Age to leave child alone sleeping in hotel room to go downstairs?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t typically stay in hotels that have bars/lounges but I started leaving my kid sleeping in the morning to go out to pick up coffee starting when they were about 10. The likelihood that anyone who has access to the room would access it is so close to zero there’s no sense worrying about it.

Coffee is a quick trip. Needing to leave to get your drink on is different. Either way I’d do it if the other parent could stay, but not solo.

Why not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Lol. Ironically, it’s usually kids with crazy helicopter parents like you that sneak out.

Exactly.

buT, wHaT aBoUT pAuL tHe NiGhT aUdItOR??!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Sneak out to go where?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

Yes, I believe you think that. Good luck with all that.

Good luck to your children. Hope you get well.

Samsies!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Lol. Ironically, it’s usually kids with crazy helicopter parents like you that sneak out.

They don’t have an ass, nor do their kids. They exist on good values.

Lol. Ironically, you pulled that out your ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

Oh stop. We all know juvenile delinquent kids that pressure others into drinking and doing things they’re not supposed to. Even on model UN.

Naive parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

Oh stop. We all know juvenile delinquent kids that pressure others into drinking and doing things they’re not supposed to. Even on model UN.

Naive parents.

More like parents who pay to send their children away on school trips so they can do other things on the weekend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

Yes, I believe you think that. Good luck with all that.

Good luck to your children. Hope you get well.

Samsies!

You just cemented PP’s comment that you are not well.

[Anonymous]

I'll be the voice of irresponsibility on this thread, I guess.

We were on a drive across the country and in one motel (like a Hampton Inn type of place), had a room with our young toddler that didn't have any separation between the sleeping area and sitting area.

DD goes to bed at 6:30pm. We then went down to the lobby to eat the takeout that my husband ran out to grab. Eating in the room silently, in the dark, hoping not to wake her, did not appeal. We have a video/cloud baby monitor app so we kept that up while we ate.

It was relaxing and I would feel comfortable doing it again, but not with a slightly older child who could get out of bed and move about the room. I am sure my own parents would not have thought twice about doing this. Expectations these days are kind of insane and way out of proportion to actual risk.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I left our sleeping teen/tween (13 and 10) in the hotel room while we were on vacation last week so we could get a late night work out in in the fitness center a floor up. Never even occurred to me that this would be a problem. What exactly do y'all think is at risk of happening? Our 13 year old will go to NYC in June for an 8th grade class trip and they stay in hotel rooms without chaperones in the room. If she can handle a whole three nights with three other 13/14 year olds, I think she can handle a few hours?!

Her kid is not an 8th grader. She said she would put her kid to sleep. Do you put your 13 y/o to sleep? No. OP’s child is way younger. Your kids are fine.

Okay but literally what are you afraid is going to happen

I honestly think bored women are trying to be dramatic about this. It’s NBD.

It must be, because none of them will explain how exactly they think Paul the night auditor is going to kidnap their kids

🤣🤣
Seriously.

I believe in your case, your children would be better off with you not there.

Yes, I believe you think that. Good luck with all that.

Good luck to your children. Hope you get well.

Samsies!

You just cemented PP’s comment that you are not well.

I don’t doubt you think that. Be well, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

Oh stop. We all know juvenile delinquent kids that pressure others into drinking and doing things they’re not supposed to. Even on model UN.

Naive parents.

More like parents who pay to send their children away on school trips so they can do other things on the weekend.

Only on DCUM will I be scorned as a bad parent for trying to enrich my kid’s life with travel and experiences away from home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adulthood

I saw people arguing this on another, similar thread and I find it so surprising because I travelled for sport and activities in high school, plus went on a few short overnight trips with friends when I was 17, and stayed in hotels with other underage kids and it was fine. We were super responsible and I didn't drink or do drugs in high school at all so that wasn't a concern or factor. I would have been absolutely fine at 14-17 staying in a hotel room alone while my parents were in the lobby or hotel restaurant. Probably even fine at 13 if an older sibling was there.

It's just odd to me that you wouldn't give your child these opportunities to test out adult responsibility and freedom in small doses so that when they turn 18 and/or go away to school, they aren't completely overwhelmed or incapable of handling it. That honestly sounds a lot more irresponsible than leaving a 12-year-old alone in a hotel room while you are still in the same building (even if that does sound a little young to me).

I’m not gonna have my kid travel for sports like that. I can test their responsibility at home. And absolutely not living an older teenager in a hotel room alone. They will sneak out. You’re lucky there wasn’t a trash bag in your peer group.

Np. Curious about what kind of human being refers to a child as a “trash bag”?

Oh stop. We all know juvenile delinquent kids that pressure others into drinking and doing things they’re not supposed to. Even on model UN.

Naive parents.

More like parents who pay to send their children away on school trips so they can do other things on the weekend.

They need that drink.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a ridiculous and irresponsible. What the hell are you thinking as a parent?

Calm down. Nobody said that they were considering this with a toddler. 12 seems perfectly fine to me if the kid is responsible and knows how to put the deadbolt on the door, has a phone, can call you or the front desk, etc.

Don’t tell me to calm down. This is not at their home, this is at a hotel with people who have access to rooms you irresponsible prick.

Well my kid went on overnight field trip in fifth grade and there wasn’t an adult in the room.

[Anonymous]

No one is forced to be a parent. It was a choice and that comes with responsibility even if it inconvenient.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a ridiculous and irresponsible. What the hell are you thinking as a parent?

Calm down. Nobody said that they were considering this with a toddler. 12 seems perfectly fine to me if the kid is responsible and knows how to put the deadbolt on the door, has a phone, can call you or the front desk, etc.

Don’t tell me to calm down. This is not at their home, this is at a hotel with people who have access to rooms you irresponsible prick.

Well my kid went on overnight field trip in fifth grade and there wasn’t an adult in the room.

Your anecdotal story makes it okay?