Is marriage even worth it for women anymore?

[Anonymous]

Apparently so because there's a 7 page and counting thread where most of the posters are encouraging that OP to marry the man instead of just living with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lmao at DCUM women debating whether "marriage is worth it" when

- from about age 28 to 38 your whole life revolved around finding a husband
- the high point of your life was YOUR WEDDING DAY when you were the Center of the Universe
- your social status was (and still is, if you're still married) determined by Who Attracted The Best Husband
- if you're divorced, your whole life revolves around feverishly scheming to find a new husband

Doesn't speak well of your intelligence that you don't refuse to play the above games if they're "not worth it"

None of this is true for me. Not sure where you got this fantasy. Doesn’t even resonate. Your understanding of women isn’t as good as you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of posts on this thread mentioning “great careers”. What are you all doing that is so damn fulfilling? Life in Corporate America is a total drag. Sure, the money might be good, but typically it requires you to put your health, sanity and most of your waking hours in the meat-grinder for it.

I'm a PhD in research and LOVE my job. I hated raising my kids when they were little and my job was my sanity saver. I had our nanny working full time when I was on maternity leave with my second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You say that but even a bad dad can stay at home while a baby is napping which is more than a single mom has without arranging childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a very happy marriage and 5 kids.

This thread is ridiculous. If you walk into it as a business deal, yes, sometimes you will lose in a business deal.

But marriage is a relationship.

No, marriage is a legal contract and is a business deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You say that but even a bad dad can stay at home while a baby is napping which is more than a single mom has without arranging childcare.

I could never leave my exhusband alone with little kids...not even a baby napping. I had to hire a sitter to leave...so I never left the house. Easier to be a single parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a very happy marriage and 5 kids.

This thread is ridiculous. If you walk into it as a business deal, yes, sometimes you will lose in a business deal.

But marriage is a relationship.

No, marriage is a legal contract and is a business deal.

Never marry a person who sees marriage as a business deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a very happy marriage and 5 kids.

This thread is ridiculous. If you walk into it as a business deal, yes, sometimes you will lose in a business deal.

But marriage is a relationship.

No, marriage is a legal contract and is a business deal.

Never marry a person who sees marriage as a business deal.

Sometimes you do not know until after the wedding. Happens more than you think.

[Anonymous]

It is not good for women, but probably good for children.

Men gains tons of advantages (as scientifically proven: they live longer, reduce their homemaking responsibilities, gain career advantages...not so for women).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You say that but even a bad dad can stay at home while a baby is napping which is more than a single mom has without arranging childcare.

I could never leave my exhusband alone with little kids...not even a baby napping. I had to hire a sitter to leave...so I never left the house. Easier to be a single parent.

Why would you marry someone who is so incompetent and selfish? Let alone have children with him. What do you think you both taught your kids about male/female roles?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of posts on this thread mentioning “great careers”. What are you all doing that is so damn fulfilling? Life in Corporate America is a total drag. Sure, the money might be good, but typically it requires you to put your health, sanity and most of your waking hours in the meat-grinder for it.

I'm a PhD in research and LOVE my job. I hated raising my kids when they were little and my job was my sanity saver. I had our nanny working full time when I was on maternity leave with my second.

Do you think you should have had children? I would imagine that it is not great for a forming human's self esteem to find out that their parent "hated" raising them.

I also have a PhD in research, and raising my child was the most joyful and fulfilling thing I ever did. She knows that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Even if you want kids. There is no guarantee you’re going to get a guy who will be a good dad

You say that but even a bad dad can stay at home while a baby is napping which is more than a single mom has without arranging childcare.

I could never leave my exhusband alone with little kids...not even a baby napping. I had to hire a sitter to leave...so I never left the house. Easier to be a single parent.

Why would you marry someone who is so incompetent and selfish? Let alone have children with him. What do you think you both taught your kids about male/female roles?

I did not plan to have kids with him. Also, there is no way of knowing how someone will parent. Also, I did not know he was like this before getting married. This is common. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of posts on this thread mentioning “great careers”. What are you all doing that is so damn fulfilling? Life in Corporate America is a total drag. Sure, the money might be good, but typically it requires you to put your health, sanity and most of your waking hours in the meat-grinder for it.

I'm a PhD in research and LOVE my job. I hated raising my kids when they were little and my job was my sanity saver. I had our nanny working full time when I was on maternity leave with my second.

Do you think you should have had children? I would imagine that it is not great for a forming human's self esteem to find out that their parent "hated" raising them.

I also have a PhD in research, and raising my child was the most joyful and fulfilling thing I ever did. She knows that too.

NP and well, you're pretty pathetic. Not least because you're so proud of putting a huge burden on your innocent kid to be "the most joyful and fulfilling thing" in your life. Jeez, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's probably worth it if you want children.

No children? It's probably not worth it: just be boyfriend and girlfriend.

The happiest married couples I know are childfree. Constantly travel and doing fun things. Seem so compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not good for women, but probably good for children.

Men gains tons of advantages (as scientifically proven: they live longer, reduce their homemaking responsibilities, gain career advantages...not so for women).

Not true. 30% don't have to work. Most of the rest marry a man that significantly out earns them (outside of dcum land where everything is reversed) which significantly increases their net worth. Married women are also much less likely to be a victim of a violent crime. Married mothers are less likely to suffer from depression than single women.