Sick as a dog - husband gone on fishing trip and au pair is off.

[Anonymous]

OP if you are still on this thread, I do sympathize with you. It is a super weird dynamic to have a fully capable second adult in the home, presumably fully capable of pitching in, who instead chooses to priori each herself. If you think of it in those terms, you will hate having an AP.

You need to reframe your mindset to realize that when she’s off, she’s off. She has every right to prioritize herself in her off time. Accept it. If she’s not on the clock, don’t expect her to come to your aid - ever. Once you accept that, you’ll have a better and more realistic expectation of the Au pair experience.

[Anonymous]

You hold your au pair to a higher standard than your husband- the father of your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just knock, tell her you're not feeling well, and that you'd like her to take DS outside to play with water toys and bubbles for a couple of hours.

AP is not on the clock and is under no obligation to do anything.