Why am I not getting any hits on apps

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

I’m a woman and I think this is a catfish.

Eaxctly. An attractive woman with a good body will get plenty of (initial) interest from men of all ages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet your photos are NOT good. I made a profile set to make seeking female and screen shotted the first ten profiles fed to me. She was shocked when I sent them to her: professional-looking makeup and hair, professional-looking photos, lovely carefully-planned outfits.

When you sent them to who? I’d be turned off by professionally done photos. Unless you have hair and makeup pros on call at all times, that’s not what you’re going to look like in day to day life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

If that's what you have on your app, very little of it strikes me as fun. Enjoyable, perhaps, but not fun.

Yeah, what is a cultural outing?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

If that's what you have on your app, very little of it strikes me as fun. Enjoyable, perhaps, but not fun.

What? Speak for yourself. Not everyone likes to sit around every night watching Below Deck and scrolling on Facebook.

The problem with listing these activities is that the people in your age bracket who like these things typically don't hang out on dating apps. And yes, the younger guys are messaging you to hook up because you look hot.

That you think that's the alternative speaks volumes about you.

Some of it is messaging - OP seems very passive and kinda boring. Change music to concerts; change the outdoors to hiking (or whatever).

And throw a sport in there, if at all possible.

No. Not necessary at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

Yes, it’s one thing to be underweight at 19, or even 29, but at 49 it looks more Skeletor than Kate Moss.

[Anonymous]

I like air, water, blue skies and interesting ideas [barf]

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

Yes, it’s one thing to be underweight at 19, or even 29, but at 49 it looks more Skeletor than Kate Moss.

Op and I’m about ten pounds heavier in the photos, though still thin at 124-126. You really can’t see much though, my full length photo is in ski clothes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

Yes, it’s one thing to be underweight at 19, or even 29, but at 49 it looks more Skeletor than Kate Moss.

Op and I’m about ten pounds heavier in the photos, though still thin at 124-126. You really can’t see much though, my full length photo is in ski clothes.

That may be the problem. You need a full length photo that shows off your body more. Ski clothes just look dumpy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to get some male input on your profile and the photos. Head shots and one full length my look too staid.

I am staid. I’m not looking for hookups. I am feral in bed with someone I love and trust, but that takes intimacy and time to find out.

It’s probably because you use words like “staid” and “feral.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If OP wants a late-50s, divorced dad, tall, insatiable, and a PhD, I read this board most days.

I'm not this PP but that's also exactly me, and I'm on the apps right now.

Are men this desperate? You haven't even met this woman. Any live hole will do, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Often wonder why people "think" they are pretty. If you're pretty (and at age 49 you're "old" for most people in the dating pool, you'd know it. But, are you forgetting you are almost 50???

Oh so are you implying that a woman almost fifty has zero chance of being considered “pretty??!”

Jennifer Lopez, Mariah Carey, Gwen Stefani, Heather Graham and more are over fifty and I am betting they look better than you even on your best day.

I am always amused when people hold out movie stars and models as examples of “older but pretty”. The OP is not Jennifer Lopez. Nobody on DCUM is Jennifer Lopez. Shut up about Jennifer Lopez, Mariah Carey, Gwen Stefani, Heather Graham, etc, they are not relevant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to get some male input on your profile and the photos. Head shots and one full length my look too staid.

I am staid. I’m not looking for hookups. I am feral in bed with someone I love and trust, but that takes intimacy and time to find out.

It’s probably because you use words like “staid” and “feral.”

“Feral in bed” sounds incredibly creepy tbh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. You need:
- At least one full-body photo
- Mention you have kids, no photos of them. Otherwise men will think it's weird you're that age and didn't have any (i.e. what's wrong with you)
- Don't write too long of a profile, but not too short either
- Don't write too many "demands" in your profile -- comes off as high maintenance.

Feel free to post the text (modifed as you like) and we can give you advice.

Whatever you don't take advice from this man! Yuck! You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has these many retrograde beliefs.

LOL yeah don’t take advice from a man about what men want. Instead take advice from a woman about what men should want.

His advice is basically correct. If you’re interested in attracting a man, that is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If OP wants a late-50s, divorced dad, tall, insatiable, and a PhD, I read this board most days.

I'm not this PP but that's also exactly me, and I'm on the apps right now.

Are men this desperate? You haven't even met this woman. Any live hole will do, right?

If it's wet, yes.

[Anonymous]

You all have this wrong.

Men are looking at photos first. If they are good, then you look at the words.

All these women responding about how boring the activities sound have it all wrong. They are generic enough not to turn anyone off.

What IS a turn off are things that make it sound like either (1) she is a fake, or (2) she is too serious about locking it down too quickly. A guy at that age very likely is recently divorced and is not looking for someone who is just looking for a long term partner.

Now young guys will just message anyway, hoping for a hook up. But age appropriate guys, who have to work for connections on apps, won't bother.