Allowing kids to disrespect furniture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have their own set of rules in their own homes and chose to be focus or not focus on certain things as they please. It’s not for you to judge or try to “understand” where the line is to be drawn.

I for one never understood the wording “respecting furniture”. In my house, my kids are not allowed to jump on the couches. But that is the rule. They were expected to follow the rule. Period. They respect US, and therefore followed the rules. They never respected the couch. That’s stupid. The couch is a thing. We don’t respect things. Now that my kids are older they understand they have to take care of things because they cost money and someone has to work hard to get them. And therefore they have to respect the person who is working and not treat things as disposable pieces of garbage. Again, they respect the person, not the thing.

You sound fun!

Oh yeah, respect the couch police is sure the riot crowd!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder if they do this in libraries.

Right, because I sleep in my own bed at home... which means I sleep on any soft surface in the library too. ?!

[Anonymous]

Funny, my BIL got mad because I let his child jump from one couch to the other.

I said, " my house my rules" which is something he said to me.

[Anonymous]

I'm 27 and would never allow my child to do that. That's what playgrounds and tumbling classes are for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People keep saying “get back to us when you have kids!” but weren’t we all kids at one time? I never did this to my parents’ furniture as a kid. Y’all were jumping all over your furniture growing up?

Liberal

I do things on my couch you don't want to think about... Somewhat acrobatic.

[Anonymous]

We have a big sectional in the family room and the kids jump on it sometimes. They know they can’t jump on other furniture. Most kids are bright enough to learn that there are different rules for different places or types of furniture. Not sure why you’re so worried about my sectional?

[Anonymous]

Once they are five and three, the couch has been peed on so many times that a few jumps up and down are not going to hurt it.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think jumping on furniture in your own home is ok depending on the parents rules. Kids are cooped up during the cold months and no jumping at all is not something I'd want to enforce.

However, I'd never let them jump on anyone else's furniture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once they are five and three, the couch has been peed on so many times that a few jumps up and down are not going to hurt it.

+1

So true! Haha

We had a happy spitter as well so our couch has been through way worse than jumping! If it was going to feel disrespected, we crossed that bridge a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think jumping on furniture in your own home is ok depending on the parents rules. Kids are cooped up during the cold months and no jumping at all is not something I'd want to enforce.

However, I'd never let them jump on anyone else's furniture.

Exactly. Now, if they were causing a ruckus at your home, in a restaurant, or whatever that would be a different thing. However, it's ok to wince or disapprove, just keep it to yourself when you're at your cousin's house, and don't badmouth the parents when you're around other people they know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People keep saying “get back to us when you have kids!” but weren’t we all kids at one time? I never did this to my parents’ furniture as a kid. Y’all were jumping all over your furniture growing up?

And I bet you never built a fort out of couch cushions and blankets either? Because that would be disrespectful?

I didn’t. We didn’t do any of that. My parents’ furniture was not a playground for me. This thread explains so much about kids acting the GD fool all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wonder if they do this in libraries.

Of course they do. These are the kids that are nightmares in restaurants, at play dates, in stores, etc. It’s not their fault. It’s simply the result of poor parenting.

Exactly. I managed to have lots of fun as a kid without jumping all over the furniture.

[Anonymous]

This is white people stuff isn’t it? Asians y’all doing this?

[Anonymous]

Meh. My house my furniture my rules.
My 4 year old knows she can't jump on the living room couch but she can dowhatever to the basement couch and the loveseat in her room. She manages not to jump on my parents or my inlaws furniture unless they specifically tell her to. My mom has a great fort building couch in her basement and indulges my dd in that when we come over.
If we are visiting someone on a play date she asks me or the host if she can climb on things first.
She's also never peed on any couches and we have beautiful Persian rugs in great condition all over our house.

[Anonymous]

I don’t let my kids jump on the couch because they will likely fall off and crack their heads on the coffee table. I’m pretty lax though and let them get away with some times as long as they aren’t getting too rambunctious. I have boys.