Would you leave a toddler with a nanny overnight for 5 days?

[Anonymous]

Ethically, I would if they were a longtime trusted nanny. Practically, the pay situation would make it unfeasible. Most nannies are hourly or get some kind of OT pay. That number of overnights would add up $$$-wise.

I would prefer grandparents or aunt/uncle for that length of time but would be 100% fine with the situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These replies are insanely dramatic. I think if you controlled for people who actually have a nanny the replies would be much more balanced. Virtually everyone I know has left their kids under 2/3 for at least a few nights.

I’ve had nannies since my eldest was 10 months and I don’t think any of these replies are “insanely dramatic.” Except maybe yours…

Yes, PPs calling OP the worst mom on DCUM and saying leaving your kids is child abuse…not dramatic whatsoever

I mean it sounds like you’re in the running for “worst mom” so I see why you’re offended to see someone else get the title!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly? I think these replies are crazy. I’m in Manhattan where nanny culture is very prevalent, and I’m fairly sure that most of the people we know have left their children with their nanny for long weekends or even a week. Most have gone (gasp!) internationally too.

We have left our toddler with her beloved nanny on four separate occasions ranging from 3-5 days. They have all included much longer flying travel than what you’re proposing.

Your child is not neglected if you take time for yourself and enjoy your marriage. You pay your nanny time and a half and provide money for them to attend fun events, go to lunch and you give them carte Blanche to order food as needed. I really don’t see the problem.

Well that explains a lot about rich NYC kids I’ve known over the years. Horrifying!

It really does! These kids are always a mess and it’s not surprising since they were neglected during their childhood.

[Anonymous]

No. Never.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think some of the judgmental comments are coming from jealous moms who can't afford a nanny.

Lol. I'm the former SAHM who posted above about watching her kid alone for a week. I now have a nanny. DC adores her and she is incredible. I still would not leave DC alone with her for 5 days.

Sounds like a personal insecurity.

[Anonymous]

You guys make these same threads every few months.

And people fall for it every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These replies are insanely dramatic. I think if you controlled for people who actually have a nanny the replies would be much more balanced. Virtually everyone I know has left their kids under 2/3 for at least a few nights.

I’ve had nannies since my eldest was 10 months and I don’t think any of these replies are “insanely dramatic.” Except maybe yours…

Yes, PPs calling OP the worst mom on DCUM and saying leaving your kids is child abuse…not dramatic whatsoever

I mean it sounds like you’re in the running for “worst mom” so I see why you’re offended to see someone else get the title!

Your life must be pretty sad if you find it worthwhile to say cruel things to strangers on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some of the judgmental comments are coming from jealous moms who can't afford a nanny.

Lol. I'm the former SAHM who posted above about watching her kid alone for a week. I now have a nanny. DC adores her and she is incredible. I still would not leave DC alone with her for 5 days.

Sounds like a personal insecurity.

What does that even mean? I just think a) it would be hard on nanny b) it would be stupid expensive and c) I would miss my kid and my kid would miss me and be too young to understand where I am or when I’m coming back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. In 5 days your nanny could totally disappear with your child and you'd never know.

How does this not apply to your spouse or partner as well? In 5 days your spouse could go nuts and pull a Sean Goldman or an Elian Gonzalez and you'd never know until you got back. You think you know someone until you don't, nannies or spouses or friends. So maybe you should never leave your child alone for one second, ever?

[Anonymous]

“I don’t feel like I know her well.” Well there is your answer. Would you entrust someone you don’t know very well with the most important, irreplaceable, precious, and extremely vulnerable thing in your life for 5 days with basically zero ability to do anything if something goes wrong and zero oversight? I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t feel like I know her well.” Well there is your answer. Would you entrust someone you don’t know very well with the most important, irreplaceable, precious, and extremely vulnerable thing in your life for 5 days with basically zero ability to do anything if something goes wrong and zero oversight? I wouldn’t.

Bc this is a troll