Why am I not getting any hits on apps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. You need:
- At least one full-body photo
- Mention you have kids, no photos of them. Otherwise men will think it's weird you're that age and didn't have any (i.e. what's wrong with you)
- Don't write too long of a profile, but not too short either
- Don't write too many "demands" in your profile -- comes off as high maintenance.

Feel free to post the text (modifed as you like) and we can give you advice.

Whatever you don't take advice from this man! Yuck! You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has these many retrograde beliefs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

I am a woman…I think you are too thin. This can explain all of it.

She's technically underweight, and probably looks it in her photos, men probably think she has health issues or is older than she claims. Also if this is how she constructs her profile paragraph it sounds a bit generic but manic at the same time.

WTF is an interesting idea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Often wonder why people "think" they are pretty. If you're pretty (and at age 49 you're "old" for most people in the dating pool, you'd know it. But, are you forgetting you are almost 50???

Oh so are you implying that a woman almost fifty has zero chance of being considered “pretty??!”

Jennifer Lopez, Mariah Carey, Gwen Stefani, Heather Graham and more are over fifty and I am betting they look better than you even on your best day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

If that's what you have on your app, very little of it strikes me as fun. Enjoyable, perhaps, but not fun.

I’m a guy and with the exception of “current events” these all sound fun. Current events suck and have for a while.

[Anonymous]

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As I posted above, your “competition” almost certainly has better looking/more purposeful photos. Buy new outfits, do your hair and makeup, and take pics for this express purpose.

You might be surprised how many women’s profiles have bad, low-effort photos.

Very true. Lots of horrible photos with women in their 40s and 50s on the apps

[Anonymous]

Almost 50 I would never want to date. Of course I would enjoy the freedom and have many interests.

OP a lot of baggage at that age. You might want to think about what you have now versus all the problems with middle aged men.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to state the obvious here because maybe you don’t know - you need to swipe right on the men you like to start matching. I really hope you’re not that dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to state the obvious here because maybe you don’t know - you need to swipe right on the men you like to start matching. I really hope you’re not that dumb.

And to add on those apps you wouldn’t match with 20 something’s assuming you are easy unless you swiped right on them in the first place and never adjusted your preferences.

Troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:51 year young guy here… What do you look like? What do you like to do?

5ft9in, 118 lbs, brown/green and D, which is not included in my profile bc I am not looking for a hookup. I like interesting ideas, cultural outings, current events, the arts, music, literature, cooking/fine food, and the outdoors. Also dogs. I have an unbridled libido, for the right person (also not in my profile).

So far, sounds good to me. What do you do for fitness? Gym? Downtime? Morning or late night person?
Are you waiting to reveal those answers on the first date? If you want to catch a good fish, gotta have the right bait. Otherwise you won’t catch any or throwbacks.

[Anonymous]

I will give you one that bio that I thought was great, the best, funny, definitely got my attention, but you need to be bold:

“ 45 and on Tinder, yeah everything is going according to plan”.

She didn’t have her name, nothing else, but the photos were interesting, I thought it showed personality, was funny, I swiped right — and for somebody like her I usually get a match; nothing. She, had choices.

Want different results? Takes Bold…. Try on one app and see. Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to state the obvious here because maybe you don’t know - you need to swipe right on the men you like to start matching. I really hope you’re not that dumb.

And to add on those apps you wouldn’t match with 20 something’s assuming you are easy unless you swiped right on them in the first place and never adjusted your preferences.

Troll

Catfish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost 50 I would never want to date. Of course I would enjoy the freedom and have many interests.

OP a lot of baggage at that age. You might want to think about what you have now versus all the problems with middle aged men.

OP posted on a relationship forum; she wants a relationship. You don’t. Go be single someplace other than here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will give you one that bio that I thought was great, the best, funny, definitely got my attention, but you need to be bold:

“ 45 and on Tinder, yeah everything is going according to plan”.

She didn’t have her name, nothing else, but the photos were interesting, I thought it showed personality, was funny, I swiped right — and for somebody like her I usually get a match; nothing. She, had choices.

Want different results? Takes Bold…. Try on one app and see. Good Luck.

Genius

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will give you one that bio that I thought was great, the best, funny, definitely got my attention, but you need to be bold:

“ 45 and on Tinder, yeah everything is going according to plan”.

She didn’t have her name, nothing else, but the photos were interesting, I thought it showed personality, was funny, I swiped right — and for somebody like her I usually get a match; nothing. She, had choices.

Want different results? Takes Bold…. Try on one app and see. Good Luck.

Genius

Seen that line at least 50 times on the app.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t include that you’re divorced with a kid. When I had that on my profile, I got very few hits. Instead I waited until our first date to mention it, no problems after that.

I don’t. I even edited my kid out of the photos.

Honestly, that's the first thing everyone wants to know OP. Yes you should include your status in the profile. That way no one will waste time. I would also make it clear no hook ups, LTR only. And the age range should be around 45-55 if you're 49. Have a few more good photos of yourself as well.

You need to expand your age range to include older than 55. No matter how good you look.