Is 58 too old for 38?

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Anonymous wrote:Not too much of a difference

I am newly divorced and finding younger men sensitive, kind, and overall amazing.

So you are dating younger men after divorce but recommending OP to date an older man ?

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keep in mind. Your dating clock is ticking. I know many men in their 50s that only date women in their 20s… finding a guy in his late 30s early 40s it’s going to be tough because they typically like woman in their late 20s or very early 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:keep in mind. Your dating clock is ticking. I know many men in their 50s that only date women in their 20s… finding a guy in his late 30s early 40s it’s going to be tough because they typically like woman in their late 20s or very early 30s.

You incels keep trying it. It would be funny if it weren't so sad

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Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

Who made this rule?

some desperate man?

If you are not looking for anything serious, then why not? Have some fun. But if you want something serious, you definitely need to think long and hard about what kind of future you envision for yourself. You don't want kids to take care of, but you'll end up taking care of an old man.

My DH is 58; I'm 53. We are starting to have some health issues. Also, retirement is going to be an issue. He wants to retire at 62. He can fund his health insurance privately for 3 years until medicare kicks in. I'd have to either continue working while he's retired (mismatch life goals), or pay for private insurance for a good 8 years before I qualify for medicare.

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Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.

I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.

I'm 57 and dating an amazing 23 year old. She just likes older men. She doesn't seem to be into it for the money, and doesn't want to have children.

You are an idiot. A 23 yr old woman is very young to be making this call.

When I was 23, 28, I never thought about kids. I didn't start thinking about them till I was 32.

Also, she may not be "into it for the money", but you can bet that if you were a deadbeat, making minimum wage, she would not be dating you.

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If you click, why not go for it? Try it out. You’ll be middle aged in a few years anyway.

I think it’s sweet that he still wears his late wife’s ring. He must have loved her very much.

I’ve noticed that as we get older, humans diverge greatly in many things, health and fitness being one of them. I’m a 44 year old woman. Some women my age look like they are in their 20s, some look like they are 60. It depends on a lot of factors. Same for men. Some men are in their prime in their 50s. If he’s at a healthy weight, is active, non smoker, non- or moderate drinker, he likely has quite a few good years left in him.

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No

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Anonymous wrote:If you click, why not go for it? Try it out. You’ll be middle aged in a few years anyway.

I think it’s sweet that he still wears his late wife’s ring. He must have loved her very much.

I’ve noticed that as we get older, humans diverge greatly in many things, health and fitness being one of them. I’m a 44 year old woman. Some women my age look like they are in their 20s, some look like they are 60. It depends on a lot of factors. Same for men. Some men are in their prime in their 50s. If he’s at a healthy weight, is active, non smoker, non- or moderate drinker, he likely has quite a few good years left in him.

agree

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Yes. 20 year difference. You will be a nurse.

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I think 58 and 38 is more easily done than 70 and 50. Or even 65 and 45. People’s energy levels go down significantly, and even a “high energy” 65 year old is not on the same plane as a 45 year old. There’s no way I’d go for this as a long-term thing personally.

BUT I get it, love is powerful. If you’re okay with sacrificing for the man you love in a few years, go for it. But realize it will be a difficult road and it wouldn’t be fair to resent him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think 58 and 38 is more easily done than 70 and 50. Or even 65 and 45. People’s energy levels go down significantly, and even a “high energy” 65 year old is not on the same plane as a 45 year old. There’s no way I’d go for this as a long-term thing personally.

BUT I get it, love is powerful. If you’re okay with sacrificing for the man you love in a few years, go for it. But realize it will be a difficult road and it wouldn’t be fair to resent him!

When my 82-year-old uncle got a pacemaker put in, his energy levels returned to those he had when he was 40.

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I don't think it matters now, but give it 10 years when you are 48 and he is 68, then even more difficult when you are 60 and he is 80.

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Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.

I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.

You have issues with aging and each reply proves that.

I don’t think you can read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. 20 year difference. You will be a nurse.

+1 Don’t be stupid

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My mom is 70, I am 44. Can’t imagine sleeping with a 68 yo man that’s old .