My wife likes lifetime fitness, but it's costly... We have two gym memberships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why women file for 70% of divorces. Wife just wants to enjoy one thing to herself, for a measly extra $150. And even though they can easily afford it, the stupid husband has to whip himself into a frenzy about it, moan, and complain endlessly. No wonder women just get sick of it and feel like doing their own thing! My God- men are exhausting!

She should earn more money at her job if she wants these types of luxuries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why women file for 70% of divorces. Wife just wants to enjoy one thing to herself, for a measly extra $150. And even though they can easily afford it, the stupid husband has to whip himself into a frenzy about it, moan, and complain endlessly. No wonder women just get sick of it and feel like doing their own thing! My God- men are exhausting!

She should earn more money at her job if she wants these types of luxuries.

Spoken like a true bitter incel. Do you want to end up alone like this clown, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife sounds high maintenance. For one, gym "childcare" is barely that. I wouldn't plop my kids there for 2 hrs everyday. Your kids are old enough that they should be in an enriching preschool at least a few half days per week; they are 2 and 5! She needs to do that instead of relying on crappy gym daycare for a break.

Your wife should work out at the Y and buy a pool membership somewhere in the summer if she hates the Y pool.

You must be going to crappy gyms. The childcare at our gyms is high quality. My kids are playing with other kids and there aren't any screens. They love it so I know I am doing something right. Who has time to drop and pick up your kid from 3 your preschool anyway? I've never toured a preschool that seems enriching. The employees all look miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife sounds high maintenance. For one, gym "childcare" is barely that. I wouldn't plop my kids there for 2 hrs everyday. Your kids are old enough that they should be in an enriching preschool at least a few half days per week; they are 2 and 5! She needs to do that instead of relying on crappy gym daycare for a break.

Your wife should work out at the Y and buy a pool membership somewhere in the summer if she hates the Y pool.

You must be going to crappy gyms. The childcare at our gyms is high quality. My kids are playing with other kids and there aren't any screens. They love it so I know I am doing something right. Who has time to drop and pick up your kid from 3 your preschool anyway? I've never toured a preschool that seems enriching. The employees all look miserable.

In other words you can't afford a pre-school which provides educational value for your kids. Sad. And based on OPs calculations of a $140K income, 2 kids, a SAHM wife, and a $450K mortgage - neither can he.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife sounds high maintenance. For one, gym "childcare" is barely that. I wouldn't plop my kids there for 2 hrs everyday. Your kids are old enough that they should be in an enriching preschool at least a few half days per week; they are 2 and 5! She needs to do that instead of relying on crappy gym daycare for a break.

Your wife should work out at the Y and buy a pool membership somewhere in the summer if she hates the Y pool.

You must be going to crappy gyms. The childcare at our gyms is high quality. My kids are playing with other kids and there aren't any screens. They love it so I know I am doing something right. Who has time to drop and pick up your kid from 3 your preschool anyway? I've never toured a preschool that seems enriching. The employees all look miserable.

In other words you can't afford a pre-school which provides educational value for your kids. Sad. And based on OPs calculations of a $140K income, two kids, a SAHM wife, and a $450K mortgage - neither can he.

They are making the best choices they can afford—no need to shame parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

[Anonymous]

She's even willing to pay for it. What's the problem? He said her salary doesn't go towards household stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

He didn't say the older child used childcare during the weekday mornings. A 5 year old is in kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

His wife does work outside of the home and takes care of her kids. On the one day, her husband isn't working, he needs to break up the day. He sounds like a hypocrite. She found a way to create a village. Being a mom doesn't have to be hardcore.

[Anonymous]

If the gym didn't include childcare, I could see his point but the childcare alone makes it worth it so her child can socialize. Being a stay at home mom mom is depressing. She has found a way around that. Happy wife, happy life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why women file for 70% of divorces. Wife just wants to enjoy one thing to herself, for a measly extra $150. And even though they can easily afford it, the stupid husband has to whip himself into a frenzy about it, moan, and complain endlessly. No wonder women just get sick of it and feel like doing their own thing! My God- men are exhausting!

She should earn more money at her job if she wants these types of luxuries.

The greatest luxury in my husband’s life is that I don’t work full time.

[Anonymous]

You fools are too poor to afford lifetime