boy mom vs girl mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of documented neurological differences between male and female brains. Spatial awareness in particular can be measured as early as 3 weeks old. That said, there are always outliers and people should be treated as individuals. But it doesn’t make sense to deny that due to hormonal differences and evolution (and a whole host of other factors) there are measurable differences in the way male and female brains function on the average. These differences account for the higher prevalence of ASD and schizophrenia in males, along with a whole host of other differences. We’re just like many other mammals with observable differences in the sexes.

That doesn’t mean that all the #boymom and #girlmom stuff isn’t cringey. It is.

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/sex-differences-brain-anatomy

Yes, there are structural differences in DEVELOPED brains that are formed while kids are young. If you condition their brains in a gender bias misogynistic world you get differences along gender lines. Same if you do that along race lines or any other way... Duh!

Sure there are PHYSICAL and HORMONAL differences after puberty after which many of the structure in the brains have already formed. I can teach it to you but unfortunately I cannot understand it for you.

But there are physical differences from birth, not just at puberty. Boys are larger and heavier even pre puberty, for example. I disagree that behavioral differences are purely socialized. Not buying that. NP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

[Anonymous]

It’s ok to admit that boys and girls are biologically different and also an maintain awareness of toxic gender roles. No, boys and girls are not exactly the same and raising them is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

Amen

I have son and a daughter. I think it's weird to build an identity based off of my child's gender. They have different personalities based off of who they are as people not because one is a boy and one is a girl

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

It's because girls internalize and boys externalize. It's a sex difference. Not cultural, biological. Culture follows biology, not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The level of playdate supervision required for boys is objectively way higher than girls. I don't really think this is debateable.

+100. Some of these posts are delusional. Gender differences are real. It doesn’t mean children can’t be respected equally or that one gender is “better” but come on. We all know it.

All the scientists who study this seem to disagree with your unsubstantiated opinions. So no, we don't all know it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of documented neurological differences between male and female brains. Spatial awareness in particular can be measured as early as 3 weeks old. That said, there are always outliers and people should be treated as individuals. But it doesn’t make sense to deny that due to hormonal differences and evolution (and a whole host of other factors) there are measurable differences in the way male and female brains function on the average. These differences account for the higher prevalence of ASD and schizophrenia in males, along with a whole host of other differences. We’re just like many other mammals with observable differences in the sexes.

That doesn’t mean that all the #boymom and #girlmom stuff isn’t cringey. It is.

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/sex-differences-brain-anatomy

Yes, there are structural differences in DEVELOPED brains that are formed while kids are young. If you condition their brains in a gender bias misogynistic world you get differences along gender lines. Same if you do that along race lines or any other way... Duh!

Sure there are PHYSICAL and HORMONAL differences after puberty after which many of the structure in the brains have already formed. I can teach it to you but unfortunately I cannot understand it for you.

But there are physical differences from birth, not just at puberty. Boys are larger and heavier even pre puberty, for example. I disagree that behavioral differences are purely socialized. Not buying that. NP

Sorry, once you discount for the differences in nutritional intake when the moms find out the gender, your argument falls apart. So nope! Statistics and reality are not in your favor. Look at the stats before ultrasound.
Lemme guess you make up your own reality here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

It's because girls internalize and boys externalize. It's a sex difference. Not cultural, biological. Culture follows biology, not the other way around.

Learning to internalize and externalize are LEARNED. Not innate. We (society) discourage girls from showing aggressive behavior, for example. You will believe what you want and raise your kids how you want. It's your kids who will internalize or externalize the consequences of your parenting. WtF do I care?

[Anonymous]

does it really matter if differences are socialized or biological (I think both)? In either case it is different raising boys vs girls. Boys are more physical and have higher activity levels and the social dynamics are different.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

It's because girls internalize and boys externalize. It's a sex difference. Not cultural, biological. Culture follows biology, not the other way around.

Learning to internalize and externalize are LEARNED. Not innate. We (society) discourage girls from showing aggressive behavior, for example. You will believe what you want and raise your kids how you want. It's your kids who will internalize or externalize the consequences of your parenting. WtF do I care?

Are you under the impressions parents, alone, socialize children?

[Anonymous]

Surprised at some of the answers on here. Look at a classroom or a playground. The differences are fairly obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Surprised at some of the answers on here. Look at a classroom or a playground. The differences are fairly obvious.

I'm not surprised at all. There are many people who prefer their own beliefs to reality. They want children to be the same, to be blank slates, so that's what they see. They are blind to objectivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Surprised at some of the answers on here. Look at a classroom or a playground. The differences are fairly obvious.

I'm not surprised at all. There are many people who prefer their own beliefs to reality. They want children to be the same, to be blank slates, so that's what they see. They are blind to objectivity.

+1 it’s a misguided attempt at promoting gender equality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The level of playdate supervision required for boys is objectively way higher than girls. I don't really think this is debateable.

+100. Some of these posts are delusional. Gender differences are real. It doesn’t mean children can’t be respected equally or that one gender is “better” but come on. We all know it.

All the scientists who study this seem to disagree with your unsubstantiated opinions. So no, we don't all know it.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

It's because girls internalize and boys externalize. It's a sex difference. Not cultural, biological. Culture follows biology, not the other way around.

Learning to internalize and externalize are LEARNED. Not innate. We (society) discourage girls from showing aggressive behavior, for example. You will believe what you want and raise your kids how you want. It's your kids who will internalize or externalize the consequences of your parenting. WtF do I care?

Are you under the impressions parents, alone, socialize children?

DP it says "society"... so probably not the impression