Guy canceled date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-!

Obviously he’s feeling bad about it. I guess OP will see if he reschedules. Otherwise she should move on.

[Anonymous]

10 minutes beforehand? Sounds like he's married and thought he could get away but his plan went south so he bailed on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-!

That is actually a very nice text—and if you don’t see this then you’re a moron. Personally I think he should find somebody better than you because you are way too high maintenance.

You don't think it's odd that he isn't suggesting a makeup date?

No, I don’t. He probably will give him a minute. I would expect the next text to say can we have a date when he knows when he can do it he might not know when he can do it right now it’s only been one day! This is seriously why men think women are crazy because they overthink. I am a mid-40s woman. Guy sounds like a super nice guy he’s apologize twice already and he still can’t get it right with people who are so high means that it’s ridiculous give him a chance to plan another date before he asks for another date! Jeez! I really think this guy find somebody better suited to him because OP is ridiculous and he sounds very respectful and nice from what I’ve seen in these texts.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure how I feel about this. 3rd date, we were supposed to go to the movies, 10 minutes before he was supposed to pick me up , I get this. This is after him texting me an hour prior reminding me to get ready so we wouldn’t be late. He told me before that his ex was a nurse, I know emergencies can happen and its tricky with kids, but I know men lie as well, so part of me is pissed that I got ready for nothing and also wondering if it’s just an excuse!

‘I have some bad news 😔 my ex got called in for an emergency at work and I gotta grab the kids. I’m so sorry! If you can get a refund on the tickets let me know. If not I will pay you for the tickets!! I feel so bad I’m sorry!’

I would take this at face value for what it is. If it happens again, there’s a possibility his ex is deliberately interfering in his dating life, but that would be really unusual. But this doesn’t sound like flaking to me.

I agree that it may not be flaking, but how the guy went about it shows he's got no respect for OP. O should put him on the backburner, go on dates with other guys, if she's still interested in him, and he asks her out and she's availbale by all means go on another date, but don't sit around waiting for him, or make him her only option.

This is not an example of him putting OP on the back burner at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-!

That is actually a very nice text—and if you don’t see this then you’re a moron. Personally I think he should find somebody better than you because you are way too high maintenance.

You don't think it's odd that he isn't suggesting a makeup date?

If she has not replied to he text from yesterday, then no I don't think it is odd.

If it were me, I’d reply with a “Thank you, you too! Hope all is well!!” And see what happens. Ball is in his court to plan the next date (or not).

It’s a terrible response if she’s interested in another date. Some thing like “thanks, I understand,” would be much more suitable. If I were him I wouldn’t ask her on another date and I’m a woman because she didn’t respond to the other text she’s playing games and being ridiculous and immature

[Anonymous]

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OP doesn’t seem to be taking issue at all with the fact that the date apparently had to bail to take care of his kids. The questionable behavior seems to be:

1. He texted and reminded her to get ready and be on time (for a date she paid for lol), then

2. At the last minute he texts to bail and makes it sound like a business transaction (get a refund) with no mention of getting together again, then

3. The following up text says he’s bummed about missing the (free) movie instead of missing seeing her, then

4. No follow up yet to make up for bailing at the last minute.

This is all part of his sinister plan! First he'll text an hour before to tell her to be ready, then 10 minutes before he cancels. All over some $20 movie tickets. He really pulled off the heist of the century! I bet he had been planning this for months!

[Anonymous]

OP: do not date men with children. You can’t handle it.

[Anonymous]

Nurses don’t have to “go in for emergencies”

Unless there was some kind of mass casualty event, but you’d know about that. Nurses are hourly workers. They aren’t on call, usually. And if they are on call, it is scheduled. It is possible her work called and asked if she was available to come in, to which she could have said no because she has kids. Unless she is a military nurse.

Doesn’t make sense to me and i suspect he is probably in part lying

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-!

That is actually a very nice text—and if you don’t see this then you’re a moron. Personally I think he should find somebody better than you because you are way too high maintenance.

You don't think it's odd that he isn't suggesting a makeup date?

If she has not replied to he text from yesterday, then no I don't think it is odd.

If it were me, I’d reply with a “Thank you, you too! Hope all is well!!” And see what happens. Ball is in his court to plan the next date (or not).

It’s a terrible response if she’s interested in another date. Some thing like “thanks, I understand,” would be much more suitable. If I were him I wouldn’t ask her on another date and I’m a woman because she didn’t respond to the other text she’s playing games and being ridiculous and immature

There's absolutely nothing wrong with OP, she just needs to drop this guy. Someone who cancels at the last minute and doesn't ask for another date is not worth her time or energy.

[Anonymous]

Have you responded yet, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nurses don’t have to “go in for emergencies”

Unless there was some kind of mass casualty event, but you’d know about that. Nurses are hourly workers. They aren’t on call, usually. And if they are on call, it is scheduled. It is possible her work called and asked if she was available to come in, to which she could have said no because she has kids. Unless she is a military nurse.

Doesn’t make sense to me and i suspect he is probably in part lying [/]

I think the guy got a “better offer” last night, but sent the text this morning to keep OP around as a backup. One thing I’ve learned from dating is, if someone really wants to be with you they will make it happen. Of course things come up, but his actions are not of someone who is actually that interested in OP. He might be a great dad (if that story is true). He might be a great friend, and great person. But for OP, he’s just not that into you.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- 1st text I got back from him : ‘So Sorry again about last night, hope you have a wonderful day ‘ :-!

That is actually a very nice text—and if you don’t see this then you’re a moron. Personally I think he should find somebody better than you because you are way too high maintenance.

You don't think it's odd that he isn't suggesting a makeup date?

If she has not replied to he text from yesterday, then no I don't think it is odd.

If it were me, I’d reply with a “Thank you, you too! Hope all is well!!” And see what happens. Ball is in his court to plan the next date (or not).

Bad response. That sounds like she’s blowing him off. He’ll likely perceive it that she’s upset and trying to indicate she’s not interested.

If you wanna reschedule with him, just say so. “Hope you had fun with your kids. When do you want to reschedule?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nurses don’t have to “go in for emergencies”

Unless there was some kind of mass casualty event, but you’d know about that. Nurses are hourly workers. They aren’t on call, usually. And if they are on call, it is scheduled. It is possible her work called and asked if she was available to come in, to which she could have said no because she has kids. Unless she is a military nurse.

Doesn’t make sense to me and i suspect he is probably in part lying

Lol you know there is a severe sort shortage of nurses…something about covid and everyone over worked.

[Anonymous]

This “relationship” has no future.

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Anonymous wrote:Nurses don’t have to “go in for emergencies”

Unless there was some kind of mass casualty event, but you’d know about that. Nurses are hourly workers. They aren’t on call, usually. And if they are on call, it is scheduled. It is possible her work called and asked if she was available to come in, to which she could have said no because she has kids. Unless she is a military nurse.

Doesn’t make sense to me and i suspect he is probably in part lying

Lol you know there is a severe sort shortage of nurses…something about covid and everyone over worked.

Ok and they can’t make you come in- as an hourly worker. You aren’t obligated to provide backup. That is what agencies are for. They can ask- but they can’t make you come in as a nurse if you are not scheduled