Would you leave a toddler with a nanny overnight for 5 days?

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s asking for too much. You need a second person the spell her.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly? I think these replies are crazy. I’m in Manhattan where nanny culture is very prevalent, and I’m fairly sure that most of the people we know have left their children with their nanny for long weekends or even a week. Most have gone (gasp!) internationally too.

We have left our toddler with her beloved nanny on four separate occasions ranging from 3-5 days. They have all included much longer flying travel than what you’re proposing.

Your child is not neglected if you take time for yourself and enjoy your marriage. You pay your nanny time and a half and provide money for them to attend fun events, go to lunch and you give them carte Blanche to order food as needed. I really don’t see the problem.

Oh well if they do it in Manhattan then it must be the most sophisticated thing one can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly? I think these replies are crazy. I’m in Manhattan where nanny culture is very prevalent, and I’m fairly sure that most of the people we know have left their children with their nanny for long weekends or even a week. Most have gone (gasp!) internationally too.

We have left our toddler with her beloved nanny on four separate occasions ranging from 3-5 days. They have all included much longer flying travel than what you’re proposing.

Your child is not neglected if you take time for yourself and enjoy your marriage. You pay your nanny time and a half and provide money for them to attend fun events, go to lunch and you give them carte Blanche to order food as needed. I really don’t see the problem.

Well that explains a lot about rich NYC kids I’ve known over the years. Horrifying!

[Anonymous]

Nope. Never. We are leaving two of my older children with my mom (nanny is coming during the day) for 48 hours while we attend a friends wedding 6 hours away with our newborn and I left my oldest with my mom for 36 hours when she was 18 months when my husband and I went to Florida.

[Anonymous]

Isn't there a bunch of Nanny Forums? Check the to of your monitor.

[Anonymous]

These replies are insanely dramatic. I think if you controlled for people who actually have a nanny the replies would be much more balanced. Virtually everyone I know has left their kids under 2/3 for at least a few nights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These replies are insanely dramatic. I think if you controlled for people who actually have a nanny the replies would be much more balanced. Virtually everyone I know has left their kids under 2/3 for at least a few nights.

I’ve had nannies since my eldest was 10 months and I don’t think any of these replies are “insanely dramatic.” Except maybe yours…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These replies are insanely dramatic. I think if you controlled for people who actually have a nanny the replies would be much more balanced. Virtually everyone I know has left their kids under 2/3 for at least a few nights.

I’ve had nannies since my eldest was 10 months and I don’t think any of these replies are “insanely dramatic.” Except maybe yours…[/quote

Yes, PPs calling OP the worst mom on DCUM and saying leaving your kids is child abuse…not dramatic whatsoever

[Anonymous]

If you’ve never left you child over night, start with 1 night away.

I would not leave an 18 month old in the care of someone else for 5 nights unless I had no other choice.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. In 5 days your nanny could totally disappear with your child and you'd never know.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

I had nannies for 14 years and would not do this. I think this is just a different level of trust. I wouldn’t be there in a year or employment.
My brother has done it but they had the same nanny for 18 years. I’m not sure he did it when the kids were that young but definitely by the time they were preschoolers. He also had family within an hour drive so if there was an emergency we could do backup.

[Anonymous]

No---child is too young and it is too long.

A day or two I would say yes.

[Anonymous]

Everyone does what works for their families. A child being too young or the number of nights away being too long is subjective. I'm a working nanny of 20 years and have done this for employers before and have never had an issue. Love the extra pay too.