Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?

[Anonymous]

Why is the woman accountable and why are we using the word « mistress »? If a man puts himself out there and she is willing to do it/ has no issues with him being married, why is she to blame?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

So, why would you hook your wagon to a pig, until death does you part?

[Anonymous]

Mistress is a far too pretty word. Call them what they are - hoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sh*tty marriage is not my problem.

How old are you?

(Once the affair comes to light it can very much become your problem. Just sayin. Be careful.)

[Anonymous]

I've had mistresses. They knew my situation, and they didn't mind. It was fun for them. Mine have all been in their 20s and they said the men they dated in that range were immature and boring. They said it was exciting and interesting to go out with me.

But who knows if they were being truthful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mistress is a far too pretty word. Call them what they are - hoes.

What do you call the married men? That term sounds too nice and respectable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

So, why would you hook your wagon to a pig, until death does you part?

Because he Lives a double life and some people don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had mistresses. They knew my situation, and they didn't mind. It was fun for them. Mine have all been in their 20s and they said the men they dated in that range were immature and boring. They said it was exciting and interesting to go out with me.

But who knows if they were being truthful.

How long did these relationships usually last?
Genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend 10+ years, who in our past before his marriage
We were intimate, he’s been married two years.

Has reached out possibly couple of times since then


I have always liked being with/around this person, but I know we are from two different worlds

I’m on the fence of being a full fledge “mistress”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've had mistresses. They knew my situation, and they didn't mind. It was fun for them. Mine have all been in their 20s and they said the men they dated in that range were immature and boring. They said it was exciting and interesting to go out with me.

But who knows if they were being truthful.

How long did these relationships usually last?
Genuinely curious.

Usually until they find someone to settle down with. I tell them no hard feelings if that happens, and I"m genuinely happy for them if it does. We both know what we have is not going to last forever, but we're both fine with having some fun.

My situation may not be typical in that they aren't where I live. I travel a lot for work, and so I see them 2-3x a year when I'm on travel in that city.

[Anonymous]

Because they are morally corrupt and selfish and want what they can’t have and could care less if there are children involved or how many lives they implode. The mistress is usually young and unmarried and the thrill of travel and gifts are enticing. Because they are missing a conscious and will rationalize their disgusting behavior. A mistress, who then becomes the new wife will always wear a scarlet letter and rot in hell.

[Anonymous]

I was a mistress once in my 20’s and the way I rationalized it is that I did not want to break up the marriage - I was just having fun. I’m happily married now with kids and he seems happily married as well (FB). I think be went through a rough patch with his life when his children were young and that is when we were seeing each other. No idea if he is faithful now. But again, I didn’t and don’t feel guilty because it was relatively brief and I wasn’t breaking up a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

So, why would you hook your wagon to a pig, until death does you part?

Mine ended up with PTSD. I left him after the affair and then he killed hkmself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are morally corrupt and selfish and want what they can’t have and could care less if there are children involved or how many lives they implode. The mistress is usually young and unmarried and the thrill of travel and gifts are enticing. Because they are missing a conscious and will rationalize their disgusting behavior. A mistress, who then becomes the new wife will always wear a scarlet letter and rot in hell.

I don’t know how a mistress sleeps at night. The pain children feel is forever. Single men can buy you expensive gifts and travel too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And if you later later married and had children, do you regret it in any way?

I've slept with a few married men in my twenties. I never thought of it as dating, and we were both just having fun. They never contemplated leaving their families for me, and I never thought that they would, or wanted them to. It was just a phase.

I got married in my thirties. I'm now near fifty, still married, with three kids. I don't regret it any more than anything else, I very rarely think about it.