Men, would you date or marry someone considered fat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This topic has come up in another group I am in, and the men all say they don't care about a woman's weight. These are men from outside DC and across the country.

Simps gonna simp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This topic has come up in another group I am in, and the men all say they don't care about a woman's weight. These are men from outside DC and across the country.

I'm assuming it's not an anonymous group. Most men won't admit it in a group that includes women. Also, many men don't care about a woman's weight when it comes to sex but marriage and dating is often another issue.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course you should if you like her. But, she should not be with you bc you are unable to overcome societal negativity and pressure around someone “considered fat.”

If I’m being completely honest, societal pressure has zero to do with who I’m attracted to and who I’ll date. I can’t emphasize this enough. I date who I’m attracted to - much the same as women.

I’m also in the “lid for every pot” camp. Some of our friends are definitely what you’d describe as fat (I personally don’t think about it) and have a very happy marriage.

I dont believe this. So many men are easily influenced, but they all want to believe their mavericks who think for themselves. I dated a very powerful/well known man in my city and it was amazing how much more male attention I got afterwards. Suddenly men were coming out of the woodwork after we broke up, all because I had some kind of new status or social clout since such a powerful man had wanted me. It was really a turn off. Men who were quiet before were suddenly all over me, because of the social status.

I'm not fat but I have no doubt there are many men attracted to fat women who dont come forward because most men are cowards and extremely concerned/preoccupied with what their friends will say. Many men are essentially social golddiggers, looking to use a woman for clout and social recognition

It's much easier for you to believe in this huge conspiracy than to accept that men just might not be attracted to you or very overweight women. Interesting.

Well, men are very attracted to me, or did you not read my post at all? What a bizarre comment that has nothing to do with what I said. Anyway...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course you should if you like her. But, she should not be with you bc you are unable to overcome societal negativity and pressure around someone “considered fat.”

If I’m being completely honest, societal pressure has zero to do with who I’m attracted to and who I’ll date. I can’t emphasize this enough. I date who I’m attracted to - much the same as women.

I’m also in the “lid for every pot” camp. Some of our friends are definitely what you’d describe as fat (I personally don’t think about it) and have a very happy marriage.

I dont believe this. So many men are easily influenced, but they all want to believe their mavericks who think for themselves. I dated a very powerful/well known man in my city and it was amazing how much more male attention I got afterwards. Suddenly men were coming out of the woodwork after we broke up, all because I had some kind of new status or social clout since such a powerful man had wanted me. It was really a turn off. Men who were quiet before were suddenly all over me, because of the social status.

I'm not fat but I have no doubt there are many men attracted to fat women who dont come forward because most men are cowards and extremely concerned/preoccupied with what their friends will say. Many men are essentially social golddiggers, looking to use a woman for clout and social recognition

It's much easier for you to believe in this huge conspiracy than to accept that men just might not be attracted to you or very overweight women. Interesting.

Well, men are very attracted to me, or did you not read my post at all? What a bizarre comment that has nothing to do with what I said. Anyway...

"I'm not fat, but because men wanted to date me they also want to date fat women"

-PP

[Anonymous]

I married a fat women. Fell in love with her 30 years ago, have had a wonderful marriage, the sex is great, heck yes I would marry a fat woman!

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Anonymous wrote:Of course you should if you like her. But, she should not be with you bc you are unable to overcome societal negativity and pressure around someone “considered fat.”

If I’m being completely honest, societal pressure has zero to do with who I’m attracted to and who I’ll date. I can’t emphasize this enough. I date who I’m attracted to - much the same as women.

I’m also in the “lid for every pot” camp. Some of our friends are definitely what you’d describe as fat (I personally don’t think about it) and have a very happy marriage.

I dont believe this. So many men are easily influenced, but they all want to believe their mavericks who think for themselves. I dated a very powerful/well known man in my city and it was amazing how much more male attention I got afterwards. Suddenly men were coming out of the woodwork after we broke up, all because I had some kind of new status or social clout since such a powerful man had wanted me. It was really a turn off. Men who were quiet before were suddenly all over me, because of the social status.

I'm not fat but I have no doubt there are many men attracted to fat women who dont come forward because most men are cowards and extremely concerned/preoccupied with what their friends will say. Many men are essentially social golddiggers, looking to use a woman for clout and social recognition

It's much easier for you to believe in this huge conspiracy than to accept that men just might not be attracted to you or very overweight women. Interesting.

