Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I blame the mistress because they use their youth and vitality to intoxicate the married man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis - is this all there-is, oh look, a younger women is after me - I still got it, mentality; then falls prey to her Venus fly trap.

Ah, the melodrama...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I blame the mistress because they use their youth and vitality to intoxicate the married man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis - is this all there-is, oh look, a younger women is after me - I still got it, mentality; then falls prey to her Venus fly trap.

Hahahahaha (NP)

I agree. This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

Not all of them. Your shitty marriage isn’t a reflection on all men.

Not all marriages with infidelity are shitty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I blame the mistress because they use their youth and vitality to intoxicate the married man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis - is this all there-is, oh look, a younger women is after me - I still got it, mentality; then falls prey to her Venus fly trap.

Hahahahaha (NP)

I agree. This is ridiculous.

Signed the mistress.

[Anonymous]

With my exDH, his mistress was older. She used her “I need to be saved” drama to lure my husband who loves that sort of thing. I was checked out succeeding in my career and supporting our family. He needed to feel important. I take blame but in the end, they were the shitty people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

Not all of them. Your shitty marriage isn’t a reflection on all men.

Not all marriages with infidelity are shitty.

Sure, your marriage was blissful and idyllic. Except for the part where he was balls deep in another woman a couple times a week.

[Anonymous]

Why are you assuming the mistress is single? My spouse's mistress was also married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I blame the mistress because they use their youth and vitality to intoxicate the married man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis - is this all there-is, oh look, a younger women is after me - I still got it, mentality; then falls prey to her Venus fly trap.

Hahahahaha (NP)

I agree. This is ridiculous.

Signed the mistress.

No, basically you are giving your husband no agency in the affair whatsoever in blaming the young hot thing. Dump his ass already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are morally corrupt and selfish and want what they can’t have and could care less if there are children involved or how many lives they implode. The mistress is usually young and unmarried and the thrill of travel and gifts are enticing. Because they are missing a conscious and will rationalize their disgusting behavior. A mistress, who then becomes the new wife will always wear a scarlet letter and rot in hell.

None of this happens. Wake up. People f***, then they go f*** other people. There is no scarlett letter or hell and all that.

[Anonymous]

Do you have to make yourself hate the wife to go through with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I blame the mistress because they use their youth and vitality to intoxicate the married man who is probably going through a mid-life crisis - is this all there-is, oh look, a younger women is after me - I still got it, mentality; then falls prey to her Venus fly trap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?

What about marriages that have not deteriorated?

It has.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Scorned and bitter isn’t an attractive look, OP.

I’m not OP but neither is desperate and whorish.

He was the desperate one, not me.

This was also my experience. And I agree that the crap marriage is way more likely to have a detrimental effect on the kids than an affair they likely don’t know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?

We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.

Not all of them. Your shitty marriage isn’t a reflection on all men.

Not all marriages with infidelity are shitty.

Sure, your marriage was blissful and idyllic. Except for the part where he was balls deep in another woman a couple times a week.

Haha sex has nothing to with emotions.

It’s like doing shots with friends... it’s just something fun to do at a conference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are morally corrupt and selfish and want what they can’t have and could care less if there are children involved or how many lives they implode. The mistress is usually young and unmarried and the thrill of travel and gifts are enticing. Because they are missing a conscious and will rationalize their disgusting behavior. A mistress, who then becomes the new wife will always wear a scarlet letter and rot in hell.

None of this happens. Wake up. People f***, then they go f*** other people. There is no scarlett letter or hell and all that.

+1. There’s a bitter crazypants on here. Sorry you got cheated on, but direct your vitriol toward your husband, not the person who never promised to love and cherish you.