We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why you would make a joke about a woman in this area with all the inflated egos. Yikes. Anyways, a women who takes herself too seriously or gets angry easily could turn into a nag or yeller. Move on when you find someone else

We’re are you getting that she got angered easily? She simply didn’t like something and spoke up. I’m not understanding why people think this insecure behavior. At no point has OP said she’s done this repeatedly.

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She sounds abusive. Break it off now!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

This 100%.

This. She's insecure about her like of celebrity culture. She thinks people think she's an airhead and maybe someone told her that in the past. . She was projecting. . You weren't being mean OP, you were teasing like a guy. She's not being petty just sensitive.

I'm sure you have things you are sensitive about.

Ideally the conversation would have gone with her saying something like" I know .
You were just joking, but I'm sensitive about this I'd appreciate it if you didn't joke about it"

And you could have.responded with something like" I'm sorry it wasn't my intention to hurt your feelings and now that I know I won't tease you about it again."


Moving forward if you think of moving forward with her or others you need to consider your senses of humor it's important to partners to match.none thing that made me know my guy was my guy is we've got the same style of humor.

It's also important to give grace, even when we are hurt not to assume the worst of the other. And not turn things into who is right or who is wrong but how can we find a way to move forward as a team and sometimes that means falling on your own sword.

Eh, disagree. If I tell someone I’m reading the news, and they’re like “Oh, like what, People magazine? National Enquirer?” then that’s asshole behavior. And yes, OP was implying that the woman is dumb, and vapid. I’m confused that he thought that would go over well with her.

Perhaps she is.

I doubt that she is. If she was an airhead she’d just laugh about it. She didn’t and mentioned that TMZ and National Inquirer are lowbrow “news”. She doesn’t sound like an airhead to me.

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Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

Yeah, women! It's time for our wit, charm, and perspicacity!!! If you're not in the mood, clearly you've got a stick up the butt.

You sound charming.

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OP, you sound like a tool who has a high opinion of his ability to make jokes. Face it, you're not funny and what you said was stupid.

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You belittled her and she didn't like it. My husband occasionally makes jokes like this and it really isn't funny but we do generally share the same sense of humor.

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She doesn't sound insecure, rather the opposite. She sounds secure as hell to me. OP is the one who sounds insecure to make that "joke" in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn't sound insecure, rather the opposite. She sounds secure as hell to me. OP is the one who sounds insecure to make that "joke" in the first place.

Indeed. You need to be secure to call somebody out rationally like she did. You also need to be secure to accept re-direction, which OP did not.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn't sound insecure, rather the opposite. She sounds secure as hell to me. OP is the one who sounds insecure to make that "joke" in the first place.

Indeed. You need to be secure to call somebody out rationally like she did. You also need to be secure to accept re-direction, which OP did not.

“You must think I’m an idiot to read lowbrow trash” is not a rational reaction. That part was totally unnecessary. Unless it too, was a joke? If that’s the case this is all a nothingburger!

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn't sound insecure, rather the opposite. She sounds secure as hell to me. OP is the one who sounds insecure to make that "joke" in the first place.

Indeed. You need to be secure to call somebody out rationally like she did. You also need to be secure to accept re-direction, which OP did not.

“You must think I’m an idiot to read lowbrow trash” is not a rational reaction. That part was totally unnecessary. Unless it too, was a joke? If that’s the case this is all a nothingburger!

Even though you misquoted her, either response is rational.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

Or she overreacted because it's clearly a joke since they can't be watched.