Why am I not getting any hits on apps

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Anonymous wrote:Are your pics professional? Are you too hot? Might be intimidating or seem too perfect.

Nope they are snapshots cropped and edited by me.

As I posted above, your “competition” almost certainly has better looking/more purposeful photos. Buy new outfits, do your hair and makeup, and take pics for this express purpose.

This is not necessary. I’m 46, my photos are selfies, and every right swipe I make is a match.

What app?

Bumble, OkCupid and Tinder

[Anonymous]

If OP wants a late-50s, divorced dad, tall, insatiable, and a PhD, I read this board most days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why apps? I’m 50, fit and very pretty. I get hit on in real life all of the time. If never do online dating. Never.

I assume you live in the DMV and not in some small isolated town. There are people everywhere.

Where and how,do,you get hit on?

[Anonymous]

I’m on Tinder, guy, divorced, 50s, Bethesda. Aged is no big deal, but being in good shape is ( I work very hard at it). Good shape, firm, women don’t work on muscle enough, can be thinner, but have flab. Not good shape compared to others, rather your best potential. You will get the attention.

Maybe a few glasses of wine and a once around with a twenty something not bad idea. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP wants a late-50s, divorced dad, tall, insatiable, and a PhD, I read this board most days.

I'm not this PP but that's also exactly me, and I'm on the apps right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t include that you’re divorced with a kid. When I had that on my profile, I got very few hits. Instead I waited until our first date to mention it, no problems after that.

Single man here: definitely mention your kid. As I am also divorced with a kid, I am looking for someone in a similar situation.

But neverput photos of your kids in your profile.

Do you look happy in your photos? I sometimes see profiles in which she looks sad in every single photo.

If you don't have a "full length" photo that shows you're not fat, you need that. Nothing but head shots = she's fat.

Guys will swipe based on looks but if you look good they will read your profile and it helps a lot to provide something I can use to start the conversation. Try to include something unique and interesting about you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, head is assumed fat, or very big hips.

MUST have full body pix.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why apps? I’m 50, fit and very pretty. I get hit on in real life all of the time. If never do online dating. Never.

I assume you live in the DMV and not in some small isolated town. There are people everywhere.

Where and how,do,you get hit on?

The gym, coffee shops, restaurants, the grocery store.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t include that you’re divorced with a kid. When I had that on my profile, I got very few hits. Instead I waited until our first date to mention it, no problems after that.

Single man here: definitely mention your kid. As I am also divorced with a kid, I am looking for someone in a similar situation.

But neverput photos of your kids in your profile.

Do you look happy in your photos? I sometimes see profiles in which she looks sad in every single photo.

If you don't have a "full length" photo that shows you're not fat, you need that. Nothing but head shots = she's fat.

Guys will swipe based on looks but if you look good they will read your profile and it helps a lot to provide something I can use to start the conversation. Try to include something unique and interesting about you.

No. You don't put pictures of or mention your kids in your profile to many weirdos who target that in profiles. You may be less of a target as a man, but for women iwith kids it's not a good idea. MEntion it on the first date.

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Anonymous wrote:Are your pics professional? Are you too hot? Might be intimidating or seem too perfect.

Nope they are snapshots cropped and edited by me.

As I posted above, your “competition” almost certainly has better looking/more purposeful photos. Buy new outfits, do your hair and makeup, and take pics for this express purpose.

This is not necessary. I’m 46, my photos are selfies, and every right swipe I make is a match.

What app?

Bumble, OkCupid and Tinder

I find it hard to believe you have no matches because most men swipe right on everyone and then sort through after they get a response

[Anonymous]

As I posted above, your “competition” almost certainly has better looking/more purposeful photos. Buy new outfits, do your hair and makeup, and take pics for this express purpose.

You might be surprised how many women’s profiles have bad, low-effort photos.

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

I’m a woman and I think this is a catfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also noticed how OP included white.

Why?

Why not? It is not like they can't see her picture.

[Anonymous]

Man here. You need:
- At least one full-body photo
- Mention you have kids, no photos of them. Otherwise men will think it's weird you're that age and didn't have any (i.e. what's wrong with you)
- Don't write too long of a profile, but not too short either
- Don't write too many "demands" in your profile -- comes off as high maintenance.

Feel free to post the text (modifed as you like) and we can give you advice.