boy mom vs girl mom

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I’m not going to get into the whole nature or nurture argument above but there are definitely significant differences that begin very early and of course continue with time.

I imagine the people that cling to the idea that boys and girls are the same are the same people that advocate for men and women to compete in sports together.

I think the #boymom #girlmom thing is silly but it’s also silly to insist that raising boys and girls is the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not going to get into the whole nature or nurture argument above but there are definitely significant differences that begin very early and of course continue with time.

I imagine the people that cling to the idea that boys and girls are the same are the same people that advocate for men and women to compete in sports together.

I think the #boymom #girlmom thing is silly but it’s also silly to insist that raising boys and girls is the same.

I think it makes the most sense to raise children. As in, my mom and dad tried to raise my brother, who is gay, to be a “boy.” They ignored his individuality, his personality, his preferences, his interests, and it was kind of a football-and-fishing mentality, if you will. Soy just raising Boys and Girls doesn’t really cut it. When you pay attention to the child and raise that child, by understanding that things like extrovert/introvert, interests and hobbies, abilities and preferences are all going to come into play, I think that’s where you are going to get the best outcomes, for the individual child and for society.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.

Why do I have to tell her boys can like it too? She likes what she likes. She doesn't care if her brothers like it too. She knows they don't and still likes it anyway because she's her own person. I don't explain to the boys that girls can like whatever they like. They have their preferences, hobbies, interests, and that's that. I don't dwell on what's for boys or girls and make a big to do about who likes what. I would prefer she not like that stuff but she likes it anyway. I shrug and move on and don't get put out or feel like she's less for liking girl stuff. If you're disappointed your daughter likes feminine stuff that's your own baggage to deal with.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

My boy kid still sits to pee, so he's really very clean! We'll see when that changes, since he's just 5.

The first PP is just wrong. There are often major differences. Boy moms have to become more comfortable with constant movement and noise. Physical activity is just part of being most boys. That’s not to say girls aren’t the same but we are generalizing here. Also, boys often balk at suggestions and ideas to get involved and get creative. Granted, some are naturally inclined to do so but many show their insecurities by stating that they hate a certain activity and won’t get involved. I find more girls are willing to try something first before declaring that it is not their thing. Boys love their mothers but it isn’t always shown through traditional affections. They want their mother’s attention and will often try anything to get it, even being the so-called problem child. I find girls are often deemed pleasers.

Again, nothing here is universal but certain stereotypes and generalizations are made for a reason.


2nd PP needs to get her kid standing to pee before kindergarten or there will be problems. I don’t care what gender one identifies with but if you have a typical male child, standing to pee is part of the deal. You wouldn’t teach a girl not to wear a bra or use tampons just because it’s easier for you would you?

I hope my children never meet yours and I know we are not friends. Yikes! People like you exist.

I honestly can’t believe that people want to deny individuals their biology. So yeah, there’s no way we are friends. I don’t enough soy and live in the real world.

... and you voted for Trump!

I’m the PP. No. No, I didn’t vote for Trump. I can be pro-choice and anti-hatred without denying my children’s natural tendencies to be louder and more physical. Why can’t I believe that boys and girls are biologically different without being accused of being a Trumpster??? Is there no more middle ground (or grounded in reality ground???)

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Anonymous wrote:I am a boy mom and felt that it was meant to be only because I would have had no idea how to dress a little girl in bows and matching tights,(I was not that way either) so I was blessed with boys and relate completely to that video.

You relate to the fact that moms of girls should expect girls to clean up their own rooms, and moms of boys should whine, “I just cleaned that” instead of raising sons to clean their own rooms?

Also I have two girls and two boys. Never dressed any of them in bows or matching tights. Did we time warp into the 50s or something?

DP but I hate all the bows, tights, tutus, etc and ended up with a girl who wanted all those things and as much glitter and sparkle as she wanted. What are people supposed to do, refuse to let them express themselves and dress how they want? If that's what they want then you wander over to that section of the store and buy the crap. If you end up with the kid who hates it, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

You buy it for them and let them know that boys can like it too. Just like we did with girls and Lego years ago we need to do with boys expressing emotions.


I’m the PP who was falsely accused of being a Trumpster. Just a note to say not all school shooters (or potential school
shooters) are male. Check out the situation at Catoctin High School in Thurmont MD a few years back (2016? 2017?) it was a case of a potential
Mass shooting from a girl.

Girls can be shooters. But it doesn’t discount that, in general, boys and girls
are different and raising them is different.

Why are all school shooters boys? Because they are emotionally isolated. They are actively discouraged by their parents (amd society) from expressing anything but anger "boys don't cry". And when they show anger "boys will be boys". Such short sighted parenting. Those parents are severely limiting their own sons.