Allowing kids to disrespect furniture?
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Anonymous
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So I’m at my cousin’s house. She has two little ones, 5 and 3. These kids are allowed to jump on the couch, jump onto it by scaling the back. They’ll go from a trot on the floor, up, and into a trot along the couch cushions. Not once has my cousin told them to stop, and yes, she witnesses it happening.
What’s up with parents who allow their kids disrespect furniture? It makes me feel older than 36, but I’m appalled! I’d never let my kids do this, nor would they even try to do this. |
Anonymous
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Because maybe she's okay with it? She values her children being able to play and be active, over sitting quietly like "nice little children".
They're children! It's only furniture! |
Anonymous
Should they be able to draw on the walls? It’s fun, and it’s “only paint”! It’s fun to watch LEGO’s swirl down the toilet, after all, it’s “only a toilet”! Where do you draw the line on fun and respecting your things? |
Anonymous
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Maybe she knows you're a judgmental B. She was probably worried that if she stopped them, you'd judge her for being a grinch or no fun or anal retentive, etc., etc.
No one can win around people like you. Instead of being a perpetual guest and criticizing your host, maybe bestir yourself to go through the trouble and expense of hosting sometime. |
Anonymous
Everyone can draw their own lines. You can’t respect or disrespect things, only their owners. It would be disrespectful (of you) to allow her kids to do it in your house, but in hers it’s fine. I allow my kid to bounce his ball in the house, which many parents wouldn’t, and either rule is fine. |
Anonymous
| We have a giant sectional in our family room and my 6 and 4 year old often climb all over it. They are pretty good about stopping when I tell them to but it’s the family room and I’m not going to get all bent out of shape about it. I worry about them getting hurt, not about disrespecting the furniture. They never do it in the living room. My guess is that OP doesn’t have kids! |
Anonymous
They draw the line at the things they don't want destroyed. I think letting your kids run amok is not a good thing, but a lot of people write off their furniture during the early years because it will get destroyed. |
Anonymous
I love the posts where mean people project their own scenarios onto an OP. I think OP's comments are valid. People have different rules. |
Anonymous
Or if she has kids they will end up being anal retentive. |
Anonymous
No shit Sherlock. That’s why OP should move on or find somewhere else to stay if it bothers her |
Anonymous
| Does OP have kids? |
Anonymous
| Inanimate objects don’t feel disrespect. OP finds this to be disrespectful but that’s on her. Different countries, cultures, families have different expectations of respect. It’s not anything like coloring on the walls because that does permanent damage. Jumping on the couch is much more normal to me, and is in fact why IKEA couches were invented. |
Anonymous
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People have their own set of rules in their own homes and chose to be focus or not focus on certain things as they please. It’s not for you to judge or try to “understand” where the line is to be drawn.
I for one never understood the wording “respecting furniture”. In my house, my kids are not allowed to jump on the couches. But that is the rule. They were expected to follow the rule. Period. They respect US, and therefore followed the rules. They never respected the couch. That’s stupid. The couch is a thing. We don’t respect things. Now that my kids are older they understand they have to take care of things because they cost money and someone has to work hard to get them. And therefore they have to respect the person who is working and not treat things as disposable pieces of garbage. Again, they respect the person, not the thing. |
Anonymous
You sound fun! |
Anonymous
| Get back to us when you have kids. |