I resent my husband for getting me a cheap engagement ring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - be honest, how hot are you, scale of 1-10?

If you are anything less than 9.9, your husband is the biggest moron to walk the earth.

To be fair, hotness isn’t the only factor to be a 10/10 spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband bought me a 7k 1 carat ring back when we got engaged 8 years ago. I was underwhelmed back then and as I saw other women in our circle get
Engaged with beautiful good quality rings worth 15k+

As we get older I am still angry and resentful. Was I not special or important enough for a nice ring?

You're a sad person, and I feel bad for your husband having to be married to such a shallow person. If this matters so much to you, get a job and buy your own jewelry.

[Anonymous]

I think a large ring is like someone needs an ego boost, or trying to put on an image. It's sort of ridiculous. I got 1 carat, it cost a lot less than 7k, and I recently paid $2k to reset it in yellow gold bezel set. No extra bling stones to try to fake it up as bigger than it is. It just is, like me

[Anonymous]

My ex gave me a 2 carat ring that his parents bought.
I would have rather had a smaller ring that HE made the effort to get on his own. It would have meant so much more.
When we split up, they wanted the ring back. Yeah, "they". The parents controlled my ex.
As beautiful as it was (an Edwardian piece), I was happy to give it back to them.
I got the real estate though and that was far more important.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered just buying yourself a new ring?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Imagine this much delusion and coping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - be honest, how hot are you, scale of 1-10?

If you are anything less than 9.9, your husband is the biggest moron to walk the earth.

To be fair, hotness isn’t the only factor to be a 10/10 spouse.

But it sure helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - be honest, how hot are you, scale of 1-10?

If you are anything less than 9.9, your husband is the biggest moron to walk the earth.

To be fair, hotness isn’t the only factor to be a 10/10 spouse.

But it sure helps.

In getting married yes but not after honeymoon is over and real life starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - be honest, how hot are you, scale of 1-10?

If you are anything less than 9.9, your husband is the biggest moron to walk the earth.

To be fair, hotness isn’t the only factor to be a 10/10 spouse.

But it sure helps.

In getting married yes but not after honeymoon is over and real life starts.

My grandfather married 4 times and had countless attractive younger girlfriends. He's a WASP Ivy leaguer and former CEO of a global food company. He never learned from his lessons with women. He married women purely on looks and everything went to crap after the honeymoon phase was over. He probably lost 3/4 of his fortune because of these women. My grandma was his first wife and they staid together for 15 years but they were basically hs sweethearts (from same CT town).

[Anonymous]

Maybe start a support group so you don't have to deal with the shame of your ring alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - be honest, how hot are you, scale of 1-10?

If you are anything less than 9.9, your husband is the biggest moron to walk the earth.

To be fair, hotness isn’t the only factor to be a 10/10 spouse.

I know, and my point is that the OP has proven that she scores low on all the other measures.

[Anonymous]

Love these troll drop and runs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Imagine this much delusion and coping.

You clearly have a weak graso of diamond secondary markets.

[Anonymous]

2 carat Edwardian ring I happily said goodbye to PP here.

It was valued and insured for 50K - how much a VVS 2 carat would have sold at Tiffany's.
I had it valued by a respected dealer with the gem institute here in NYC. He thought he could offer 6K for it, and sell it to a retailer for 12K. That retailer would put whatever price she wanted on it. These are diamond district people.
I had been warned about how low the resale numbers were but really shocked to learn how low they actually are. As the wife of a gemologist told me, they are just rocks.

My ex wanted to believe the 50K value so I let that number sit in the equitable distribution.

[Anonymous]

My husband got my ring for $800 at an estate sale. I can’t imagine my friends saying anything about it. I had a boss (!!) once ask why I didn’t insist on an”bigger rock” and I said “because this is more my taste.” Otherwise no one has ever said anything. During the pandemic I got out of the habit of putting the rings on in the morning and I’ve put on weight so they’re tight now. Any guesses how often my friends have commented on me not wearing my rings (or gaining weight, for that matter)? If you want another ring for you, go for it! If it’s because your friends are judging you hopefully you just perceive that and it’s not true. Otherwise those don’t seem like very good friends.