Is 58 too old for 38?

[Anonymous]

If you're not serious, why are you concerned? Have fun with whoever you like, OP!

I have nearly that age gap with my husband. Still not concerned.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn’t work for me since my father is exactly 20 years older than I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best relationships I have had were with women 20-30 years younger than me.

I don’t think having multiple “best relationships” is a sign of a life well-lived.

[Anonymous]

No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

Your kinda weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. Studies show that women with significantly older male partners have shortened lifespans. On the other hand, men with much younger female partners have longer lifespans.

A lot of those Civil War widows lived past 100.

[Anonymous]

You’re both at the exact age for your sex when you can’t afford to be too picky. Sounds like a perfect match.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 37 and I definitely would not. I don’t understand why this is so normalized either. What on earth would you have in common?

Op here.
I can't speak for every pairing with the age difference. But for us it's believe it or not a similar upbringing. He's only a few years older than my oldest sibling.
A love of dogs. Similar taste in music. Same charitable activities.

There are things that give me pause like I'm only 12 years older than his daughter.

He's widowed and still wears a ring.


But at the same time I don't want to be married ever.

The bold is more a concern than the 20 year age gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37 and I definitely would not. I don’t understand why this is so normalized either. What on earth would you have in common?

NP I’m dating a man 20+ years older and we have lots in common. We have similar professions and share a hobby (how we met), both like to travel, share the same political views, we both like sports and have similar food tastes. And we’re sexually compatible as well.

[Anonymous]

Think about later in life seeing his old ball$. 😁

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not too old. Rule of thumb is half the older partner's age plus 7 years. 58/2 = 29. 29 + 7 = 36. It's fine. It's kind of May-December, but it's; fine. If you like the guy, go for it. He's probably counting his lucky stars that you're interested.

Dumb and bizarre. Whose rule is this?
He's way too old, OP. Don't waste your time with geriatrics. You are only young once!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do it. And I think you know that you shouldn't do it either, or you wouldn't be asking

[Anonymous]

Too old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

Your kinda weird.

Why? I am not dealing with ED issues (no sex marriage for YEaRS…I am done) and I will not remarry. Even if I did want to remarry, why would I want to risk taking care of someone older than me? No thanks. Additionally, I do not want to deal with a man who has kids and those schedules—I have my own. My youngest is in second grade: I do not need to add kid logistics when dating. There are plenty of late 30s/early 40s men (never married, no kids). There is no reason for me to go older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.

You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.