We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

[Anonymous]

YTA. Also, you have a feeble sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One can be into celebrity gossip AND interested in the actual news. The two are not mutually exclusive. You took an opportunity to put her down and implied there’s no way she could be interested in regular news. She wasn’t being petty.You sound insecure and immature, and after a month of dating, I’d likely move on. Not worth it.

We’ve been together a month but met in October (she just moved from the West Coast 2 months ago), so we’ve been romantically involved for 6 months.

What’s your point? It was still a put down, not a joke and an indication that you may struggle with immaturity and insecurity. This wasn’t the playful teasing you think it was.

[Anonymous]

She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

[Anonymous]

to shine* oops!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

So, because OP insinuated that she’s an idiot his girlfriend should just laugh along, otherwise she’s “uptight”.

Women who have backbones = uptight. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One can be into celebrity gossip AND interested in the actual news. The two are not mutually exclusive. You took an opportunity to put her down and implied there’s no way she could be interested in regular news. She wasn’t being petty.You sound insecure and immature, and after a month of dating, I’d likely move on. Not worth it.

We’ve been together a month but met in October (she just moved from the West Coast 2 months ago), so we’ve been romantically involved for 6 months.

I’ve been with guys like you OP. This would be a deal breaker for me. I’m not into celebrity news, but I wouldn’t appreciate my partner’s insinuation that I don’t understand what real news is. And let’s be real, you made this comment to mock her interests in celebrity gossip, which you think is shallow and lame. OP I’m sure you have some low brow interests as well. How would you like if she mocked those? Step back and think about why you feel the need to tease or mock your romantic partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t think it was that bad but I’m not her. It doesn’t matter what the rest of us think. Does she normally have a sense of humor? It sounds like your sense of humor doesn’t match with hers - that’s the issue.

Yea, she does have a sense of humor usually. That’s why this threw me off and made me think she’s petty because she doesn’t usually got offended and finds a lot of things humorous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

Oh I think she definitely has perspicacity—OP is not the witty, generous guy he thinks he is, and she gets that loud and clear. You seem like a snowflake yourself. Unless women are guffawing at your every dumb joke, they’re stuck-up beotches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is DCUM so you're at fault since you're a man.

I'd just ignore and move on. She's insecure about her intellectual abilities, and wasn't able to fire back with a joke back to you like "No, I stopped watching TMZ becuase it got too violent with all the Oscars coverage.."

Exactly. You two are not on the same humor page. I’d break up with her and find someone that gets you. It’ll be worth it in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

I know men like you. They are always deeply insecure and “tease” their partners as a form of leveling in an attempt to elevate themselves. It’s such a transparent tell of low self confidence, I always feel embarrassed for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

So, because OP insinuated that she’s an idiot his girlfriend should just laugh along, otherwise she’s “uptight”.

Women who have backbones = uptight. Got it.

People have lost their ability to communicate. Prior pp was right, men tease women they like. It doesn’t mean he really thought that’s what she was doing. In fact he most likely thought the exact opposite.

In your shoes op, I’d take it as a red flag. A relationship without humor is challenging.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t have said anything probably if I were her, but I’d assume that you dealt with insecurity. Men who are secure like to build their women up. That’s one thing that stood out when I met my husband. Insecurity would make me less interested, it’s just not hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were making fun of HER, so it is a bid deal. And it’s way too early in your relationship for that. A good joke would be one that you can both laugh about something other than either of you.

Honestly, I would have just dumped you without really getting into why. I love guys who have a sense of humor, but not the kind that finds humor in making fun of other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds a little uptight. Men tease the women they like, and that is time for a woman’s wit, charm, and perspicacity to stand up for herself can shine.

In short, she doesn’t have very good girl game and that won’t change any time soon. I would end it if it were me because I personally don’t think the schoolmarmy, stick-up-the-butt attitude is attractive.

So, because OP insinuated that she’s an idiot his girlfriend should just laugh along, otherwise she’s “uptight”.

Women who have backbones = uptight. Got it.

You can have a backbone in a pleasant and not-brusque way. She can even crack jokes back. This is an incredibly dramatic take.

I don’t think people who follow TMZ or celebrity gossip are idiots either. Weird and elitist leap to make on her, and your, part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd lose interest in you over that "joke". I'm betting you make a lot of jokes at the expense of others. Not my type of humor.

+1. Red flag to me. I’ve dated people like you who make unnecessary digs at people in the name of humor. I hope she dumps you.