Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?

[Anonymous]

And if you later later married and had children, do you regret it in any way?

[Anonymous]

Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

[Anonymous]

Focus on your husband and nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?

Here's your answer OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?

It doesn't matter how deteriorated the marriage is. The marriage still exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?

What about marriages that have not deteriorated?

[Anonymous]

I’m in my mid 30s, married, two kids.

When I was single I never thought anyone else’s relationship was any of my business. It’s really as simple as that. I didn’t think about it at all.

The only exception is after I had a threesome with a friend and her S/O he tried to start something on the side and I had to tell her. Which then ruined the friendship so it really just reinforced my belief that I should butt out of other people’s relationships.

[Anonymous]

I was the mistress that became the wife and what they did to them they’ll do to you !

[Anonymous]

Like attracts like. Sh!tty people are drawn to equally sh!tty people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like attracts like. Sh!tty people are drawn to equally sh!tty people.

Yep. THIS.

[Anonymous]

I think I'm about to become a mistress. Last time we met, he asked me repeatedly and I've thought a lot about it since. We've been friends for 6+ years although I've never met his wife. We don't talk about her or his home life at all.

I guess I'm playing out a cost / benefit analysis in my head, and the upside seems to be winning out? Maybe I'm just more European about these things. He's European, actually, so maybe that mentality has rubbed off on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I'm about to become a mistress. Last time we met, he asked me repeatedly and I've thought a lot about it since. We've been friends for 6+ years although I've never met his wife. We don't talk about her or his home life at all.

I guess I'm playing out a cost / benefit analysis in my head, and the upside seems to be winning out? Maybe I'm just more European about these things. He's European, actually, so maybe that mentality has rubbed off on me.

How old are you?

Do you want to get married and have kids someday? (Generally speaking - not necessarily with AP)

[Anonymous]

Your sh*tty marriage is not my problem.