Age to leave child alone sleeping in hotel room to go downstairs?

[Anonymous]

When my son was about 14 i left him in the room at a casino while i was downstairs, and nothing happened. He had a blast staying up playing playstation in the room all night and I played games downstairs, we facetimed every other hour to check in. Nothing happened. I let him have the private bedroom so he was in a door inside another door and I slept on the fold out couch just fine in the living area. Just my 2 cents.

[Anonymous]

Hah. Several people on my kids 10U travel team did this. I think they're nuts, but they did it every time we had to travel for games. Kids are 9 and 10. I'm not comfortable doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I didn’t say I was afraid of anything. But I have been in a hotel, asleep, and the fire alarms went off in the middle of the night. My kids slept through it. We had to wake them and carry them down the stairwell. I’m not saying this is common or likely to happen. But it would be pretty horrific if I were down in the lobby, could not ride elevator up to get child, child possibly sleeping through alarms/phone calls, feeling helpless.

Dramatic. 🙄🙄

Ironically, you are dramatic with your multiple posts aimed to provoke.

Maybe, sometimes. But, I’d be able to figure out that I could take the stairs in case of a natural disaster or whatever event you’re worried about impacting your vacation.

Your kid would be fine in the hotel room. Unclench.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

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I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I didn’t say I was afraid of anything. But I have been in a hotel, asleep, and the fire alarms went off in the middle of the night. My kids slept through it. We had to wake them and carry them down the stairwell. I’m not saying this is common or likely to happen. But it would be pretty horrific if I were down in the lobby, could not ride elevator up to get child, child possibly sleeping through alarms/phone calls, feeling helpless.

How old was your kid? I’ve had the same thing happen twice and my kids woke up both times. They were 3 & 6 the first time and 3, 5 and 8 the second. (First time we left the baby home with grandma).

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Lol. Ironically, it’s usually kids with crazy helicopter parents like you that sneak out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

Yes, I believe you think that. Good luck with all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t typically stay in hotels that have bars/lounges but I started leaving my kid sleeping in the morning to go out to pick up coffee starting when they were about 10. The likelihood that anyone who has access to the room would access it is so close to zero there’s no sense worrying about it.

Coffee is a quick trip. Needing to leave to get your drink on is different. Either way I’d do it if the other parent could stay, but not solo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Lol. Ironically, it’s usually kids with crazy helicopter parents like you that sneak out.

Lol. Ironically, you pulled that out your ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

Oh stop. We all know juvenile delinquent kids that pressure others into drinking and doing things they’re not supposed to. Even on model UN.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

Yes, I believe you think that. Good luck with all that.

Good luck to your children. Hope you get well.