boy mom vs girl mom

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of documented neurological differences between male and female brains. Spatial awareness in particular can be measured as early as 3 weeks old. That said, there are always outliers and people should be treated as individuals. But it doesn’t make sense to deny that due to hormonal differences and evolution (and a whole host of other factors) there are measurable differences in the way male and female brains function on the average. These differences account for the higher prevalence of ASD and schizophrenia in males, along with a whole host of other differences. We’re just like many other mammals with observable differences in the sexes.

That doesn’t mean that all the #boymom and #girlmom stuff isn’t cringey. It is.

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/sex-differences-brain-anatomy

[Anonymous]

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This is older, but it rings true to me as a boy mom. And it definitely portrays what I see/perceive of girl moms.

This is funny. And obviously there is comedic exaggeration, but I have both genders and this was a decent summary haha. Loved the end part so much - I don’t think people who don’t have them realize how SWEET boys are

But even this comedic exaggeration points out the different treatment and expectations of how some people choose to raise their boys vs. how they choose to raise their girls: “I thought I told you to clean up” versus “I just cleaned this,” etc.

I recently pointed out to my aunt how differently she talks about her son’s girlfriend (who has been on the scene for years and is lovely in every way), versus how she treats her daughters’ now-husbands. My aunt immediately embraced the boyfriends and encouraged them to get engaged and were thrilled when they did, etc. She has always been guarded and judgmental about the girlfriend, wants them to take it slow, etc. I asked her point-blank why she treats them so differently, and she said, “It’s different with a son.”

Like…can any moms of boys be honest that they treat boys different and have different levels of expectation as to family relationships, chores, etc.? I’ve seen it time and again (including how my parents treated my sister and me vs. how they treated my brother). But it was honestly refreshing to hear my aunt actually say out loud that she views and treats her son differently from her daughters, which has been plain in many ways for years.

[Anonymous]

I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of documented neurological differences between male and female brains. Spatial awareness in particular can be measured as early as 3 weeks old. That said, there are always outliers and people should be treated as individuals. But it doesn’t make sense to deny that due to hormonal differences and evolution (and a whole host of other factors) there are measurable differences in the way male and female brains function on the average. These differences account for the higher prevalence of ASD and schizophrenia in males, along with a whole host of other differences. We’re just like many other mammals with observable differences in the sexes.

That doesn’t mean that all the #boymom and #girlmom stuff isn’t cringey. It is.

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/sex-differences-brain-anatomy

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

Ha. You're kids are still toddlers, right?

Yes, OP, it's a very different experience. I have all boys and the older they get, the more I realize that. My best tip for boy moms as your kids get into middle and high school: Cultivate friendships with girl moms. They will know a lot more than you ever will.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

Ha. You're kids are still toddlers, right?

Yes, OP, it's a very different experience. I have all boys and the older they get, the more I realize that. My best tip for boy moms as your kids get into middle and high school: Cultivate friendships with girl moms. They will know a lot more than you ever will.

^^ To clarify, they will know a lot more about what's going on in school, with friendships, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

Ha. You're kids are still toddlers, right?

Yes, OP, it's a very different experience. I have all boys and the older they get, the more I realize that. My best tip for boy moms as your kids get into middle and high school: Cultivate friendships with girl moms. They will know a lot more than you ever will.

DP and so you’re aware, your attitude is why there’s a 20+ page thread about why “cherish these moments” is a lame thing to say to new parents.

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Thank you so much for posting this!!! I do hope everyone watches it!

Thank you for watching it! Every person, parent or not, should.

Bumping episode 2 too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

Me. I have the girl who loves nothing but pink and bows and glitter, and it's not my thing at all. If I dressed my kid up, she'd be in black band tees and jeans and cool sneakers. But she is not me. I let her pick her clothes.

It's funny to me when people meet my kid before me, and then meet me and do a double take. I know they are assuming I will show up as some bleach blonde southern belle in a dress and matching cardigan because that's what people envision when they see how my kid dresses.

I think this is why I cringe a bit at "boy mom" and "girl mom". I do think there are some differences between raising different genders, but I also think a lot of the stereotypes are false because they rely on assumptions about kids and parents, and about boys and girls, that aren't true at all. My girl is not more obedient than boys. She's not cleaner (oh my god, such a messy eater) or better at school, she's not calmer or less energetic. If people see the bows and sparkly tutus and think "oh, what an angel" that's on them. They are making assumptions that aren't true and that will bite them in the a$$ if they aren't careful.

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Anonymous wrote:I think when people are talking about this, they are talking about how physical boys are vs girls.

If you don’t believe me, go to a room full of twenty six year old boys and another one full of twenty six year old girls and see for yourself.

+1 obviously there are also differences between kids, but it's dumb to pretend that gender differences don't exist and are on average pretty significant.

- Mom of 2 boys and have plenty of friends with kids of both

+2. I know there is this belief that gender doesn’t matter at all and we shouldn't verbalize the very obvious differences because it’s somehow not pc but, I work with boys and girls and there a huge difference in how they communicate, how physical they are etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of documented neurological differences between male and female brains. Spatial awareness in particular can be measured as early as 3 weeks old. That said, there are always outliers and people should be treated as individuals. But it doesn’t make sense to deny that due to hormonal differences and evolution (and a whole host of other factors) there are measurable differences in the way male and female brains function on the average. These differences account for the higher prevalence of ASD and schizophrenia in males, along with a whole host of other differences. We’re just like many other mammals with observable differences in the sexes.

That doesn’t mean that all the #boymom and #girlmom stuff isn’t cringey. It is.

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/sex-differences-brain-anatomy

Yes, there are structural differences in DEVELOPED brains that are formed while kids are young. If you condition their brains in a gender bias misogynistic world you get differences along gender lines. Same if you do that along race lines or any other way... Duh!

Sure there are PHYSICAL and HORMONAL differences after puberty after which many of the structure in the brains have already formed. I can teach it to you but unfortunately I cannot understand it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:The level of playdate supervision required for boys is objectively way higher than girls. I don't really think this is debateable.

+100. Some of these posts are delusional. Gender differences are real. It doesn’t mean children can’t be respected equally or that one gender is “better” but come on. We all know it.