Is marriage even worth it for women anymore?

[Anonymous]

Yes if they are childfree! Married 27 yrs and love it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really don’t know anyone with a happy marriage? Sad.

No, I don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You're guaranteed to have a crap dad if you aren't married to the guy.

NP here…not true
He is a way better dad divorced. When were married, he did absolutely zero.

Same here. He was forced to step up and not rely on me for planning everything and making all the major decisions, and he’s doing it. When we were married l was the primary breadwinner and did more than 50% of house and kid stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's certainly a better deal for women than it is for men

Most studies on the subject actually show the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes if they are childfree! Married 27 yrs and love it!

LOL marriage is only still a thing because of kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the legalities or financial reasons for or against marriage, I have fought harder for my relationship because I was married. If we were dating, I would have walked long ago and missed out on what became a wonderful partnership.

Interesting perspective. I think a lot of people chiming in are middle age when marriages are generally at their worst.

I would also walk away from my wife if we weren't married and all the hassle of a legal divorce. Whether I will be happy that I didn't when we are older remains to be seen.

[Anonymous]

Ah interesting question/

Before 2020 I would have said no.

Given where we are headed ladies it is going to be the only way for you to own things, so yeah moving forward getting married might be important.

Good luck ladies we are going to need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean it depends.
I am lucky we have a house that is almost paid for, 2 kids and a dog. I work and my husband stays home.
He does laundry, meal planning, dishes, bathroom clean up. The kids help with trash and I cook, vacuum and mow the lawn.
We have OBX vacations yearly with maybe Europe once every 5 years or so. We have sex regularly and he is my closest friend.
For me, it is a good deal right now. There are times I have questioned everything and times were it has clicked. I never felt really passionate about him, but I got burned once that way and didn’t want that kind of relationship again. I wanted a life partner and that is who I married.
Is it the best marriage? Probably not. Is it the worst? Absolutely not. In the end I would rather be with him than by myself.

This is actually beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

[Anonymous]

No its not. If I could do it again I would not live together, I would have a baby, negotiate financial support and custody, and have a “guest marriage” of some sort.
I am actually divorced and it works great for me - kid is mostly with me, I get support, kid visits dad as much as we all agree and we agree amicably.
We had to get married fir certain reasons but I wouldn’t do it again and would just be a single mom on paper.
Great tax benefits and other benefits of your income is not super great. Marriage is way overrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes if they are childfree! Married 27 yrs and love it!

LOL marriage is only still a thing because of kids.

Not for us! Blissfully happy!

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Anonymous wrote:My wife is a SAHM and we have a lot of money because I make a lot. Our kids are thriving. So it's worth it from that aspect. We love and respect and support each other and generally like each other even after 20 years together.

Even so, if you don't want kids, I see no point in marriage. For either men or women.

Interesting. The happiest most successful marriages are childfree. Maybe they are on to something.

[Anonymous]

I love my husband to the moon and back. We have grown children. It’s worked for us. That said, if I were to become single again, I can’t see any reason why I would get married again now that child rearing is off the table.

[Anonymous]

To me the benefits are: meaningful companionship with someone who gets me, raising kids with a partner instead of on my own, and the financial flexibility that comes with being in a partnership with two professionals.

The drawbacks are: my DH does not clean enough and is WAY too messy for someone who doesn't like to clean. Pick one! Either be sloppy but learn how to use the vacuum cleaner and figure out which cleaning liquids are appropriate for which surface OR never clean but also eat chips over the kitchen sink. Cleaning up after someone for decades is really freaking annoying. Good thing he's cute and a great dad.

[Anonymous]

So many are asking themselves what do I get? How does marriage benefit me? What have you done for me lately? Is that love? Marriage? Or an arrangement of chores? Partners in chores, I guess. A job. Are you doing your assigned work? Has he done his tasks or is he slacking?
Hmmmm. I hope this is not what it’s really about. Time to think about love as less transactional. Friendship is a good start. Another soul to be witness to our lives. Someone who gives a damn. Stays with you in the hospital during your chemo. Someone who alerts you to beautiful things you would otherwise have missed. The shooting star that just passed overhead while you were griping about that dirty sock on the floor, the moon hangers and star gazers.

[Anonymous]

Just take a look at the money finances forum. Income is combined so your worth on dcum goes up