We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

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That was mean of you.

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I mean she can feel how she feels about it and your joke wasn't funny but she is doing too much.

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Anonymous wrote:Me personally, would dump someone like that. If I can’t be myself and she can’t take a joke, imagine the future together and always having to bite your tongue. That will get old after a while.

That is why you don't have a partner and probably never will.

Says the fat, lazy divorced cat lady who still watches the view.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

Yeah, generations of women must be mentally ill...

We see we see what you're doing.

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I think you were both obnoxious. It was a dumb joke that implied she was shallow and unintelligent. She has no sense of humor and called you out for a dumb joke instead of just saying that made her feel bad. Personally, I’ve would have given you the slow fade.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

Yeah, generations of women must be mentally ill...

We see we see what you're doing.

Those were different times. Society has evolved. In this day and age, women have way more and better options unless they’re damaged.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

Yeah, generations of women must be mentally ill...

We see we see what you're doing.

Those were different times. Society has evolved. In this day and age, women have way more and better options unless they’re damaged.

Like remaining single?

That's fine....just stop whining about it all the time. The world doesn't owe you every little thing your heart desires.

The amount of single 35-45 year-old single, female friends I have who harp on about this almost incessantly, as if the world has done them some great injustice...

Just own your choices and standards and stop burdening everyone else with it.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

Yeah, generations of women must be mentally ill...

We see we see what you're doing.

Those were different times. Society has evolved. In this day and age, women have way more and better options unless they’re damaged.

Like remaining single?

That's fine....just stop whining about it all the time. The world doesn't owe you every little thing your heart desires.

The amount of single 35-45 year-old single, female friends I have who harp on about this almost incessantly, as if the world has done them some great injustice...

Just own your choices and standards and stop burdening everyone else with it.

DP. Do you hear yourself? You are berating someone for feeling that she shouldn’t have to stay in a relationship with someone who makes degrading jokes about her intelligence. She isn’t complaining about anything, yet you are lashing out at her.

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Anonymous wrote:This is DCUM so you're at fault since you're a man.

I'd just ignore and move on. She's insecure about her intellectual abilities, and wasn't able to fire back with a joke back to you like "No, I stopped watching TMZ becuase it got too violent with all the Oscars coverage.."

Man here. He was a total ass. It wasn’t a funny joke.

A funny joke involves a priest, a rabbi and an imam walking into a bar.

When I see men call out men who are being jerks 😍😍😍😍

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Anonymous wrote:I would bet all the posters defending this guy are, well, guys. Would OP have asked one of his guy friends the same question? I highly doubt it. By even asking her this question, he reveals himself to be somewhat misogynistic. This has nothing to do with her being insecure. If she were insecure, she'd have gone along with this "joke" Kudos for her for calling him out. He needs to grow up or find someone who actually thinks his lame jokes are funny.

Uhhhh....yes. Guys can rib each other all the time and not make the biggest deal over every perceived "slight".

My husband has teased me from day one. But he somehow manages to do it in a way that is actually funny and rarely offensive, and if he does cross a line (I think that first happened after we were engaged, definitely not when we were just getting to know each other) I let him know and he apologizes and we move on.

How does he manage to do this? He’s genuinely funny and not an overly sensitive jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:I would bet all the posters defending this guy are, well, guys. Would OP have asked one of his guy friends the same question? I highly doubt it. By even asking her this question, he reveals himself to be somewhat misogynistic. This has nothing to do with her being insecure. If she were insecure, she'd have gone along with this "joke" Kudos for her for calling him out. He needs to grow up or find someone who actually thinks his lame jokes are funny.

Uhhhh....yes. Guys can rib each other all the time and not make the biggest deal over every perceived "slight".

My husband has teased me from day one. But he somehow manages to do it in a way that is actually funny and rarely offensive, and if he does cross a line (I think that first happened after we were engaged, definitely not when we were just getting to know each other) I let him know and he apologizes and we move on.

How does he manage to do this? He’s genuinely funny and not an overly sensitive jerk.

The irony...

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

This isn’t going to work out. She’s too young for you and probably has some mental issues if she’s willing to date a decade older divorced man. She might also secretly look down on you for being so much older. You probably think you hit the jackpot dating a younger woman who will patiently appreciate your dumb, mildly insulting jokes. You low key despise each other.

Yeah, generations of women must be mentally ill...

We see we see what you're doing.

Those were different times. Society has evolved. In this day and age, women have way more and better options unless they’re damaged.

Like remaining single?

That's fine....just stop whining about it all the time. The world doesn't owe you every little thing your heart desires.

The amount of single 35-45 year-old single, female friends I have who harp on about this almost incessantly, as if the world has done them some great injustice...

Just own your choices and standards and stop burdening everyone else with it.

DP. Do you hear yourself? You are berating someone for feeling that she shouldn’t have to stay in a relationship with someone who makes degrading jokes about her intelligence. She isn’t complaining about anything, yet you are lashing out at her.

The conversation evolved, sweetie. Keep up.

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Only responding to the original question (haven't read through the subsequent 12 pages of responses lol), but I think it does come across a little bit condescending. But hard to tell just seeing what's on paper - none of us were there to witness actual delivery, your tone of voice and hers, etc. There are three sides to every story.

It could just be conflicting communication styles and tolerance levels - no one is "right" or "wrong," but if your sense of humor or way of speaking don't mesh well with hers then maybe this is a sign.

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Anonymous wrote:Only responding to the original question (haven't read through the subsequent 12 pages of responses lol), but I think it does come across a little bit condescending. But hard to tell just seeing what's on paper - none of us were there to witness actual delivery, your tone of voice and hers, etc. There are three sides to every story.

It could just be conflicting communication styles and tolerance levels - no one is "right" or "wrong," but if your sense of humor or way of speaking don't mesh well with hers then maybe this is a sign.

My husband and I are like this now. But in earlier dating/years of marriage, him and I would always banter back and forth like this and throw jokes at each other with laughter and love. People said we had the best chemistry. Now throw in years of marriage, kids, exhaustion, just life in general... these types of "jokes" can become toxic and dangerously evolve into constant criticisms instead of lighthearted fun. You can call her uptight, you can call yourself rude, but there is an element of watching this fine line when this is your style.... because in some cases, it can only be funny for so long even with a partner who does take it (at first).

I saw some other comments re: this usually highlights the OP's actual low self esteem and insecurity, and I would say in my husband's case this is 100% spot on (which he's acknowledged and admitted). It still doesn't make it right or acceptable. JUst wanted to throw this in from a long-term perspective/someone who's been on the other side for years... used to love it, now it's literally driving a wedge in our marriage.