Is 58 too old for 38?

[Anonymous]

No.

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Anonymous wrote:I think 58 and 38 is more easily done than 70 and 50. Or even 65 and 45. People’s energy levels go down significantly, and even a “high energy” 65 year old is not on the same plane as a 45 year old. There’s no way I’d go for this as a long-term thing personally.

BUT I get it, love is powerful. If you’re okay with sacrificing for the man you love in a few years, go for it. But realize it will be a difficult road and it wouldn’t be fair to resent him!

When my 82-year-old uncle got a pacemaker put in, his energy levels returned to those he had when he was 40.

I’m sure your uncle is a lovely, sprightly man for his age. But, bullsh*t!

This uncle still works, at an outdoor, semi-physical job. He's about 6'3", worth between $5 million and $10 million, he has a beautiful beach house and a huge house in the suburbs. His wife died over 20 years ago. He does his own housework and cooking and the house is immaculate and his cooking is fantastic (my kids love going there). He recently rebuilt and restored some kind of 1960s car. He is definitely a unicorn.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

What? Where does one find a written runs about such things. That is ridiculous.


This poster should consider whether she wants to slow down before she is ready, because she and her husband are in different places (energy-wise). And of course, she is in line to have to nurse him, when she is fit and wants to be working, traveling etc.

I suspect he has more money than her, or she would not even be considering him!

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Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

What? Where does one find a written runs about such things. That is ridiculous.


This poster should consider whether she wants to slow down before she is ready, because she and her husband are in different places (energy-wise). And of course, she is in line to have to nurse him, when she is fit and wants to be working, traveling etc.

I suspect he has more money than her, or she would not even be considering him!

Op here. I like him for the reasons I previously stated.

How disgusting of you to essentially call me a gold digger and to assume that I can't have money of my own.

My concerns are that he's been married before and has a daughter .

I have no interest in being married ever.

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Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.

I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.

You have issues with aging and each reply proves that.

I don’t think you can read.

I think you have a blind spot. Your every post is how young you are and anyone over 45 is decrepit.

I never said that. I said I can date younger without dealing with other’s kids. It is easier. Also, most women traditionally date older due to money. I don’t need a man’s money. I can date my age or younger because I have that option and it is easier. I never said over 45 is decrepit. You are projecting your own issues.

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Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.

I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.

You have issues with aging and each reply proves that.

I don’t think you can read.

I think you have a blind spot. Your every post is how young you are and anyone over 45 is decrepit.

I never said that. I said I can date younger without dealing with other’s kids. It is easier. Also, most women traditionally date older due to money. I don’t need a man’s money. I can date my age or younger because I have that option and it is easier. I never said over 45 is decrepit. You are projecting your own issues.

Pretty sure men in their 30s have kids and some men in their 40s and 50s don't. You flat out said you wouldn't date anyone even 2 years older than you.
And you have no idea why most women do anything.
You have issues. Two of your issues are ageism and misogyny.

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It's ok for old man, but old woman is a no no

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Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

What? Where does one find a written runs about such things. That is ridiculous.


This poster should consider whether she wants to slow down before she is ready, because she and her husband are in different places (energy-wise). And of course, she is in line to have to nurse him, when she is fit and wants to be working, traveling etc.

I suspect he has more money than her, or she would not even be considering him!

Op here. I like him for the reasons I previously stated.

How disgusting of you to essentially call me a gold digger and to assume that I can't have money of my own.

My concerns are that he's been married before and has a daughter .

I have no interest in being married ever.

So what are you looking for, OP? Just sex? The age difference is immaterial then. And it sounds like you don’t want anything serious so who cares? You’ve made a nothing burger over some random guy you met at a dog park.

But a widower who was happily married and has put himself back on the market would likely want marriage again at some point. And the other guy sounds like a dud overall but the sex is good so shouldn’t that be enough? Idk. So the real question is….What do you even want???

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Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

Who made this rule?

+1

In my experience, the formula is this: more than 12 years difference + big ol' daddy issues. Like huge.

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I'm only 12 years older than his daughter ~ I don't think that's a problem
He's widowed and still wears a ring ~ I think that's sweet
But at the same time I don't want to be married ever ~ do not marry him. Not this one

To be honest though, I'm surprised you don't have better options than a man soon turning 60

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I find it predatory quite frankly.

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Anonymous wrote:It's ok for old man, but old woman is a no no

How many times will you post this pp?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it predatory quite frankly.

They are both fully grown adults.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm only 12 years older than his daughter ~ I don't think that's a problem
He's widowed and still wears a ring ~ I think that's sweet
But at the same time I don't want to be married ever ~ do not marry him. Not this one

To be honest though, I'm surprised you don't have better options than a man soon turning 60

She's also dating a 34 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

+1. I’m 39 and trying to wrap my head around being attracted to a 58 year old man. That’s a grandpa. I’m worried about attraction to my husband when he reaches that age (he’s also 39) but I’m hoping the love we have now will carry us through.