Is marriage even worth it for women anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

Most studies on the subject actually show the opposite.

My H admits this too and also wants to die before me. Statistically, married men live the longest, healthiest lives. They suck the life out of us.

[Anonymous]

It was worth it to me to have kids and because it carries social status. As of now, I do like and love DH. If we did split, though, there is no way I would remarry and I would prefer not to cohabitate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was worth it to me to have kids and because it carries social status. As of now, I do like and love DH. If we did split, though, there is no way I would remarry and I would prefer not to cohabitate.

I don't see how having kids carries social status. I have kids. WTH are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just take a look at the money finances forum. Income is combined so your worth on dcum goes up

No, that is shared money. I prefer my own net worth that I can control (divorced woman whose biggest financial mistake in life was getting married)

[Anonymous]

lmao at DCUM women debating whether "marriage is worth it" when

- from about age 28 to 38 your whole life revolved around finding a husband
- the high point of your life was YOUR WEDDING DAY when you were the Center of the Universe
- your social status was (and still is, if you're still married) determined by Who Attracted The Best Husband
- if you're divorced, your whole life revolves around feverishly scheming to find a new husband

Doesn't speak well of your intelligence that you don't refuse to play the above games if they're "not worth it"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s absolutely not worth getting married if you are expected to have children and you are expected to work full-time. It’s better to be single in this scenario. I only think marriage works if the man can support the family and the woman doesn’t have to work and there’s enough money that in case they divorce the woman has enough to live on. Otherwise it’s not worth risking stopping working and it’s not worth getting married at all even if there are kids.

I will advise my daughters to not get married. Only exception would be if the guy is loaded and they had a prenup to secure that she would get something in the event of divorce and she did not have to work. Othwerwise don’t get married and keep your own money.

I totally agree with this (not worth marrying if the woman has a good career and plans for kids). Plus, 50% of marriages end in divorce, often with very expensive custody fights. Our son is shuttling between 2 households. I do want a second child but I will be adopting on my own to avoid custody issues.

Of course, if a man is loaded and guarantees assets, trusts and alimony then it would be wise to consider marriage with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lmao at DCUM women debating whether "marriage is worth it" when

- from about age 28 to 38 your whole life revolved around finding a husband
- the high point of your life was YOUR WEDDING DAY when you were the Center of the Universe
- your social status was (and still is, if you're still married) determined by Who Attracted The Best Husband
- if you're divorced, your whole life revolves around feverishly scheming to find a new husband

Doesn't speak well of your intelligence that you don't refuse to play the above games if they're "not worth it"

Majority of divorced mid aged women don't seek men or even date, statistically speaking. Those women writing here about finding a man in their 40-50s is more of a statistical exception.

[Anonymous]

Not worth it and yes it's an unrealistic fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lmao at DCUM women debating whether "marriage is worth it" when

- from about age 28 to 38 your whole life revolved around finding a husband
- the high point of your life was YOUR WEDDING DAY when you were the Center of the Universe
- your social status was (and still is, if you're still married) determined by Who Attracted The Best Husband
- if you're divorced, your whole life revolves around feverishly scheming to find a new husband

Doesn't speak well of your intelligence that you don't refuse to play the above games if they're "not worth it"

No one wants you because you're an unintelligible dinosaur, except your wife who is bleeding you dry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's certainly not worth it for men.

That wasn’t the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If both people are good people then marriage is worth it for both. People are too focused on just getting what they want or thinking they can have it all. The feminist movement has done some good but it has also done a lot to make women miserable. The happiest married couples are those with traditional roles. Let the dads hunt and gather and let the moms nurture and nest. That's the life I have chosen and I couldn't be any happier. I don't have a chip on my shoulder and feel like I have something to prove to the world

HAHAHAHAHAHA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lmao at DCUM women debating whether "marriage is worth it" when

- from about age 28 to 38 your whole life revolved around finding a husband
- the high point of your life was YOUR WEDDING DAY when you were the Center of the Universe
- your social status was (and still is, if you're still married) determined by Who Attracted The Best Husband
- if you're divorced, your whole life revolves around feverishly scheming to find a new husband

Doesn't speak well of your intelligence that you don't refuse to play the above games if they're "not worth it"

I did none of those things. Sorry to burst your little bubble.

[Anonymous]

Lol, there's a reason men's rights activists are a thing, however much DCUM may scorn them: among other issues, marriage and family law are so advantageous to women, and so disfavor men, that an entire movement has sprung up in protest. The fact that you think *women* don't benefit from marriage is laughable.

[Anonymous]

We have a very happy marriage and 5 kids.

This thread is ridiculous. If you walk into it as a business deal, yes, sometimes you will lose in a business deal.

But marriage is a relationship.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of posts on this thread mentioning “great careers”. What are you all doing that is so damn fulfilling? Life in Corporate America is a total drag. Sure, the money might be good, but typically it requires you to put your health, sanity and most of your waking hours in the meat-grinder for it.