PreK teacher recommending redshirting my son

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t count on holding him back if he has problems. Most schools won’t even consider this. Not to add pressure but unless you change from public to private that isn’t going to be an option. So you have to get it right now.

As to what to do, I’d consult others who have worked with your child for their opinions. It’s not a big deal to red shirt but if your kid needs it and you don’t, that’s a big deal.

We had a June birthday "should-we-send-him-or-not" kid who was exhibiting some special needs and started him at a private K, both for the gentler introduction/smaller class size and for the increased emphasis on foundational skills. The theory was that if the year worked out badly, we'd send him to public K the next year. He did very well - better than expected - and next year we transferred him to first grade in public.

We did this too. The school environment is important. Years later it was clearly the right choice to move the child on and not hold back.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

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I’d send that kid on time for sure. And then I’d look at the daycare teacher like she’s crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:It is a church affiliated preschool. They tend to lean towards holding summer unless the kid is obviously advanced or bigger.

She also said he wouldn’t be able to handle the extended day option which is a full day (an hour shorter than elementary school) and he’s doing well in it with the longer time. We just started in the spring.

So, simple solution. Switch him to a 9-3 preschool now so he gets used to it. He'll do great. He's right on target, not behind.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

Lol! You really need to just deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

And? So what? If you have any evidence that this is some huge tragedy, let us know.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

And? So what? If you have any evidence that this is some huge tragedy, let us know.

+1. This poster is unhinged.

[Anonymous]

You of course should send him. He is academically, socially and emotionally ready; and if the physical side matters to you he is larger than the average child his age. And you have ALREADY red shirted him if he is 5 and not even in kindergarten yet!!!

This red shirting trend is so, so weird to me. And double red shirting a neurotypical child with no delays or behavioral issues? Cannot wait to hear how parenting goes for you when you are trying to manage your son finishing high school when he is already 19 as a senior!

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When she says he has a baby voice, is she saying he has a speech issue? Is his speech clear to other adults? Does he need a speech evaluation?

Based on your take there's no reason to wait on K, and maybe the school is just pro-redshirting, but teachers rarely come right out and suggest holding back--almost never, in my experience, even when you ask. Has the teacher ever flagged delays or suggested he needs some support outside of school?

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NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

Sounds like her son is four and will turn five this May. So if she sends him to K on time, he will turn 6 in May of his K year. But she is considering redshirting, in which case he would be 5 for his prek year and 6 for his K year, turning 7 at the tail end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

Well, because OP is likely an anti-redshirting troll who wasn’t getting enough traction in the private school thread.

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I haven’t read all replies but May is not late. I have sons with late June and late July bdays (started on time) and doing fine. Neither is even youngest in the class. I never endorse age alone as a sole reason to hold a child back. If there were real reasons (behavioral, social, etc) but there do not seem to be here.

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DC had a friend at private school (preschool through kinder), teacher said the friend’s not ready to 1st grade after kinder, so the mom transferred kid to public kinder to repeat another year of kinder.