boy mom vs girl mom

[Anonymous]

I think when people are talking about this, they are talking about how physical boys are vs girls.

If you don’t believe me, go to a room full of twenty six year old boys and another one full of twenty six year old girls and see for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think when people are talking about this, they are talking about how physical boys are vs girls.

If you don’t believe me, go to a room full of twenty six year old boys and another one full of twenty six year old girls and see for yourself.

+1 obviously there are also differences between kids, but it's dumb to pretend that gender differences don't exist and are on average pretty significant.

- Mom of 2 boys and have plenty of friends with kids of both

[Anonymous]

My four are all different (one boy) so it’s not really boy vs girl. They have very different personalities that I have to deal with and that has nothing to do with gender. One daughter is a fireball with a huge personality and another daughter is very quiet and cautious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I HATE "boy mom" v. "girl mom" as identities. The real differences are:
(1) cleaning up pee
(2) doing hair
(3) teaching about menstruation (which is only a moderate difference, because all kids should learn about how babies are made, including the basics of the reproductive systems of both sexes, and everyone needs to know about consent and respect for partners and themselves)
That's it. Maybe boys are noisier on average, or have less "dramatic" friendships on average, but there is as much variation within the sexes as between them, and what's true on average can easily be untrue for a specific boy or girl. Boys can be just as sensitive, girls can be just as physical. Boys can have frenemies and be catty, girls can be messy and smelly and not care about how they look. Puberty makes them all a mess.

My son is 5 and knows about menstruation. Boys should know about menstruation.

[Anonymous]

Parent to and sibling of both sexes.

Husband only has a brother.

From what I’ve observed, I wonder about same-sex sibling relating/fighting being slightly different?

[Anonymous]

I think there are definite generalizations we can make but I think that’s why kids are having so many gender issues today, because of these generalizations. Not all kids fit. Generally I think boys physically get into more trouble than girls, but girls use their mouth as a weapon more and can be more whiney. I have a 10 yo DD but was a Nanny for many years so have looked after lots of different kids. My kid is a girl but likes clothes marketed to boys, super hero’s, Diary of a Wimpy Kid books, swimming riding her bike etc. No interest in boys beyond her male friends, makeup, fashion etc…. I try to parent her for the person she is…. Not based on her gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when people are talking about this, they are talking about how physical boys are vs girls.

If you don’t believe me, go to a room full of twenty six year old boys and another one full of twenty six year old girls and see for yourself.

+1 obviously there are also differences between kids, but it's dumb to pretend that gender differences don't exist and are on average pretty significant.

- Mom of 2 boys and have plenty of friends with kids of both

-1

Gender differences are mostly as significant as parents make them out to be, e.g., attributing every between-child difference to gender as opposed to being a separate person.

-Mom of two boys and one girl

[Anonymous]

This is older, but it rings true to me as a boy mom. And it definitely portrays what I see/perceive of girl moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This is older, but it rings true to me as a boy mom. And it definitely portrays what I see/perceive of girl moms.

I was going to bring this up too. It is so spot on.

Sure the boy-girl this is a lot of stereotypes, but stereotypes exist for a reason...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This is older, but it rings true to me as a boy mom. And it definitely portrays what I see/perceive of girl moms.

There is some truth here but also, as a mom of a girl, I relate A LOT to the boy mom in this video. If you don't think I've barked at my kid to put her shoes on NOW because we are late, or gone into her room right after I cleaned it up to see abject disaster, you are mistaken. I've watched three girls absolutely shred my house before, egging each other on, too. Do they do it wearing fairy wings and giggling instead of swinging fake swords around and calling each other poophead? Sometimes!

I agree that boys tend to be rowdier overall and just more physical, and yes they do seem to be drawn to more violent toys for some reason (truly I don't know why, but my DD has never expressed an interest in having a play gun or sword whereas my nephews loooove that stuff). But I actually think we may have more in common than you think.

[Anonymous]

Aren't most moms with more than one child a "both mom" with at least one of each? Having kids of only one gender seems very niche. Also, do parents of onlies ever use these labels? I've never heard it used by anyone with an only.

FWIW I love having both and think anybody who clings to a label like "girl mom" or "boy mom" is just trying to make themselves feel better about not having a mix.

[Anonymous]

It’s strange to look up to someone you gave birth to and it can happen younger than you think! Of course some people have tall daughters too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend less time doing my sons' hair than my daughter's.

If they get lice, it’s easy to just buzz it all off, or to do the same in advance of sleepaway camp!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren't most moms with more than one child a "both mom" with at least one of each? Having kids of only one gender seems very niche. Also, do parents of onlies ever use these labels? I've never heard it used by anyone with an only.

FWIW I love having both and think anybody who clings to a label like "girl mom" or "boy mom" is just trying to make themselves feel better about not having a mix.

There are plenty of ppl with 2 kids who have 2 of the same gender. It's definitely not uncommon!

I think the differences are more stark for ppl with 2+ like I have a few friends who have 3 boys. That's undeniably a different experience than having 3 girls or a mix. I think we all agree that using the label as your identity is sort of dumb, but so is denying that there is any distinction...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys make a bigger mess when they pee.

Seriously, that’s it. And the boy mom/girl mom stuff is gross.

+1