Is marriage even worth it for women anymore?

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Anonymous wrote:It is not good for women, but probably good for children.

Men gains tons of advantages (as scientifically proven: they live longer, reduce their homemaking responsibilities, gain career advantages...not so for women).

Yeah, right, women gain no advantages from marriage. Remind me again who is obsessed with and constantly chasing marriage in their 20s and 30s – is it men or women? Strange that women would be obsessed with obtaining something that offers them no advantages – I guess you think women are just dumb.

I worked hard to find a spouse who I thought would be a good dad and husband. He had a brain injury and became an abusive alcoholic. I very much tried to marry and then mate well, because I think that an intact two parent family is ultimately the easiest best path for kids and healthy development. I didn’t get that, but you are right- I tried to.

Now, I’m divorced and to answer the question- for me now- no, marriage would no be worth it. I won’t have more children and religion wouldn’t play into wanting to marry (ie no scruples about out of wedlock sex). I won’t ever let anyone take half my stuff again and I know that when marriage can end so painfully and insanely it isn’t anything sacred or special- relationship is what is sacred and special. I’m sure I’ll enter into a committed monogamous relationship some day, but I will not marry again.

I guess my answer has changed over my lifetime due to my experiences. You seem really angry at women- are you?

How is it half of “your stuff”? You went into marriage with a selfish mentality, ended it out of selfishness (no compassion for a man with a BRAIN INJURY?), and then somehow it’s *marriage’s* fault?

This is why I emphatically suggest people to just be alone. Being selfish in a “commited monogamous relationship” (marriage in so many words 🙄) won’t work either. The problem is YOU!! Stop trying to bring people into your tight-fisted, transactional, curmudgeonly existence just because you’re horny.

This is such a bizarre post it’s simply not worth a reply, but look into anger management.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not good for women, but probably good for children.

Men gains tons of advantages (as scientifically proven: they live longer, reduce their homemaking responsibilities, gain career advantages...not so for women).

Yeah, right, women gain no advantages from marriage. Remind me again who is obsessed with and constantly chasing marriage in their 20s and 30s – is it men or women? Strange that women would be obsessed with obtaining something that offers them no advantages – I guess you think women are just dumb.

I worked hard to find a spouse who I thought would be a good dad and husband. He had a brain injury and became an abusive alcoholic. I very much tried to marry and then mate well, because I think that an intact two parent family is ultimately the easiest best path for kids and healthy development. I didn’t get that, but you are right- I tried to.

Now, I’m divorced and to answer the question- for me now- no, marriage would no be worth it. I won’t have more children and religion wouldn’t play into wanting to marry (ie no scruples about out of wedlock sex). I won’t ever let anyone take half my stuff again and I know that when marriage can end so painfully and insanely it isn’t anything sacred or special- relationship is what is sacred and special. I’m sure I’ll enter into a committed monogamous relationship some day, but I will not marry again.

I guess my answer has changed over my lifetime due to my experiences. You seem really angry at women- are you?

I feel for you PP, but this is also a pretty rare situation, where a great guy turns into a bad one because of a random brain injury. That's not the fault of marriage as an institution.

Thank you. I think that untreated mental illness and drug addiction are much wider problems than most people think. I wish it was more rare.