Posting child’s acceptance to an elite school on social media. Too much?

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Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

Not really connected through. Of course they should be happy but bragging is a different thing altogether

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Seems I’m tacky. Or proud. If people don’t like it, unfriend or ignore me. Judgment and/or jealousy masked as class is tacky IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

Not really connected through. Of course they should be happy but bragging is a different thing altogether

That logic results in “as long as you are happy about it, sharing it isn’t tacky/gross/insensitive etc”

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Why is everyone so riled up about this? I lurk on Facebook and rarely post, but at least half of what's in my feed probably annoys someone. People are braggy and insensitive about all sorts of things. Just wait until the college admissions results start pouring in. If you think something is obnoxious, keep scrolling or laugh about it with your SO (probably what I should have done here I suppose).

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I would be forgiving of this. I can understand why she is excited her kid got into a first choice school. They have been hoping and waiting for months and are so excited and she is understandably proud of her kid. I felt the same way about my 8th grader's acceptance into a private school. I texted family and a few friends but did not post on social media because I figured it wasn't a good idea since other kids might not be going where they want.

However, a friend of mine just told me her kid got accepted to an Ivy early decision. I was thrilled for her and was surprised she hadn't said anything over social media because it was such exciting news--a much bigger deal than my kid getting into a private school. But now that I think about it I understand why.

You shouldn't be expected to keep this stuff off of social media forever though. Eventually I want to know what my distant friends' kids are up to and where they are going next year.

[Anonymous]

This is not something I'd post because I don't post much; however, isn't this what social media is for? I'd rather see this than someone's rant about a random topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems I’m tacky. Or proud. If people don’t like it, unfriend or ignore me. Judgment and/or jealousy masked as class is tacky IMO.

You are both.

And you have already adopted one of the prime expensive private school parent responses: You must be jealous. Sorry your kid wasn’t admitted.

You will do well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone so riled up about this? I lurk on Facebook and rarely post, but at least half of what's in my feed probably annoys someone. People are braggy and insensitive about all sorts of things. Just wait until the college admissions results start pouring in. If you think something is obnoxious, keep scrolling or laugh about it with your SO (probably what I should have done here I suppose).

I think it is different in this case because the OP said they are in a small community of kids who have all been through the grueling process of applying to high schools in dmv. It these were kids posting their own messages as a high school senior about getting into X university’s wouldn’t think twice, but actually a lot of kids don’t do that who go to elite schools because it is showy. I’m any case, the parent in question was obviously happy and feeling proud but it isn’t something most people in those sorts of communities would do.

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It is tacky. But I am someone who likes seeing parents who are proud of their kid's achievements.

I think I'd react different if it was a Kindergartener because admission has nothing to do with them but if it was a 9th grader I would probably just be happy for the family.

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Anonymous wrote:Hell, I didn't even post on FB when my son got into Yale. Nobody cares about high school.

Love this. OP, it is tacky to post an announcement about where your kid is going to high school or college. It is their news, not yours.

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We didn’t do it when DD got into our first choice for her for K. Tacky.

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I would be thankful they put it out there so I know they are douchebags and to avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Allow people to be happy for a few minutes.

This is a beautiful & mature thought.

+1 send congratulations. If this isn’t something they normally do, then congratulate them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be forgiving of this. I can understand why she is excited her kid got into a first choice school. They have been hoping and waiting for months and are so excited and she is understandably proud of her kid. I felt the same way about my 8th grader's acceptance into a private school. I texted family and a few friends but did not post on social media because I figured it wasn't a good idea since other kids might not be going where they want.

However, a friend of mine just told me her kid got accepted to an Ivy early decision. I was thrilled for her and was surprised she hadn't said anything over social media because it was such exciting news--a much bigger deal than my kid getting into a private school. But now that I think about it I understand why.

You shouldn't be expected to keep this stuff off of social media forever though. Eventually I want to know what my distant friends' kids are up to and where they are going next year.

I agree that eventually people will know where your kid goes to school, although I don’t personally share that on SM for safety and privacy reasons, however it is tacky to broadcast it in the way described. Different if the kid did it themselves but they would probably find that embarrassing, for good reason.

[Anonymous]

You are all way too sensitive and insecure. Say "Congratulations!" and move on. Roll your eyes in private, if you must. You don't need to spend a lot of time worrying about whether something is tacky or not.