13 year old is CRAZY when PMSing and we cannot handle -- what do we do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back.

I'm not going to reply anymore to this thread.

No one sane is reading it.

I already said I spoke to the Gyn and they won't see her unless we do that first.

And you don't see your gyn just because you get your period. I asked!

You are super judgemental but yes you are the victim it someone is committing physical violence against you.

Yes, OP, when numerous people are telling you that you're doing things wrong, it's because they're not sane, and has nothing to do with you.

Your daughter has had issues related to her period for more than a year, and you haven't taken her to the OBGYN yet, but it's other who just don't understand. And you're the vistim.

That poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you talked to her doctor? If this behavior is triggered by her cycle, it sounds like there’s something medical - hormonal(?) that may need treatment.

+1

PMDD is a thing that exists.

It is! Take her to the doctor, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op back.

Okay, I spoke the gyn.

They will not see her until we try this:

Max amount of Advil/Motrin from the second she starts her period (NOT when pain starts).

I didn't understand all the medical language the gyn used but basically Advil DOES stop the hormones somehow.

When I said that pediatrician didn't explain this AT ALL (told us to use Advil *for* pain), Gyn said Ped wouldn't know.

She still has therapist appt on Tuesday because that can't hurt (Gyn agreed).

And even Gyn said NOT to use BCP as "answer". It's sick to put girls on hormones/meds like that -- no one would do that to a boy.

And f anyone who just dismisses me as a "poor parent". What a load of BS. I'm the one who's been dealing with the violence as a victim for the past 18 months, who has done everything in her power. I didn't just drop her off at a fire department or punish her. Stop with the mom blaming. It's such a sick part of society. No one would blame the dad who just walks away, goes to the office, and leaves me with this insanity.

First, your daughter has had her period for more than a year and hasn't been to the OBGYN yet?

Second, the fact that you continually refer to yourself as the victim in this situation when yoru daughter is suffering from a medical or mental health crisis and you have allowed it to go on this long without even beginning to get her help really proves that you are a bad parent, and a moderately terrible person overall.

+2

[Anonymous]

Has she been assessed for sleep apnea? Adding in the hormones can make sleep worse. Again I’d take her to a doctor bc it could be anything

[Anonymous]

OP you are horrible. You've ALLOWED your poor child to experience this for 18 freaking months! WTF. Literally WTF. If that happened twice in our house you can bet I would be at the doctor (multiple if needed) and get that poor child HELP. Never would I consider tossing her out of my home. She's my child and my responsibility. If I don't know how to help how is she supposed to know how to help herself? She's a young teenager.

Sheesh OP. I know you feel attacked, but you've really dropped the ball on this one. I cannot believe you've let it gone on in your home this long. Insanity. All your poor children. I hope none of the others have any problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back.

I'm not going to reply anymore to this thread.

No one sane is reading it.

I already said I spoke to the Gyn and they won't see her unless we do that first.

And you don't see your gyn just because you get your period. I asked!

You are super judgemental but yes you are the victim it someone is committing physical violence against you.

OP I am reading this and I am sane. Do you spend a lot of time here? If you did you’d know how very rare this level of consensus is. Please get help for your child instead of throwing her away. You should have acted on this more than a year ago. And maybe take that therapy appointment for yourself or for the both of you to deal with this.
- NP, one whose kid has committed physical violence against her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back.

Okay, I spoke the gyn.

They will not see her until we try this:

Max amount of Advil/Motrin from the second she starts her period (NOT when pain starts).

I didn't understand all the medical language the gyn used but basically Advil DOES stop the hormones somehow.

When I said that pediatrician didn't explain this AT ALL (told us to use Advil *for* pain), Gyn said Ped wouldn't know.

She still has therapist appt on Tuesday because that can't hurt (Gyn agreed).

And even Gyn said NOT to use BCP as "answer". It's sick to put girls on hormones/meds like that -- no one would do that to a boy.

And f anyone who just dismisses me as a "poor parent". What a load of BS. I'm the one who's been dealing with the violence as a victim for the past 18 months, who has done everything in her power. I didn't just drop her off at a fire department or punish her. Stop with the mom blaming. It's such a sick part of society. No one would blame the dad who just walks away, goes to the office, and leaves me with this insanity.

And this is why you need to be seeing a PSYCHIATRIST. Advil isn’t going to doing anything to help her. It blocks prostaglandin production which is responsible for uterine contraction and cramps. It doesn’t help crazy.

[Anonymous]

Send her to live with someone else. Do her a favor.

She needs a full physical and mental health evaluation.

[Anonymous]

If sleeping in helps, just…let her stay home one day a month and report as sick. It won’t always even be a school day. I hope this is a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Physician here. I have no clue about the correct medical path for your daughter, but I would find a pmdd specialist and go from there. Pmdd was classified as a dsm v disorder (mental disorder), which means that we don’t understand the physiological underpinnings yet. Psychiatrist who specializes in pmdd is your best bet. Ped or gyn won’t have as much experience with this.

[Anonymous]

Before you go about thinking boarding school is a gift, I have a good friend who was sent to boarding school after her mom died when she was 13. She’s felt abandonment and anxiety issues for decades because of this choice her father made to let someone else take care of the trauma and problem. Sending your daughter to boarding school is not going to solve her underlying medical issues, and likely, if it’s as bad as you say it is, they’ll send her right back to you, or they’ll send her directly to a contained psychiatric facility. You don’t want that kind of traumatic experience on your hands, OP.

[Anonymous]

Can we agree this is a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we agree this is a troll?

Sadly it’s not. Women think tfat if other women have a different experience other than their own they are wimps, or lack control, or making it up, or soiled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Physician here. I have no clue about the correct medical path for your daughter, but I would find a pmdd specialist and go from there. Pmdd was classified as a dsm v disorder (mental disorder), which means that we don’t understand the physiological underpinnings yet. Psychiatrist who specializes in pmdd is your best bet. Ped or gyn won’t have as much experience with this.

Thank you. Op this makes sense, please do this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back.

I'm not going to reply anymore to this thread.

No one sane is reading it.

I already said I spoke to the Gyn and they won't see her unless we do that first.

And you don't see your gyn just because you get your period. I asked!

You are super judgemental but yes you are the victim it someone is committing physical violence against you.

Why on earth would you be bringing her to your gynecologist/OB?

You should be bringing her to a gynecologist that specializes in adolescents... ie; a gynecologist that's on the younger side, and isn't THAT far removed from remembering what it was like when she went through it.

She's not gong to open up to her mom's gynecologist, as she'll be afraid she'll go back and tell you everything they talked about.

I have 3 daughters who are 14, 16 & 18, and never once did I think to have them see my gynecologist/OB.
Their gynecologist is in her late 20's and is far more relatable to them than mine would be.