I resent my husband for getting me a cheap engagement ring

[Anonymous]

My husband bought me a 7k 1 carat ring back when we got engaged 8 years ago. I was underwhelmed back then and as I saw other women in our circle get
Engaged with beautiful good quality rings worth 15k+

As we get older I am still angry and resentful. Was I not special or important enough for a nice ring?

[Anonymous]

Why are you married?

[Anonymous]

Troll. Nobody will take your post seriously.

[Anonymous]

Maybe ask if you can upgrade?

[Anonymous]

I can identify with this. I finally stopped wearing it after 15 years and now I never think about it anymore. I just wear a plain band. If you want a special ring, buy yourself something you like. No one cares about engagement rings past a certain age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Nobody will take your post seriously.

Agree. This is pretty silly.

Just get a new ring. People do it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband bought me a 7k 1 carat ring back when we got engaged 8 years ago. I was underwhelmed back then and as I saw other women in our circle get
Engaged with beautiful good quality rings worth 15k+

As we get older I am still angry and resentful. Was I not special or important enough for a nice ring?

Hopefully you're a troll. Either real one or an internet one. Nobody could really be this shallow and vapid, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Nobody will take your post seriously.

NP.. I kinda agree it might be a troll, but in case OP is not a troll..

what was DH's income back then? That matters.

When my sister got engaged, they didn't have much money, so yea, the ring wasn't all that nice. She was jealous of my ring when I got engaged, but DH (and I) were making good money. We were also a lot older when we got engaged compared to my sister.

Decades later, my sister's DH makes a lot more, and he got her a nice ring, nicer than mine, not that I care, really. I barely wear my engagement ring now. Stopped wearing it during the pandemic, and realize how much less of a hassle it is now without the ring.

[Anonymous]

I still resent my husband for not getting me a ring even once he could afford to. He makes so much money now and knows it was and is important to me and he still won’t do it.

[Anonymous]

For your husband's sake, get a divorce. Free him from you, because you sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

he probably spent the rest on a ring for his side piece

[Anonymous]

I'd resent it too if he could have afforded more.

I have a guy friend who made 300k, but he wanted to "test" his girlfriend. He gave her a .75ct ring in a shape she didn't even like and it was white gold when she wanted yellow or rose gold. He said that if she really wanted to marry him, that she would still accept the proposal even with a small ring. She dumped him. She thought his test was just nasty and bitter. A proposal shouldn't be a test or designed to deceive someone. She said she would have preferred to receive no ring rather than a ring he knew she wouldn't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Nobody will take your post seriously.

NP.. I kinda agree it might be a troll, but in case OP is not a troll..

what was DH's income back then? That matters.

When my sister got engaged, they didn't have much money, so yea, the ring wasn't all that nice. She was jealous of my ring when I got engaged, but DH (and I) were making good money. We were also a lot older when we got engaged compared to my sister.

Decades later, my sister's DH makes a lot more, and he got her a nice ring, nicer than mine, not that I care, really. I barely wear my engagement ring now. Stopped wearing it during the pandemic, and realize how much less of a hassle it is now without the ring.

Op here. He made about 75k. It’s a cheap setting as well. I hardly wear it due to embarrassment especially since all the women in our circle have rings worth 15k+ and the quality shows.

He makes more money now and says I can upgrade the setting of my ring. Really I want a nice 2 carat ring that will out do everyone else’s stupid ring they are so smug about!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd resent it too if he could have afforded more.

I have a guy friend who made 300k, but he wanted to "test" his girlfriend. He gave her a .75ct ring in a shape she didn't even like and it was white gold when she wanted yellow or rose gold. He said that if she really wanted to marry him, that she would still accept the proposal even with a small ring. She dumped him. She thought his test was just nasty and bitter. A proposal shouldn't be a test or designed to deceive someone. She said she would have preferred to receive no ring rather than a ring he knew she wouldn't like.

She did the right thing. That was a ahole move on his part. He already had no trust in her from the get go.

[Anonymous]

So change it out.