Guy canceled date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here! I texted no worries as I didnt want to sound batshit and this was his response: ‘ I’m so so sorry I’ve been dying to see that movie 😫 let me know about the tickets I’m happy to pay for them since I’m the asshole right now 😞‘

I don’t know why but this annoys me even more ! It sounds possibly legit... But...’I'm dying to see that movie, instead of I was really looking forward to spending time with you.’

I don’t know if I should call him out on it, Im just annoyed and won’t even text back tonight til I have my emotions on check as I really liked him and now its looking like it might not work out

You've been on two dates. It's disappointing but there's no reason to look for problems, and being this invested and wound up at this point will not bode well for the relationship, even if he is into you.
Take a breath and give it a day, and then a few more. You'll know soon enough what's what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here! I texted no worries as I didnt want to sound batshit and this was his response: ‘ I’m so so sorry I’ve been dying to see that movie 😫 let me know about the tickets I’m happy to pay for them since I’m the asshole right now 😞‘

I don’t know why but this annoys me even more ! It sounds possibly legit... But...’I'm dying to see that movie, instead of I was really looking forward to spending time with you.’

I don’t know if I should call him out on it, Im just annoyed and won’t even text back tonight til I have my emotions on check as I really liked him and now its looking like it might not work out

I get last-minute cancellations are annoying, but I think you are working yourself up to be more upset than you need be.

I think you are too invested in this relationship for 2 almost 3 dates.. You need to be accepting other dates, don't let this guy be your only source.

[Anonymous]

How old is he?

So he didn’t call you tonight to apologize on the phone.

Aaaand it sounds like he has tried to reschedule.

Not good signs.

Just keep dating others and see if he asks you out again but take things slow

[Anonymous]

I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is he?

So he didn’t call you tonight to apologize on the phone.

Aaaand it sounds like he has tried to reschedule.

Not good signs.

Just keep dating others and see if he asks you out again but take things slow

Typo. I meant to say he has not tried to reschedule. And why are you the one who bought the movie tickets? Why didn’t he buy them? Definitely some yellow lights here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

His ex had custody. He had plans on a Saturday night with OP. His ex wanting to take a work shift does not mean that he had to cancel his date with a P. He could’ve told his ass he had plans and then she could’ve decided to either get a babysitter or turn down the work shift. Potentially shows they have a dynamic where he bailed her out and they have a lot of murkiness and annoying things happening with the custody schedule, which may not be good from a dating perspective. He prioritized his access work schedule over Op. If he did that a lot, that would be a very annoying characteristic in a boyfriend. Opie is not yet his girlfriend, but if she were to become his girlfriend, she would deserve some level of prioritization of his life. And if he were to continue to prioritize his ex wanting to take last minute shifts and canceling on his girlfriend as result, that’s not a great situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

His ex had custody. He had plans on a Saturday night with OP. His ex wanting to take a work shift does not mean that he had to cancel his date with a P. He could’ve told his ass he had plans and then she could’ve decided to either get a babysitter or turn down the work shift. Potentially shows they have a dynamic where he bailed her out and they have a lot of murkiness and annoying things happening with the custody schedule, which may not be good from a dating perspective. He prioritized his access work schedule over Op. If he did that a lot, that would be a very annoying characteristic in a boyfriend. Opie is not yet his girlfriend, but if she were to become his girlfriend, she would deserve some level of prioritization of his life. And if he were to continue to prioritize his ex wanting to take last minute shifts and canceling on his girlfriend as result, that’s not a great situation.

Sorry lot of typos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

His ex had custody. He had plans on a Saturday night with OP. His ex wanting to take a work shift does not mean that he had to cancel his date with a P. He could’ve told his ass he had plans and then she could’ve decided to either get a babysitter or turn down the work shift. Potentially shows they have a dynamic where he bailed her out and they have a lot of murkiness and annoying things happening with the custody schedule, which may not be good from a dating perspective. He prioritized his access work schedule over Op. If he did that a lot, that would be a very annoying characteristic in a boyfriend. Opie is not yet his girlfriend, but if she were to become his girlfriend, she would deserve some level of prioritization of his life. And if he were to continue to prioritize his ex wanting to take last minute shifts and canceling on his girlfriend as result, that’s not a great situation.

+1 this is what I popped on here to say. Why didn't he tell his ex sorry but I have plans. Like the poster above said I'm a little concerned that this will be a pattern if you guys do become exclusive that he will jump to whatever his ex says. What if he was already out of town for the evening at an overnight trip somewhere what would his ex have done? I'm not saying you shouldn't date this guy or that he was wrong to cancel but just keep your guard up OP.

