I resent my husband for getting me a cheap engagement ring

[Anonymous]

I guess you’d be shocked, then, that this is my engagement ring: https://www.mikimotoamerica.com/us_en/morning-dew-ring-akoya-and-diamonds-2

I love the symbolism of the pearl. It was a significant purchase for us at the time (yes, we both contributed to it, since I thought it was not fair to expect my then fiancé to buy something expensive on his own when we were in our mid-20s and didn’t have a lot of money).

If other women prefer more expensive rings, that’s great for them. I love what I have; it’s very special to me.

[Anonymous]

My mom upgraded her own ring after she and my dad were married for like 25 years. If you don’t like your ring and you can afford to replace it, just upgrade. Then the original into a necklace or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess you’d be shocked, then, that this is my engagement ring: https://www.mikimotoamerica.com/us_en/morning-dew-ring-akoya-and-diamonds-2

I love the symbolism of the pearl. It was a significant purchase for us at the time (yes, we both contributed to it, since I thought it was not fair to expect my then fiancé to buy something expensive on his own when we were in our mid-20s and didn’t have a lot of money).

If other women prefer more expensive rings, that’s great for them. I love what I have; it’s very special to me.

I’m not OP but I’d be shocked anyone would not know pearls aren’t suitable for rings. I’m guessing you don’t wear it daily.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’re not worth the money… 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Nobody will take your post seriously.

NP.. I kinda agree it might be a troll, but in case OP is not a troll..

what was DH's income back then? That matters.

When my sister got engaged, they didn't have much money, so yea, the ring wasn't all that nice. She was jealous of my ring when I got engaged, but DH (and I) were making good money. We were also a lot older when we got engaged compared to my sister.

Decades later, my sister's DH makes a lot more, and he got her a nice ring, nicer than mine, not that I care, really. I barely wear my engagement ring now. Stopped wearing it during the pandemic, and realize how much less of a hassle it is now without the ring.

Op here. He made about 75k. It’s a cheap setting as well. I hardly wear it due to embarrassment especially since all the women in our circle have rings worth 15k+ and the quality shows.

He makes more money now and says I can upgrade the setting of my ring. Really I want a nice 2 carat ring that will out do everyone else’s stupid ring they are so smug about!

I hardly wear it due to embarrassment especially since all the women in our circle have rings worth 15k+ and the quality shows.

The quality (and lack of it) rests in you and not the ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH knew I wanted a nice ring. I waited and waited. I said nothing even after he proposed without one. Eventually I let him know I really wanted one. He was angry. Then one day he took me ring shopping. He took me to Fifth and Madison in NYC. We visited Cartier, Tiffany, Harry Winston; he had me try on rings there. Then Kwiat, and then lesser and lesser stores. Finally he took me to the diamond district, picked a $1000 ring with visible flaws and haggled over it with the orthodox Jewish jeweler. He hadn’t had any intention of buying it was just to hurt me. He said he couldn’t afford the kind of ring I wanted and I was a terrible person for expecting him to spend money on a ring. He never did it even when he started making over $300k. It was about hurting me.

Why did you marry him? He sounds abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess you’d be shocked, then, that this is my engagement ring: https://www.mikimotoamerica.com/us_en/morning-dew-ring-akoya-and-diamonds-2

I love the symbolism of the pearl. It was a significant purchase for us at the time (yes, we both contributed to it, since I thought it was not fair to expect my then fiancé to buy something expensive on his own when we were in our mid-20s and didn’t have a lot of money).

If other women prefer more expensive rings, that’s great for them. I love what I have; it’s very special to me.

I’m not OP but I’d be shocked anyone would not know pearls aren’t suitable for rings. I’m guessing you don’t wear it daily.

Someone should tell Mikimoto that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess you’d be shocked, then, that this is my engagement ring: https://www.mikimotoamerica.com/us_en/morning-dew-ring-akoya-and-diamonds-2

I love the symbolism of the pearl. It was a significant purchase for us at the time (yes, we both contributed to it, since I thought it was not fair to expect my then fiancé to buy something expensive on his own when we were in our mid-20s and didn’t have a lot of money).

If other women prefer more expensive rings, that’s great for them. I love what I have; it’s very special to me.

I’m not OP but I’d be shocked anyone would not know pearls aren’t suitable for rings. I’m guessing you don’t wear it daily.

Someone should tell Mikimoto that.

She’s correct and of course they know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Did you buy it secondhand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Did you buy it secondhand?

This is the smartest way.

[Anonymous]

So I think the issue is expectations. Did he know what kind of ring you wanted and ignore your wishes? Does he tend to do that as a husband - not listen to you? Have you spoken up and mentioned you’d like to upgrade? If you have been fuming silently, it’s on you. If you’ve spoken up and this is a pattern… this is more than just a ring issue.

[Anonymous]

This is hilarious. My DH got me a nice ring. But I ended up selling it bc diamonds don't mean much to me. Seems like a waste. I got the money and we put it towards a house. Was such a better use of the funds and helped us move forward early on in our marriage

I don't think much about it. And he doesn't remember.

Diamond rings are a waste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Did you buy it secondhand?

Yes, the stone. Had it set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess you’d be shocked, then, that this is my engagement ring: https://www.mikimotoamerica.com/us_en/morning-dew-ring-akoya-and-diamonds-2

I love the symbolism of the pearl. It was a significant purchase for us at the time (yes, we both contributed to it, since I thought it was not fair to expect my then fiancé to buy something expensive on his own when we were in our mid-20s and didn’t have a lot of money).

If other women prefer more expensive rings, that’s great for them. I love what I have; it’s very special to me.

I’m not OP but I’d be shocked anyone would not know pearls aren’t suitable for rings. I’m guessing you don’t wear it daily.

Someone should tell Mikimoto that.

Go ask mikimoto if a pearl ring should be worn daily as an engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

See the "Things you have bought for 'status' reasons" thread.

OP this is so stupid. You really care about a piece of metal or stone on your finger? Or do you care about your status image? Find real concrete ways to feel secure about your marriage, and yourself.