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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course you should if you like her. But, she should not be with you bc you are unable to overcome societal negativity and pressure around someone “considered fat.”[/quote]

If I’m being completely honest, societal pressure has zero to do with who I’m attracted to and who I’ll date. I can’t emphasize this enough.  I date who I’m attracted to - much the same as women.

I’m also in the “lid for every pot” camp.  Some of our friends are definitely what you’d describe as fat (I personally don’t think about it) and have a very happy marriage.

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I dont believe this.  So many men are easily influenced, but they all want to believe their mavericks who think for themselves.  I dated a very powerful/well known man in my city and it was amazing how much more male attention I got afterwards.  Suddenly men were coming out of the woodwork after we broke up, all because I had some kind of new status or social clout since such a powerful man had wanted me.  It was really a turn off.  Men who were quiet before were suddenly all over me, because of the social status.

I'm not fat but I have no doubt there are many men attracted to fat women who dont come forward because most men are cowards and extremely concerned/preoccupied with what their friends will say.  Many men are essentially social golddiggers, looking to use a woman for clout and social recognition [/quote]

It's much easier for you to believe in this huge conspiracy than to accept that  men just might not be attracted to you or very overweight women.  Interesting.[/quote]

Well, men are very attracted to me, or did you not read my post at all?  What a bizarre comment that has nothing to do with what I said.  Anyway... [/quote]

I have heard some fat women say (and maybe on this thread, I haven’t read all the comments) that they date and then marry very desirable (and conventionally attractive men) because dating a conventionally attractive woman affords a man social status. Extremely desirable men don’t need that extra social status, but men who are less attractive, make less money, don’t have awesome personalities etc can’t afford the hit in social capital that comes from dating somebody who is overweight. I don’t actually know anybody like this IRL (I don’t actually know that many *extremely* desirable men IRL; DH is desirable but he’s short) but I do see it online. [/quote]

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