Words are powerful and it struck me that he said he was looking forward to seeing the movie and not I'm looking forward to spending time with you. Why is he more disappointed about not seeing a movie than seeing his date?

[Anonymous]

Damn this guy for prioritizing his kids over a woman he's been on 2 dates with! OP should move on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn this guy for prioritizing his kids over a woman he's been on 2 dates with! OP should move on!

Ha. This.

My kids will always come before someone I’ve been on 2 dates with. If OP can’t handle that kids will come first, she needs to move on.

Tho this guy sounds like a dream compared to all the loser fathers I know who will happily bail on their children for a piece of ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn this guy for prioritizing his kids over a woman he's been on 2 dates with! OP should move on!

Ha. This.

My kids will always come before someone I’ve been on 2 dates with. If OP can’t handle that kids will come first, she needs to move on.

Tho this guy sounds like a dream compared to all the loser fathers I know who will happily bail on their children for a piece of ass.

He needs not to date as other single parents in this thread have pointed out this set up is problematic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn this guy for prioritizing his kids over a woman he's been on 2 dates with! OP should move on!

Ha. This.

My kids will always come before someone I’ve been on 2 dates with. If OP can’t handle that kids will come first, she needs to move on.

Tho this guy sounds like a dream compared to all the loser fathers I know who will happily bail on their children for a piece of ass.

He wasn't prioritizing his kids. He was prioritizing his ex-wife.. The ex-wife could have said she couldn't take the shift or have a backup sitter if she wants to work call-in shifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

His ex had custody. He had plans on a Saturday night with OP. His ex wanting to take a work shift does not mean that he had to cancel his date with a P. He could’ve told his ass he had plans and then she could’ve decided to either get a babysitter or turn down the work shift. Potentially shows they have a dynamic where he bailed her out and they have a lot of murkiness and annoying things happening with the custody schedule, which may not be good from a dating perspective. He prioritized his access work schedule over Op. If he did that a lot, that would be a very annoying characteristic in a boyfriend. Opie is not yet his girlfriend, but if she were to become his girlfriend, she would deserve some level of prioritization of his life. And if he were to continue to prioritize his ex wanting to take last minute shifts and canceling on his girlfriend as result, that’s not a great situation.

+1 this is what I popped on here to say. Why didn't he tell his ex sorry but I have plans. Like the poster above said I'm a little concerned that this will be a pattern if you guys do become exclusive that he will jump to whatever his ex says. What if he was already out of town for the evening at an overnight trip somewhere what would his ex have done? I'm not saying you shouldn't date this guy or that he was wrong to cancel but just keep your guard up OP.

Words are powerful and it struck me that he said he was looking forward to seeing the movie and not I'm looking forward to spending time with you. Why is he more disappointed about not seeing a movie than seeing his date?

This all day. People will come in here though and try to twist it into he was prioritizing his kids and kids first !!!, when it's got nothing to do with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too hard on the guy. It is hard to get back up sitters in Covid. This can happen for people with kids. It can also happen if you date a surgeon without kids. Grow up.

His ex had custody. He had plans on a Saturday night with OP. His ex wanting to take a work shift does not mean that he had to cancel his date with a P. He could’ve told his ass he had plans and then she could’ve decided to either get a babysitter or turn down the work shift. Potentially shows they have a dynamic where he bailed her out and they have a lot of murkiness and annoying things happening with the custody schedule, which may not be good from a dating perspective. He prioritized his access work schedule over Op. If he did that a lot, that would be a very annoying characteristic in a boyfriend. Opie is not yet his girlfriend, but if she were to become his girlfriend, she would deserve some level of prioritization of his life. And if he were to continue to prioritize his ex wanting to take last minute shifts and canceling on his girlfriend as result, that’s not a great situation.

Wrong. His ex may not have had a choice. This was apparently an emergency…hospitals are short staffed. She could be an ER nurse and had to go in for whatever reason. Kids come first. Sometimes things come up. It sounds like he is a great dad and OP should not date anyone with children or anyone with a demanding career. She is too high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn this guy for prioritizing his kids over a woman he's been on 2 dates with! OP should move on!

Ha. This.

My kids will always come before someone I’ve been on 2 dates with. If OP can’t handle that kids will come first, she needs to move on.

Tho this guy sounds like a dream compared to all the loser fathers I know who will happily bail on their children for a piece of ass.

+1 exactly