To the woman in Michaels at seven corners who told their daughter to grab your purse

[Anonymous]

Sorry this happened, this is my neighborhood Wish I had been there to support you.

[Anonymous]

When a cart is blocking whatever display at a store, I push the cart away. You are too nice, OP.

[Anonymous]

That’s great you weren’t going to take anything. Could you say the same for the rest of the people who might wander into the aisle while she is distracted.

When no one was around she felt it was fine to leave her purse unattended - btw it wasn’t - but as soon as someone showed up the. she decided she should pay attention.

Women of all races and ethnicities are stupid when it comes to leaving their purses in the cart.

[Anonymous]

OP I"m sorry. I hate that the last few years have taught people that showing their racism is ok. I"m white and like one of the posters on pag. 1 or 2, I too have had other white people say racist things to me. It so disgusting and since I don't have a poker face, I'm pretty sure they know what I'm thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time at the grocery store, I left my purse in my cart so I could look at the cakes for a friend's bday party. An AA woman picked it up and walked it over to me and said, "You shouldn't leave this in your cart". We were in the Vienna Giant it it was pretty empty - no one was going to steal my purse and run. I don't know why she felt the need to do this.

That said, I didn't let it ruin my day.

WTF????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When a cart is blocking whatever display at a store, I push the cart away. You are too nice, OP.

I don't think you understand. OP couldn't push the cart away because the lady's purse was in the cart. This is what white people don't understand - can you imagine the scene the lady would have made if she saw OP touching her cart? It's a sad world. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

I had my wallet stolen from my open purse in a shopping cart. I think that her advice had nothing to do with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My non racist mom does this. Once you’ve been robbed and had someone steal your purse, you’re anxious for the rest of your life.

And that’s understandable. For me, though, that would mean not leaving my purse in a shopping cart. That’s not quite what happened in this case though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The woman was definitely rude, and probably racist but not because she grabbed the bag, but because she didn’t move the cart for you. She grabbed the bag because she probably caught became aware when you approached her how close you were to the cart and the bag and she hadn’t noticed you until you spoke to her. So anyone could have just grabbed the bag, and she wouldn’t have been the wiser.

She was far away; her daughter came and took the cart. I gave her a chance to realize her misstep and apologize. She didn’t.

Well, op, if they were far from the cart and the purse was IN the cart, of course she’s going to tell her daughter to grab the purse.

Who leaves their purse in a cart and is far? Of course she’d realize that she needs to keep her purse with wallet, credit cards, and driver license, insurance cards, and who knows what other documents close to her. Not because you appeared, but because your appearance and calling her out on the card, made her realize how stupid she was to leave her purse behind. Anyway, I am not defending the woman. She was wrong, but her reaction of sending her daughter to bring the purse closer is natural to me - someone who holds close to my purse when I put irrespective where.

Why wouldn't you send your daughter to bring the cart closer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean I agree OP but not sure what brands have to do with anything. If you were wearing old navy and target (like I do) you still don’t deserve racial profiling. And you aren’t better than another person not wearing fancy brands.

OP here - totally agree. But folks like to make excuses for why these things happen, i.e., racial profiling and police brutality. You can be a highly educated, well off person, and still be seen as less than, when really, she really has no right to think I could ever want to steal her purse… if she actually saw me.

This. Exactly. Racism at its heart is not seeing individuals. I see you 👁👁 OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I"m sorry. I hate that the last few years have taught people that showing their racism is ok. I"m white and like one of the posters on pag. 1 or 2, I too have had other white people say racist things to me. It so disgusting and since I don't have a poker face, I'm pretty sure they know what I'm thinking.

You should not hide your true feelings when someone says something racist. Until white people make it clear to other white oriole they are disgusted by racism, nothing will change. You have to call it out. Every. Single. Time. No matter who it is speaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Np here . I’m also AA. I probably perpetuate it but I’m so used to it that if you ask me for help while we are in the store I loudly tell you “stop being racist. I don’t work here” (how much is this, where is this in the store questions)
I also snatch my purse when I see older white people coming toward me. And I lock and unlock my car doors when I see groups of whites coming toward my car. Nobody ever notices but I giggle.
Yes. I am not on the good list this year.

I think your first example is potentially unfair. I’m a white woman ho has been mistaken for a store employer countless times. I think there are some of us who just give off “I am a service worker” vibes wherever we go. Your other two subversive examples are hysterical.

I get asked where stuff is too! I always try to help though.

White middle aged woman here who is frequently asked for help at the grocery store— like how to pick the best fruit, etc. Also, location of things in the store. I am not offended and try to be helpful. Not sure why this is insulting to people.

[Anonymous]

She said for her daughter to grab her purse because she realized when you came by that she idiotically left her purse where anyone could take it. You are making an assumption that her decision was based on race. Don’t vicitimize yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said for her daughter to grab her purse because she realized when you came by that she idiotically left her purse where anyone could take it. You are making an assumption that her decision was based on race. Don’t vicitimize yourself.

I literally saw the way she looked at my face. If you haven't lived this experience, you wouldn't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I"m sorry. I hate that the last few years have taught people that showing their racism is ok. I"m white and like one of the posters on pag. 1 or 2, I too have had other white people say racist things to me. It so disgusting and since I don't have a poker face, I'm pretty sure they know what I'm thinking.

OP here. Thank you for admitting that. I hope you are willing to do the hard work now to call out their bias. I like to say "what precisely did you mean by that?" or something to that effect.