Any Indian-American SAHMs out there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Indian American from with three Ivy League degrees and my mother would be thrilled for me to SAHM. She thinks I’m failing my kids with the help raising them, haha.

But that’s because she wants me to hire her friend’s daughter’s Indian former housekeeper/nanny/everything else for $150K a year. She just doesn’t think a non-Indian person can raise a kid right.

I think it’s because I’m a lawyer though. Sister is a doctor and I think they’d be sad if she stopped working.

This is horribly racist. Why was this message not removed but the following ones were? Blacks who prefer blacks? Southern Europeans who prefer Italians and Greeks? No one else can raise their kids property except the same race as the family?

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like these dual working couples make it work with lots of childcare help from their parents and in-laws.

So are you all expected to care for them when they get old and are unable to live independently one day?

This is another reason why they force them to work. They want them to take care of them when they are older and more money means a better life for them. It's like the elephant in the room no one admits.

Seems like you come from a pretty uneducated/misogynistic family. It’s not like that everywhere FYI. My parents and ILs are very well set up for retirement and don’t need our $$, in fact they’re figuring out ways to pass their wealth onto us without burdening us with a bunch of assets in India that we have to maintain.

NP You are fortunate to have parents/IL with such forethought. That is not the norm. Count your blessings.
- someone who's parents and IL's have bequeathed them many assets that will take a lot of work for us to dispose of

I think you're wrong. Most Indian families I know have very well off parents who are planning for their retirement. There is a divide amongst Indian-American families - the professionals who came for education (engineers, doctors mostly) and those whose families brought them owner (business/hospitality owners and service workers). Sounds like you and the first PP have the latter.

No, you are mistaken and a little snotty. The very educated parents are just control freaks who can't imagine not being around to take care of things for their family, until an untimely illness proves them wrong. It's just ego. Don't you know any Indians like that, regardless of educational background?

Not PP, but actually, I don't know any Indians like that. Most of the parents I know are enjoying retirement and visits from the grandkids, but otherwise leave families alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like these dual working couples make it work with lots of childcare help from their parents and in-laws.

So are you all expected to care for them when they get old and are unable to live independently one day?

This is another reason why they force them to work. They want them to take care of them when they are older and more money means a better life for them. It's like the elephant in the room no one admits.

Seems like you come from a pretty uneducated/misogynistic family. It’s not like that everywhere FYI. My parents and ILs are very well set up for retirement and don’t need our $$, in fact they’re figuring out ways to pass their wealth onto us without burdening us with a bunch of assets in India that we have to maintain.

NP You are fortunate to have parents/IL with such forethought. That is not the norm. Count your blessings.
- someone who's parents and IL's have bequeathed them many assets that will take a lot of work for us to dispose of

I think you're wrong. Most Indian families I know have very well off parents who are planning for their retirement. There is a divide amongst Indian-American families - the professionals who came for education (engineers, doctors mostly) and those whose families brought them owner (business/hospitality owners and service workers). Sounds like you and the first PP have the latter.

No, you are mistaken and a little snotty. The very educated parents are just control freaks who can't imagine not being around to take care of things for their family, until an untimely illness proves them wrong. It's just ego. Don't you know any Indians like that, regardless of educational background?

Not PP, but actually, I don't know any Indians like that. Most of the parents I know are enjoying retirement and visits from the grandkids, but otherwise leave families alone.

What? Indians immigrants are known for being overbearing. I've seen it with my friends moms. It's okay. It is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like these dual working couples make it work with lots of childcare help from their parents and in-laws.

So are you all expected to care for them when they get old and are unable to live independently one day?

This is another reason why they force them to work. They want them to take care of them when they are older and more money means a better life for them. It's like the elephant in the room no one admits.

Seems like you come from a pretty uneducated/misogynistic family. It’s not like that everywhere FYI. My parents and ILs are very well set up for retirement and don’t need our $$, in fact they’re figuring out ways to pass their wealth onto us without burdening us with a bunch of assets in India that we have to maintain.

NP You are fortunate to have parents/IL with such forethought. That is not the norm. Count your blessings.
- someone who's parents and IL's have bequeathed them many assets that will take a lot of work for us to dispose of

In fact, many pride themselves on it, like my MIL
I think you're wrong. Most Indian families I know have very well off parents who are planning for their retirement. There is a divide amongst Indian-American families - the professionals who came for education (engineers, doctors mostly) and those whose families brought them owner (business/hospitality owners and service workers). Sounds like you and the first PP have the latter.

No, you are mistaken and a little snotty. The very educated parents are just control freaks who can't imagine not being around to take care of things for their family, until an untimely illness proves them wrong. It's just ego. Don't you know any Indians like that, regardless of educational background?

Not PP, but actually, I don't know any Indians like that. Most of the parents I know are enjoying retirement and visits from the grandkids, but otherwise leave families alone.

What? Indians immigrants are known for being overbearing. I've seen it with my friends moms. It's okay. It is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like these dual working couples make it work with lots of childcare help from their parents and in-laws.

So are you all expected to care for them when they get old and are unable to live independently one day?

This is another reason why they force them to work. They want them to take care of them when they are older and more money means a better life for them. It's like the elephant in the room no one admits.

Seems like you come from a pretty uneducated/misogynistic family. It’s not like that everywhere FYI. My parents and ILs are very well set up for retirement and don’t need our $$, in fact they’re figuring out ways to pass their wealth onto us without burdening us with a bunch of assets in India that we have to maintain.

NP You are fortunate to have parents/IL with such forethought. That is not the norm. Count your blessings.
- someone who's parents and IL's have bequeathed them many assets that will take a lot of work for us to dispose of

In fact, many pride themselves on it, like my MIL
I think you're wrong. Most Indian families I know have very well off parents who are planning for their retirement. There is a divide amongst Indian-American families - the professionals who came for education (engineers, doctors mostly) and those whose families brought them owner (business/hospitality owners and service workers). Sounds like you and the first PP have the latter.

No, you are mistaken and a little snotty. The very educated parents are just control freaks who can't imagine not being around to take care of things for their family, until an untimely illness proves them wrong. It's just ego. Don't you know any Indians like that, regardless of educational background?

Not PP, but actually, I don't know any Indians like that. Most of the parents I know are enjoying retirement and visits from the grandkids, but otherwise leave families alone.

What? Indians immigrants are known for being overbearing. I've seen it with my friends moms. It's okay. It is what it is.

In fact, some pride themselves on it, like my MIL