Well, men are very attracted to me, or did you not read my post at all? What a bizarre comment that has nothing to do with what I said. Anyway...

"I'm not fat, but because men wanted to date me they also want to date fat women"

-PP

Yep, because the point is men are very easily socially influenced. And their so called "innate desire" fluctuates wildly based on a woman's social status and social desirability.

Anyway, reading comprehension is clearly not your strength.

[Anonymous]

If they are friendly its great but most fat women I met have been the b i t chi est person in the room. Also the constant heavy breathing and none I've met have been quiet or shy. Its like they like drawing in attention

[Anonymous]

Yep, because the point is men are very easily socially influenced. And their so called "innate desire" fluctuates wildly based on a woman's social status and social desirability.

You’re making stuff up. I married a woman without social status. Because she was hot, fun, and she wanted to have sex with me frequently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course you should if you like her. But, she should not be with you bc you are unable to overcome societal negativity and pressure around someone “considered fat.”

If I’m being completely honest, societal pressure has zero to do with who I’m attracted to and who I’ll date. I can’t emphasize this enough. I date who I’m attracted to - much the same as women.

I’m also in the “lid for every pot” camp. Some of our friends are definitely what you’d describe as fat (I personally don’t think about it) and have a very happy marriage.

I dont believe this. So many men are easily influenced, but they all want to believe their mavericks who think for themselves. I dated a very powerful/well known man in my city and it was amazing how much more male attention I got afterwards. Suddenly men were coming out of the woodwork after we broke up, all because I had some kind of new status or social clout since such a powerful man had wanted me. It was really a turn off. Men who were quiet before were suddenly all over me, because of the social status.

I'm not fat but I have no doubt there are many men attracted to fat women who dont come forward because most men are cowards and extremely concerned/preoccupied with what their friends will say. Many men are essentially social golddiggers, looking to use a woman for clout and social recognition

It's much easier for you to believe in this huge conspiracy than to accept that men just might not be attracted to you or very overweight women. Interesting.

Well, men are very attracted to me, or did you not read my post at all? What a bizarre comment that has nothing to do with what I said. Anyway...

I have heard some fat women say (and maybe on this thread, I haven’t read all the comments) that they date and then marry very desirable (and conventionally attractive men) because dating a conventionally attractive woman affords a man social status. Extremely desirable men don’t need that extra social status, but men who are less attractive, make less money, don’t have awesome personalities etc can’t afford the hit in social capital that comes from dating somebody who is overweight. I don’t actually know anybody like this IRL (I don’t actually know that many *extremely* desirable men IRL; DH is desirable but he’s short) but I do see it online.

[Anonymous]

No

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Is this a trick question? Of course not. Fat women are repulsive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet society considers Christina Hendricks fat…

Google tells me she's 5'7" 161. so a BMI of 25.2.

I'd date her.

Date her? I’d marry her!

No way she's 161, maybe 181. But, yes, it's more about proportions in the end and she is gorgeous.

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Anonymous wrote:No, because all women get fatter after marriage. I married an overweight woman, and she got a lot bigger.

Did you stay the same weight?

I'd put on 20 lbs and then lose 30 lbs. At times I was in better shape than when I got married, which made her angry.

So your weight fluctuation is forgivable, even admirable, her hers is not. Got you.

I'm not the pp, but my wife and I were comparably thin when we met. I've gained 10 pounds in 20 years, she's gained 40+. I think it's our duty as partners to stay within 10% of the weight we were when we met.

Sure, if there were no pushing out of babies and menopause. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Yep, because the point is men are very easily socially influenced. And their so called "innate desire" fluctuates wildly based on a woman's social status and social desirability.

Hahahaha another woman projecting female attitudes onto men.

“women are very easily socially influenced. And their so called "innate desire" fluctuates wildly based on a man's social status and social desirability.”

FIFY

Men DNGAF about your social status, just your hotness.

[Anonymous]

I have heard some fat women say (and maybe on this thread, I haven’t read all the comments) that they date and then marry very desirable (and conventionally attractive men) because dating a conventionally attractive woman affords a man social status. Extremely desirable men don’t need that extra social status, but men who are less attractive, make less money, don’t have awesome personalities etc can’t afford the hit in social capital that comes from dating somebody who is overweight

File under: huge cope

Very desirable men have very desirable women throwing themselves at them, they don’t need to settle for a fatty.