To the woman in Michaels at seven corners who told their daughter to grab your purse

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m so sorry. And you are my ahead-of-Christmas twin. Hope you enjoy some relaxation tonight after being so productive. And I also hope you have a fantastic holiday season!

[Anonymous]

Boden has the cutest stuff!

[Anonymous]

I’m really sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP. What a rude, racist person she is.

[Anonymous]

Np here . I’m also AA. I probably perpetuate it but I’m so used to it that if you ask me for help while we are in the store I loudly tell you “stop being racist. I don’t work here” (how much is this, where is this in the store questions)
I also snatch my purse when I see older white people coming toward me. And I lock and unlock my car doors when I see groups of whites coming toward my car. Nobody ever notices but I giggle.
Yes. I am not on the good list this year.

[Anonymous]

Not only racist, but also stupid. What kind of a purse snatcher asks you politely to move your cart?

I'm sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

As for not moving the cart, oh lordy, that is a NOVA white lady thing, they do it to me too and it's SO RUDE!!! It's like a game in their mind. What I like to do to those witches is casually bend over uncomfortably close to them. As they clearly intend to "stand their ground" and not budge. It's worse than the MD drivers who won't let you switch lanes. Well, in NOVA, you can't pass the nasty lady cart in their lane, and they won't let you in. They claim total control. Why I don't know. Some even slow walk.

[Anonymous]

One time at the grocery store, I left my purse in my cart so I could look at the cakes for a friend's bday party. An AA woman picked it up and walked it over to me and said, "You shouldn't leave this in your cart". We were in the Vienna Giant it it was pretty empty - no one was going to steal my purse and run. I don't know why she felt the need to do this.

That said, I didn't let it ruin my day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's scared of POC, I'm surprised she was in 7 Corners.

This.

FWIW, I'm in my late 40s, very fair blonde. This recently happened to me at a store, and like you OP, I was dressed (reasonably) well. Some people suck and distrust everyone, and some people suck and are racist, and some people are both.

Don't let people like that ruin your day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you DCUM! You rock. I left Michaels with my wares, popped into Five Below, picked up a few more stocking stuffers, and headed back home. You are right; I need to shake it off that my venting helped me do, so thanks!

I can’t believe you’re already shopping for Xmas!! So impressed…..I need to get my act together. Sending you happy thoughts.

Hahaha this was going to be my reaction to OP, [/i]you're effin holiday shopping already!?[i] but thought too insensitive. I'm sorry for the ignorant Coach bag lady OP. Any ideas for stocking stuffers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time at the grocery store, I left my purse in my cart so I could look at the cakes for a friend's bday party. An AA woman picked it up and walked it over to me and said, "You shouldn't leave this in your cart". We were in the Vienna Giant it it was pretty empty - no one was going to steal my purse and run. I don't know why she felt the need to do this.

That said, I didn't let it ruin my day.

This is the exact opposite of what happened to OP. Why would you let it ruin your day that a woman was looking out for you?

You're weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just so phucking sorry, OP. This actually brought tears to my eyes.

This brought tears to your eyes? Wow, if you only knew. We POC live through this kind of stuff all.the.time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You put your cart right in front of all stocking stuffers and then shopped elsewhere on the aisle while you looked for prizes for whatever. I asked if you could scoot your cart out of the way as I approached. I saw you look at my face, make a quick calculation, and tell your daughter to grab your purse. Not grab the cart, but grab your purse (that was in the cart). You didn't notice that I was wearing boden, northface, and brooks, just like your family, or that I had high end glasses. All you saw was the color of my skin. And when I told you, I didn't want anything out of your purse, I'm just here to shop, just like you, you quickly retorted, "I know," in a condescending way. So if you were wearing black croc flats, a coral coach bag, and your daughter had a fox boden sweatshirt on, yeah, I'm talking to you. You are racist and you ruined my perfectly nice day off. F. U.; you suck.

I am so sorry. Some people suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As for not moving the cart, oh lordy, that is a NOVA white lady thing, they do it to me too and it's SO RUDE!!! It's like a game in their mind. What I like to do to those witches is casually bend over uncomfortably close to them. As they clearly intend to "stand their ground" and not budge. It's worse than the MD drivers who won't let you switch lanes. Well, in NOVA, you can't pass the nasty lady cart in their lane, and they won't let you in. They claim total control. Why I don't know. Some even slow walk.

This happens to me all the time at my grocery store in DC and it's not always white women leaving their carts in everyone's way. I think people in general are just rude and totally oblivious to the fact that they have to share space with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Np here . I’m also AA. I probably perpetuate it but I’m so used to it that if you ask me for help while we are in the store I loudly tell you “stop being racist. I don’t work here” (how much is this, where is this in the store questions)
I also snatch my purse when I see older white people coming toward me. And I lock and unlock my car doors when I see groups of whites coming toward my car. Nobody ever notices but I giggle.
Yes. I am not on the good list this year.

I think your first example is potentially unfair. I’m a white woman ho has been mistaken for a store employer countless times. I think there are some of us who just give off “I am a service worker” vibes wherever we go. Your other two subversive examples are hysterical.