Why am I not getting any hits on apps

[Anonymous]

51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also noticed how OP included white.

Why?

OP, and see above, it’s bc women of color so often report specific issues related to looking for a partner of similar background.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 49, white, tall, thin, divorced with one kid and pretty with a good job, and the only hits I get are from guys in their 20s assuming I am easy. I am looking forward a LTR. Photos are good, mostly face shots with one full length fully clothed. Am I just too old?

I am 57 and hid myself when I got to 400 swipes on Tinder. Bumble cuts it off at 50, which I always have. And I’m fat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Often wonder why people "think" they are pretty. If you're pretty (and at age 49 you're "old" for most people in the dating pool, you'd know it. But, are you forgetting you are almost 50???

NP. Oh just STFU. You’ll be almost 50 too someday, if you’re lucky. But you’re unkind, which is worse than being old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be concerned what your profile says if all else is good and you’re actually attractive. Does it mention politics? Religion? Do you talk about certain physical characteristics you’re looking for in a man? For example: I like men taller than me (5’10”), fit/muscular, bearded, bleeding heart liberal, no triumpers, financially stable, able to travel all over the world whenever I feel like it. Etc etc. I avoid these people like the plague. 50 yr old single man here.

Not at all! Says my profession and interests. I am actually pretty quirky but tried to keep it mainstream not edgy. One of the questions was “who pays on the first date?” I wanted to answer “the 1%, of course” but deleted that prompt instead : ).

Why delete the prompt or keep your profile mainstream? My guess is people respond to profiles that pop, and your "1% response" shows a bit of personality and edge, which is almost necessary when looking at a flat screen. Not too many ways to show your third dimension if the profile is staid. Everyone likes art, the outdoors, travel, yadda yadda. Keep it interesting!

[Anonymous]

My guess is people respond to profiles that pop

Guys respond positively to photos that pop, and negatively to certain things the woman may write: politics, religion, etc. Do the one and don’t do the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

NP guy: maybe you’re over compensating on trying to be mainstream ? Clearly you need some input on the profile and pics. How about changing it up a bit every so often to see what ‘works ‘. But as someone else said you just need the ‘right one ‘

[Anonymous]

I bet your photos are NOT good. I made a profile set to make seeking female and screen shotted the first ten profiles fed to me. She was shocked when I sent them to her: professional-looking makeup and hair, professional-looking photos, lovely carefully-planned outfits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

This sounds like anyone. You have perhaps gone so mainstream that you seem like a poorly drawn character. I’d try being more personal and specific: literature but Nordic noir, not cultural outings but Bach chorales, not the outdoors but biking the crescent trail?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

This will come off as boring on an app. They’re really just for fun. Some people do find serious relationships on them, but they don’t tend to start out that way. I meet the younger guys for fun and date men who express interest when I’m out and about. I did end up dating one of those younger men for a year though, so you never know.

[Anonymous]

Are your pics professional? Are you too hot? Might be intimidating or seem too perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

This will come off as boring on an app. They’re really just for fun. Some people do find serious relationships on them, but they don’t tend to start out that way. I meet the younger guys for fun and date men who express interest when I’m out and about. I did end up dating one of those younger men for a year though, so you never know.

Don’t listen to this person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your pics professional? Are you too hot? Might be intimidating or seem too perfect.

Nope they are snapshots cropped and edited by me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are your pics professional? Are you too hot? Might be intimidating or seem too perfect.

Nope they are snapshots cropped and edited by me.

No selfies with silly expressions hopefully.