My wife likes lifetime fitness, but it's costly... We have two gym memberships

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Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

It’s not “nothing.” It’s the recess part of a preschool day.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

It’s not “nothing.” It’s the recess part of a preschool day.

Preschool recess isn’t 3 hrs. More like 30 min of the 3-4 hours of preschool. Plus in the afternoons her kids are likely napping; at least the 2 yr old is, maybe 5 yr old is in school? But who knows. OP didn’t say if 5 yr old is in K. I’m guessing since he didn’t and was pretty specific that the 5 yr old is a young 5 and not in school yet

If you can’t afford preschool you can’t afford 2 gym memberships. Seems like displaces priorities

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Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

It’s not “nothing.” It’s the recess part of a preschool day.

Preschool recess isn’t 3 hrs. More like 30 min of the 3-4 hours of preschool. Plus in the afternoons her kids are likely napping; at least the 2 yr old is, maybe 5 yr old is in school? But who knows. OP didn’t say if 5 yr old is in K. I’m guessing since he didn’t and was pretty specific that the 5 yr old is a young 5 and not in school yet

If you can’t afford preschool you can’t afford 2 gym memberships. Seems like displaces priorities

Seems like their priorities are different. Preschool + gym memberships are expensive. They are going with a 2 for 1 price, and his wife teaches educational things at home.

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If you complain one more time, you should consider yourself a failure - as a provider, as a husband, and as a father. You sound so incredibly selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:If you complain one more time, you should consider yourself a failure - as a provider, as a husband, and as a father. You sound so incredibly selfish.

He hasn't said anything about their monthly expenses. Mortgages are, on average, $900 more than they were in February.

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Is this you OP?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1052092.page

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Anonymous wrote:Is this you OP?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1052092.page

Op here. No. Both my wife nor I attended preschool. We both have science PhDs. When our youngest is five, we may look into it only because he has a late birthday.
Our other child is doing great in public kindergarten. He's reading and good with math. We may start both kids in Kumon soon.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is your solution. Have her look into getting a job at Lifetime, either in the child care center or doing something else. I did this when my kids were small. Unless the employee benefits have changed, you only have to work a few hours a week, your membership is free and you get free childcare while you are working (plus the additional 3 hours included in your membership). I worked in the child care center and took my kids with me on every shift. They made friends, played hard, did crafts, and slept like rocks every night.

I came from the corporate world and the only child care experience I had was taking care of my own kids, and they hired me on the spot. The hourly wage wasn't great, but the free membership there was worth its weight in gold.

Even if I didn't end up getting a job there back when I was a SAHM, we would have sacrificed other things to keep that membership. It was literally the only thing that kept me sane, and our location didn't even have the outdoor pool. I would work out or take a fitness class for an hour, then get a nice relaxing shower and be able to do my hair and makeup. Sometimes if I was extra exhausted or frazzled, I would take a nap in the lounge and then shower. Lifetime was a key part of my mental health when the kids were small. You need to figure out how to make this work for your wife.

SAHM here. That would spoil all the fun. Working where you relax isn't a good idea. She needs a break from the kids.

Yes, but given the choice between no Lifetime at all versus this, I would do this.

NP. Luckily they have plenty of option to do this, and no reason to do some drastic ultimatum. OP is just a cheapo.

I don’t know. OPs wife doesn’t want to work, doesn’t want to send kids to preschool, but doesn’t want to take care of them all day either. She’s rather drive and hour to the gym and out the kids in gym daycare for 2 hrs. That’s half the days of her kids pretty much doing nothing. Gym daycare shouldn’t be the alternative to preschool. OPs kid is 5. That is too old for this. The 2 yr old would benefit from preschool type program too.

It’s not “nothing.” It’s the recess part of a preschool day.

Preschool recess isn’t 3 hrs. More like 30 min of the 3-4 hours of preschool. Plus in the afternoons her kids are likely napping; at least the 2 yr old is, maybe 5 yr old is in school? But who knows. OP didn’t say if 5 yr old is in K. I’m guessing since he didn’t and was pretty specific that the 5 yr old is a young 5 and not in school yet

If you can’t afford preschool you can’t afford 2 gym memberships. Seems like displaces priorities

My kids’ preschool is $800/mo each. What are you paying?

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Op here. We will freeze the membership until we are settled in the new house. My wife thought of this example. Once our newly three-year-old is potty trained, we can have both kids on Saturday night parents night. It's close to a big shopping mall so we can go to dinner—one of my biggest concerns in traffic.

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OP there is no way you are Caucasian

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Anonymous wrote:OP there is no way you are Caucasian

What is the relevance of OP's race?

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Anonymous wrote:OP there is no way you are Caucasian

What is the relevance of OP's race?

I'm not white. I said I grew up swimming in ponds as we didn't have swimming pools in my country. We tied bamboo to ourselves and learned that way.

[Anonymous]

The main point of this thread seems to be how to get away from your kids as often as possible for the least amount of money.

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Anonymous wrote:The main point of this thread seems to be how to get away from your kids as often as possible for the least amount of money.

If that were true no one would be talking about gym daycare. It’s very time limited and OP’s wife doesn’t even go every day.

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Anonymous wrote:The main point of this thread seems to be how to get away from your kids as often as possible for the least amount of money.

Agree.