

No worries.

[Anonymous]

What is considered an elite school? Does that mean any school where the tuition is more than $40,000 per year. Those are elite prices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is considered an elite school? Does that mean any school where the tuition is more than $40,000 per year. Those are elite prices.

I would lower this figure considerably. Even most middle class families would not be able to afford even half of this amount per child, per year.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, tack-o-riffick

[Anonymous]

I think people who find this tacky or insensitive also project their insecurities onto how others should interact with the world.

In short, you do your thing, I do my thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is considered an elite school? Does that mean any school where the tuition is more than $40,000 per year. Those are elite prices.

I would lower this figure considerably. Even most middle class families would not be able to afford even half of this amount per child, per year.

I think that’s the object. It’s not for middle class, OP said “elite”.

[Anonymous]

If you cannot stand elite, stay off my social media feeds.

[Anonymous]

It’s perfectly fine. And you should tag the school. They will either re-post it or if it’s done within a story, they can share your story on their page, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot stand elite, stay off my social media feeds.

HAHAHA. Your insecurity is showing. You should tuck that away before anyone sees.

[Anonymous]

Totally ok. That family spent a ton of money working connections and making "gifts" to the school. This is part of the reward.