Guy canceled date
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Anonymous
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I guess if you're already talking to internet strangers in a stressed way after 2 dates, I don't think this is going to work out. There's almost nothing invested here and you sound unhappy with this situation. Maybe dating a guy with kids and the agreement he has with his ex doesn't work for you.
Sounds like you're not that into him and that's fine. That's what dating is about, funding out if you're compatible. |
Anonymous
You don't realize relationships with kids involved...you have no control over it. Also, if you're upset his kids came before you...do not date a man with kids. Kids will ALWAYS come before you - PERIOD. |
Anonymous
OP doesn’t seem to be taking issue at all with the fact that the date apparently had to bail to take care of his kids. The questionable behavior seems to be: 1. He texted and reminded her to get ready and be on time (for a date she paid for lol), then 2. At the last minute he texts to bail and makes it sound like a business transaction (get a refund) with no mention of getting together again, then 3. The following up text says he’s bummed about missing the (free) movie instead of missing seeing her, then 4. No follow up yet to make up for bailing at the last minute. OP, what this means is he is not serious about you. And that’s okay if you want to date someone very casually. I suggest do not invest anything in this guy. No advance purchase of tickets, no efforts to plan dates. No expectations. Maybe just keep it coffee or a walk in the park so that you won’t be disappointed. If he were to show that he’s in fact interested, then you could become more invested. That’s true for any dating situation. |
Anonymous
Yup tthis guy sounds like a bum thith a capital B. I've date that they will use their kids to gaslight yo about their trash behavior towards you. Don't dall for it, OP. Throw this one back into the sea. |
Anonymous
You are too needy. He already apologized. Grow up. |
Anonymous
How could he be serious after two dates? Your response is ridiculous. Kind of crap is why men think women are crazy and I say this as a woman. |
Anonymous
+1 OP is too high maintenance. He apologized yesterday. He could still be with kids! OMG. She should Only date childless men that have known lives I can be at her beck and call and tied to their phones because this is not most normal people—and especially not people who have children. OP is too demanding and needy. He has kids there was an emergency and he went to be with his kids and they’ve only had two dates! Dating someone with children requires flexibility and clearly OP does not have it at all. |
Anonymous
| Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-! |
Anonymous
He already apologized he doesn’t need to text her to apologize again! the next time he text her he should ask her out on a date—it doesn’t have to be the very next day—they’ve only been out twice! what’s wrong with you people! |
Anonymous
| Did you ever reply to the 2nd text? |
Anonymous
That is actually a very nice text—and if you don’t see this then you’re a moron. Personally I think he should find somebody better than you because you are way too high maintenance. |
Anonymous
You don't think it's odd that he isn't suggesting a makeup date? |
Anonymous
If she has not replied to he text from yesterday, then no I don't think it is odd. |
Anonymous
No i did not |
Anonymous
If it were me, I’d reply with a “Thank you, you too! Hope all is well!!” And see what happens. Ball is in his court to plan the next date (or not). |