Allowing kids to disrespect furniture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because maybe she's okay with it? She values her children being able to play and be active, over sitting quietly like "nice little children".

They're children! It's only furniture!

Should they be able to draw on the walls? It’s fun, and it’s “only paint”!

It’s fun to watch LEGO’s swirl down the toilet, after all, it’s “only a toilet”!

Where do you draw the line on fun and respecting your things?

Maybe because normal can have reasonable boundaries?

I do not care if my kids climb the couch... It’s a couch. My house is not a museum. However they do know not to draw on the walls - however I did make a HUGE chalkboard wall in the kitchen that they can draw to their heart’s content! (Again, my house is not a museum.) My kids know the only things allowed in the toilet are poop, pee and toilet paper - we’ve never had issues with kids flushing toys down the toilet.

If your kids can’t understand simple limits, you should talk to your pediatrician... And if you, as an adult have a hard time understanding that just because jumping on the couch is okay - that doesn’t mean there are zero rules - you need to make an appointment with a therapist. Maybe you have undiagnosed autism? Or something else is going on, get help.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

[Anonymous]

I’m not getting where walking on couch cushions damages the couch.

[Anonymous]

People keep saying “get back to us when you have kids!” but weren’t we all kids at one time? I never did this to my parents’ furniture as a kid. Y’all were jumping all over your furniture growing up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

I’m 52. I think I’m ok. But thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

I’m 52. I think I’m ok. But thanks.

You’re kinda proving her point...

[Anonymous]

I don’t worry about the damn furniture, I worry that one of my kids will jump and fly off the couch and crack their head on a table. I do my best to keep them from jumping on the couch but 3 and 5 year old kids are 3 and 5 year old kids. You do your best to restrain them but when awake they have the energy of a small nuke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

I’m 52. I think I’m ok. But thanks.

You’re kinda proving her point...

You think 52 years olds take naps and need meds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

I’m 52. I think I’m ok. But thanks.

You’re kinda proving her point...

You think 52 years olds take naps and need meds?

I think a 52 year old with PPs attitude does! (A nap at a minimum.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People keep saying “get back to us when you have kids!” but weren’t we all kids at one time? I never did this to my parents’ furniture as a kid. Y’all were jumping all over your furniture growing up?

And I bet you never built a fort out of couch cushions and blankets either? Because that would be disrespectful?

[Anonymous]

In her own house, it is ok. People use old furniture etc so that they can get rid of it later once the kids are older. In our own house, we had a huge area designated the "play room". The kids could make whatever mess they wanted there.

[Anonymous]

Wonder if they do this in libraries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder if they do this in libraries.

What a comparison

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder if they do this in libraries.

Of course they do. These are the kids that are nightmares in restaurants, at play dates, in stores, etc. It’s not their fault. It’s simply the result of poor parenting.